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Men and women, who cheats more...




We hear every now and then that someone has cheated on another in a relationship, my my take is that most of the time, do men or women do the cheating? What is your opinion?



7 blog comments below

This isn't really an 'opinion' thing, but good luck finding any honest statistics ...
Nameless on Mon Nov 21, 2011 4:15 pm
I think it really is pretty equal on cheating.
standready on Tue Nov 22, 2011 1:27 am
I would imagine its 50/50 though to listen to women you would think it was 90/10 against men.
truespeed on Tue Nov 22, 2011 4:45 am
Well a friend once said that men are percieved to cheat a lot because they don't know how to be discrete and as women pay more attention to some things about their men they always end up catching them, thanks to the magic suspision. Women on the other hand can be very discrete whereas men don't really pay attention hence they can not catch them, so the general opinion is that men cheat the mos.
Greatking on Tue Dec 06, 2011 9:55 am
Greatking wrote:
Well a friend once said that men are percieved to cheat a lot because they don't know how to be discrete and as women pay more attention to some things about their men they always end up catching them, thanks to the magic suspision. Women on the other hand can be very discrete whereas men don't really pay attention hence they can not catch them, so the general opinion is that men cheat the mos.

I like how you use a sexist perception to explain another sexist perception.
Nameless on Tue Dec 06, 2011 4:09 pm
I'd also say it is 50/50. I like Nameless's comment about "good luck with finding honest statistics". Cheating by nature is dishonest. So it could come down to who is more dishonest. I'd say it's a universal frailty. Which is quite human, tragic, dramatic and maybe even the stuff of life.
deanhills on Tue Dec 06, 2011 6:49 pm
Aye, "cheating" is a pretty universal trait in vertebrates that form pairs, but, males and females cheat for different (biological) reasons based on differing reproductive strategies.

Males, in general, seek to procreate as often as possible, with as many partners as possible. Sperm is a fairly cheap resource to create, so we don't have to be as choosy as females in mate selection (hence, more often than not, females choose from competing males, rather than the other way around), we can expend it and make more at little cost. The more partners we have, the more offspring we're likely to produce, increasing our biological fitness.

Females, by contrast, have much more at stake in the reproductive game. Eggs are expensive to produce, then rearing of the offspring is also resource intensive; it's a big investment. With the investment in mind, they want to produce the best offspring possible by mating with the best male possible. In species where males participate in child rearing (such as ours), the strongest alpha males aren't always the best parent/provider types, so females will take a lower status long term provider as a "mate" and have extra-pair copulations with more attractive males to produce strong young. The lower status male is none the wiser and may well be raising someone else's children at their own expense, believing that they are his. It's a gambit we males play, hoping that that children that we raise are, in fact, ours.

These cost/benefit sort of details are happening behind the scenes, of course... men and women aren't thinking about these factors when they're cheating on their significant other, they're just playing on their drives, no thought about resource costs or what have you. But, the point is, both men and women cheat, the reasons might be different, but, both employ the strategy, even if these days we're capable of averting the reproductive precedent behind the behaviour.
Ankhanu on Tue Dec 06, 2011 7:03 pm



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