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Dangers of being Divorced

Being divorced is like being hit by a Mack truck. If you live through it, you start looking very carefully to the right and to the left.
Jean Kerr

You have to keep those eyes open you never know when that next Mack truck will hit. Just be wary... if you make it through the divorce. Now.... I do not believe in divorce so this would be even more of a mess.

6 blog comments below

Hi, if you don't believe in divorce, I'm curious about your opinion on lets say a wife in a physically and emotionally abusive marriage? Should they suffer "til death do us part" or be allowed to escape the violence and rebuild her life?
watersoul on Mon Jul 16, 2012 6:38 pm
Ok. I do not believe in the modern definition of divorce. If someone is in a marriage that has devolved into an abusive situation then by all means get the heck out of there. In situations like that of course I believe in divorce, I also believe in making the person abusing the other learn from their past and correct their abusive habits/ tendencies/ ideologies. If a marriage devolves into an abusive relationship, in my opinion the marriage is over. Null and void. Terminated. Marriage is not something you give your life over. It is a relationship built out of love. True love for one another. Not a moment of desire but true love. Love that will last till the end of time. I admit there are times when a marriage needs to officially ended but I do not like seeing divorce because it is the convenient thing to do. I think couples divorce nowadays, due to convenience, more than they should. Arguments, disagreements, are not grounds for a divorce. Abuse on the other hand is a huge difference and I view those marriages as having been already ended. You can call it a divorce but in reality is much much more it is an escape.
pauline123 on Mon Jul 16, 2012 7:51 pm
Sometimes love just fades away, for no other reason than the people who'd fallen in love change. Nothing lasts forever, and that includes love. The love you have when you get married is not the same love you have years later... sometimes the love that it becomes is still positive, sometimes it's not. If a relationship has come to its end, it's come to its end, ya know?? There's a point at which a marriage may be being maintained simply to maintain it, not out of love... I think divorce is appropriate when you're maintaining a relationship JUST because there was a marriage involved.
Ankhanu on Mon Jul 16, 2012 8:29 pm
i think most people married, did it thinking that is for forever.

the divorce is not easy thing, i have my audience to a judge las week, we are divorcing in the easy way, just want to disolve the union because is not posible to us live together for some reasons about what famlily is and another issues, but is hard.

in my case i still love her, but thats no the whole history in a marriage, there is a lot of things thay drive us to the actual situation, and i am pretty sure is more hare for her.
mazito on Mon Jul 16, 2012 8:55 pm
Why not wait a few years and maybe have some kids (Not to recommend due to overpopulation) before getting married? If you still love each other and both of you want to get married there is much bigger chance that you have found something that is going to last.
Peterssidan on Mon Jul 16, 2012 9:13 pm
Peterssidan, you might have a valid point. At least a solid one. Isn't it supposed to be the other way around? Marriage then kids? However, my future spouse and I have talked about adoption several times. That at least would benefit someone who does not currently have a family.

P.S. I am not feeling well at all, writing this so if I come off cranky, upset, or anything else it may be that I am just not up to speed at the moment.
pauline123 on Wed Jul 18, 2012 5:19 pm

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