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So He Was Cheating

It was either the weekend he broke up with me or the weekend after that he disappeared to Kingston. Never told me why but he was certainly dressed up for it. I came back after he had left and he wasn't wearing his normal shoes, he was wearing dress shoes. On top of that I found a bag for a pretty fancy store where he'd bought some nice sweater and shirt. So he got all dressed up for something, but now it appears it was for someone.

So they make it official now that they're a thing. I get that he had checked out of the relationship with me but really? A handful of days and he's with another girl. From Kingston. That's quite the drive away and makes me wonder how he knew about her, who introduced him to her and how long they'd be talking and shit.

So I've been cheated on. The same thing that other girls have done to him and he does it to me. That's just brilliant. Use me so you can get your bloody revenge and feel better about yourself, as if to say to all those girls "Yea, that's right. I can do it to".

He was nothing but lies when he was trying to let me down in the breakup. Saying he still liked me and that he'd like to be friends. Just a bunch of bald faced lies. He got what he could from me, now he's moved on.

And here I am, I'm just letting him destroy me from afar. Everything he does affects me because I let it. I hate this person I've become. I want to be over this now and have control over myself. I don't want others to affect me like this, ever! But the road to being healed and myself again seems to long and my destination is but a speck in the horizon. My whole world just wants to crumble around me...

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L, Don't let his actions even remotely destroy you. You are a far better person than he is and will hopefully come away this bad experience an even better person. He is scum. You are not! Better days are ahead of you.
standready on Sun Jan 20, 2013 8:56 pm
If he broke up with you first, it's not cheating.
That said, the timing of moving on to another is way too soon to be kosher, and that just makes him a douche.

Anger at this is pretty natural; it is a pretty shitty thing to do… but you can't let it break you. It's going to take some time and effort to get over the whole situation, but you'll make it. I suggest plain breaking off communication for a while so that you can heal.

When he told you he'd like to be friends, it could have been a "let her down easy" thing, or he could have meant it… but, from my experience, it can't work in the short term. Both parties need to move on and heal before "friends" can be a thing. It may also be that in healing and moving on, friends is no longer something desirable. Time will tell.
Ankhanu on Sun Jan 20, 2013 10:41 pm
Can't help but think that this guy must have felt really guilty towards the end though. I'm sure he is not the only guy or gal who have been caught in a situation like this, one foot in and one foot not quite out yet. Shit happens in relationships, but yes, then honesty is at its most importance and this guy probably didn't have the strength of character and integrity to be open and honest with you at the point when he should have been!
deanhills on Mon Jan 21, 2013 8:38 am

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