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I hit up the store to pick up a few things before heading home. I've been stopping by the book section (very tiny, only a handful of books and they tend to rotate often). I saw this book simply title YOU and of course the authors name Caroline Kepnes.

I read the back. I think it will be little predictable but I think I'm looking for a thrill. I'm looking to be a little frightened.

Heck if I rethink my online presence in this World that can only be a good thing.


Basically an eyeopener by the sounds of it. Someone sees you name and they, for whatever reason, are curious and want to know more. So they turn to the internet, specifically Google, and look you up.

From there, depending on how common or unique your name is, who knows what they'll find out. They might be able to track down the accounts you have over numerous sites (social media to interest groups).

Facebook and Twitter are a window into your life.

LinkedIn is just another window into your professional world.

Who knows what other sites are out there. Maybe they'll find your tag on other sites and forums to see what you like to talk about, what you're passionate about.

Can they find out where you live? Will they show up at events you're attending? Will they try to visit you at work?

Certainly makes one think "Have I put too much of myself out there?"

I'm quite sure I have. It would just be interesting to figure out how to pull that all back. Pull the curtain on this show.

Of course I'd like to meet the person that might try to steal my life (along the lines of identity theft). If it was for money or something else.

I'd also be curious about the mind of a stalker. That obsession. How they read into things that aren't there. TV shows and movies have touched on it, loosely.

Anyways. I'm not sure when I'll get to this book. Maybe sooner than I think. Maybe tonight. I'm running out of TV shows to watch!

9 blog comments below

Read the synopsis of the book. Sounds interesting. Can't wait to hear what you think of the book.
I keep a rather low profile online.
standready on Mon Oct 26, 2015 2:02 am
I'm only up to chapter 5. They're short chapters. Apparently 3 months have passed. I don't know if the book changes perspective but right now we're viewing events from the stalker's point of view. He makes a lot of vulgar comments in his head.

On the second page there's the line "You sneeze, loudly, and I image how loud you are when you climax."

Immediately I'm wonder what the heck I've gotten myself into!

This is a little more in your face than I was hoping for... I was hoping for a little more subtly. Something a bit darker and sinister. This guy strikes me as predictable and simple in what he wants and how he's going about it.

We'll see how the next couple chapters play out.
TheGremlyn on Mon Oct 26, 2015 5:43 pm
One thing I have noticed is the information doesn't remain accessible forever on the Internet. There is a time element attached, so maybe if nothing else is posted there may be less and less about you so that by 10-15 years from now there will be no more search results coming up. Could be information overload and Google filtering out dated information that hasn't been visited in X period of time.
deanhills on Mon Oct 26, 2015 9:17 pm
In to chapter 20.

Oddly enough I'm almost rooting for the bad guy. This is weird. He's already killed someone and he's hinted that he's done it before...

I mean, when he's actually with this girl he says and acts like a really good guy, someone you might actually want to date. When you're reading the book you're hearing his thoughts and they're not so pure and sometimes a little disturbing. You also know that he's saying things he knows she really wants to hear because he's read up on her online and has seen her interactions and personal, private thoughts.

Then you start to understand the girl a bit better and her life. You start to see the people she hangs out with and realize they're not the greatest influence on her life. One girl is actually obsessed with her and is intentionally intervening to break the girl away from this guy. She pretends her penthouse has been broken into and she's scared. She pretends to have some illness too and gets sick and needs her help and comfort.

This is interesting. I'm not yet halfway through but perhaps by the time I get to work I will be... or after my lunch. The chapters are short and they're major cliffhangers are the end so I'm surprised I got to bed before midnight.
TheGremlyn on Tue Oct 27, 2015 1:20 pm
It sounds like a interesting book.
Put it into my todo list.
rx9876 on Wed Oct 28, 2015 3:31 am
Finished the book this morning. Whenever I get home I'll speak more on how the other half of the book went.
TheGremlyn on Wed Oct 28, 2015 10:32 pm
So it wasn't a terrible book.

I don't think I liked this book. I was thinking about it last night and I'm just disappointed by it. I did want to see how it ended up so I powered through it.

I was really looking for a dark, psychological thriller.

While the stalker in this book did an adequate job following the girl he wanted I felt he was all over the place emotionally. The book starts out and he's fairly neutral. Then he meets this girl and he starts getting excited. Usually something happens and he gets either angry or sad and then the next time he levels off again. The entire book is like this...

Most of the major players in this book are all kinds of messed up. It made it really hard to figure out who I was rooting for... I would have preferred if the stalker was mostly the only one with issues. The target is the one trying to lead a good, honest and successful life. The stalker would be the one to twist and warp the world around her.

I was also disappointed that the stalker was really only interested in sex. He really just wanted to be with her for that.

In the sort of story I was looking for I just wanted someone who went beyond those. It might be part of it but I see the stalker character was someone who just starts to take control of your life.

In the book the stalker would take things from this girl but she never really seemed to notice or care. The stalker took things that... he wanted but things that were not necessarily treasured by the girl. I would think a stalker would try to remove things that might be important to the person and could be easily missed but... somehow their absence is noticed and the more things that go missing the scarier things get.

Anyways, those are my 2 cents...
TheGremlyn on Thu Oct 29, 2015 7:08 pm
I ended up reading about the different kinds of stalkers. There are a few that try to describe specific behaviors common with each time.

There's the Rejected Stalker, the Resentful Stalker, the Predatory Stalker, the Intimacy Seeker, the Incompetent Suitor, and the Erotomania and Morbidly Infatuated.

These two sites give an overview, highlighting their motivation, personality, stalking behaviours and how long they tend to stalk for and how they react when confronted with legal action.

University of Michigan - Types of Stalkers

Stalker Risk Profile - Types of Stalkers

In trying to read these and other articles online I was trying to understand the kind of stalker Joe is from the book.

With the way he is out for sex I would think he has some traits of the Predatory Stalker. The victim in this case is a stranger to him. Just a girl that walked into the bookstore. For the most part Joe thinks that he's going some good when he kills certain people. When he tries to get into her life that he's there to protect her. He does cover some of the bases of a Predatory Stalker as he does watch the girl's house for some time and followers her and key players around, but never really interacting. I'm not sure about the rest...

Joe also sounds a bit like the Intimacy Seeker. He wants this romantic and loving relationship sometimes... when he doesn't want sex. On and off throughout the book he does believe this girl loves him in some way. She might not immediately tell her friends about him because that's how much she loves him. Much later in the book when he seems to be in a relationship with someone else he can't stop thinking about his primary target, that she is the only one for him. Joe would also be a fairly shy and isolated person. He lives alone. He doesn't hang out with anyone. When it's clear that he's being rejected... he does... you know... get violent and stuff...

What I don't get, and what is not really covered, is all the stuff he's taken. I guess it's obviously part of the stalking process. He basically makes a shrine. Do all stalkers do that? Or just some?
TheGremlyn on Sun Nov 01, 2015 6:34 pm
I don't think all stalkers create shrines. More like they become obsessively focused on one person, either in the positive or the negative. Negative meaning they want to do that person harm consciously, they have a grievance about their subject. Positive, they are completely over their head into their subject, to the point where it gets to become self-destructive and they lose their minds in an imaginary world, and they can't stop themselves.
deanhills on Sun Nov 01, 2015 7:30 pm

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