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Fun while it lasted

So as you may have seen from my past blogs I got involved in a long distance relationship with a girl I had known since I was 16. She lived in Kingston Ontario which is about a two hour drive and we alternated weekends to visit each other. I actually liked getting away from Peterborough and having somewhere to go occasionally. However after about 3 months of dating now it has gotten to be a stressful time as we just seem to bicker and fight now over the stupidest things. We both agree it is probably due to the stress of a long distance thing and we always text each other and say how "next weekend" will be better. However usually a silly disagreement comes up and ruins the whole thing.

I like her very much and she has always liked me since we were in our teens. It is a shame it has gotten to this and I really sadly do not see it going on any longer. Very sad as I now wish we did not cross the friend line. Well the next few days will probably make or break us. Maybe it is just a rough patch? but it is a bit too early for one of those already.

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Do you think the 'long distance' is the really problem or something deeper?
standready on Wed Apr 10, 2013 9:49 pm
standready wrote:
Do you think the 'long distance' is the really problem or something deeper?

Based on some of your other blog posts, I've really got the same question. Might be time to take an introspective look... I wouldn't recommend asking your friends for help though Wink
Ankhanu on Wed Apr 10, 2013 9:56 pm
Maybe it is just a rough patch?

Probably yeah, but all the more difficult to fix when you have to drive for hours to see each other.
I won't offer any advice just my own thoughts regarding my own life:
If a girl is too far away to catch a taxi to after a text on a silly Saturday night then we can never have a functioning relationship that I wanna chase.
watersoul on Wed Apr 10, 2013 10:13 pm
Very valid points and they are all something I was very afraid of. Well she is coming up my way this evening and I will see how that goes.
TheLimey on Thu Apr 11, 2013 1:57 pm
She also dropped the big "Love" bomb a bit early too. And told me about expectations she had with us because she had liked me for so long. So I think because we do not meet those expectations right now, it makes it harder.
TheLimey on Thu Apr 11, 2013 1:58 pm
I bumped into a female friend of mine this week who had a new baby last month. Her partner lives in Northern Ireland while she lives here on the SW coast of England. They've been together for a couple of years, but he can't move to the mainland as he is the sole relative available who cares for his disabled mother. Big challenges for them because of the new baby but she won't move to Belfast because she runs a successful business here, so instead she travels there for a week each month.

I asked her how she feels about it and if it is really hard for them, but she laughed and said that it's one of the most stable relationships she's ever had because every time they see each other it is like the first week of a new relationship - they don't spend so much time together that it becomes stale where they take each other for granted.

Unusual of course, but an example where long distance can work if the love is there to make it so.

Whatever though, good luck this evening fella Wink
watersoul on Thu Apr 11, 2013 7:29 pm
Thank you for the story watersoul Smile This weekend went better than imagined!!! it was amazing and she is heading down this Saturday Smile
TheLimey on Mon Apr 15, 2013 1:43 pm

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