My sister stopped by today mostly because I needed more pig shavings and there was a paper I had to sign for my taxes. She vented a bit about her day and past week. My brother is being a bit of an ass because he has a lot of guilt about mom dying and how he kept himself away for about 10 years. He knows it's his fault and his way of dealing with this is to make my sister feel like crap by blaming her for everything and saying it's her fault. If he tried that with me I'd be inclined to slap him or bitch back at him and give him a piece of my mind. Anyways, after that my sister pulled up her email and showed me the response she got from my mom's pen pal from England.
Her name is Karen and my mom and Karen started writing each other when they were 9 years old and I think they kept it up until maybe 2008 or something. Karen had said she continued to try and send letters but she never got a reply and she'd contacted the postal service for our tiny town but she couldn't figure out what had happened to the letters she sent. All the time I was at home or whenever I visited I never say any mail from from England and I'm sure mom wouldn't ignore them and dad wouldn't sabotage this. Well one day Karen decided to Google mom in early March and that's when she saw her in the obituaries.
She was in shock and couldn't believe what she had seen and she called up her sister to tell her about mom. In the email Karen mentioned that she had kept all the letters mom had written and all the photos they had sent to each other. Karen even has a piece of fabric from a dress my mom was working on when she was still young, at home and in school. Reading over these parts kind of made me pretty sad. Then I read the words that Karen wrote about how she said mom changed her life she was such a kind and wonderful person. I seem to hear that a lot and I believe it. It kind of raises the bar because I want to be as great as her and maybe make that difference in someones life.
After I read the email my sister said it makes her want to go to England and meet Karen and read these letters and talk about mom. I'd be content with just getting scans of the letters, but if I could hold that paper in my hands and read those words, feel the indentation the pen made in the paper... I'd feel a bit closer to mom, touching something she touched... Maybe I'd hear her voice in my head as I read those words...
Maybe I'll see about touching base with Karen, maybe I could get scans of the letters or at least talk about her memories of mom, and mine. When Karen came over here to visit mom I was about a year old. I don't even know what she looks like. I'm sure mom would have said something about us, but maybe Karen would be interested to see what kind of kids her pen pal raised.
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It is sad when you lose contact with penpals or even online friends. This is why it is better to find other ways to contact penpals such as through Facebook. Trying to meet each other should also be done as quickly as possible might also be a good idea to prevent losing contact.
twotrophy on Mon Apr 15, 2013 8:41 am
A great story TG. Almost one you could write a book about one day, consisting of your mom's biography maybe. Can just imagine you starting with this story as the prologue.
deanhills on Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:42 am
Very good friend Someone who hadn't forgotten her friend even after all these years. You guys should keep in touch with her if possible. Maybe One day you will able to visit her and look at all these letters and stuff your mom sent to her.
dude_xyx on Mon Apr 15, 2013 6:46 pm
Fantastic L! Maybe if you can't travel to England, perhaps you, your sister and Karen could Skype or something. I bet Karen has some good stories for you.
standready on Tue Apr 16, 2013 12:09 am