My Confusion goes like this..
_my boyfriend and i had slept together..but i avoided to face him when i'm sleeping.. coz i don't wanna make him feel any sensation..but as i negatively expected.. he put his finger in my vagina..and gently in and out..i tolerate the pain and pretend that i've fallen asleep.. coz i want to observe what he will do next..{this is my firstime to sleep with my bf} that f he really loves me.. he would respect me..
but then.. as he did it.. he's trying to make me hot.. or make me also feel the sensation..i feel the wet i really dont know how to do this..
this will probably be a long story if i will state what happened detail by detail..
i just wanna make sure coz i'm really confuse..if i'm still a virgin>or not anymore..
huhuhu! will i get pregnant because.. this things happened after 2days of my last day menstruation..
but still consider myself a virgin because there was no bleeding happend.. i just feel wet.. it's kinda masturbation of a girl?because the finger was inside the vagina?? then,,could it be consider devirginized?my bf had put his penis in my vagina but..it's narrow.. it doesnt bleed afterall.. but i really feel the pain.. pls.. i need some feedbacks 'bout this..
Um...
This isn't frihost-appropriate.
But I can tell you this.
If his fingers were the only thing that was inserted, you will not get pregnant.
Virginity is a relative term. If fingers were in, you still are a virgin. You may want to talk to your mom, a sister, or an older, more experienced girl to have her explain things to you...
I hope that helps.
Edit: if his "happy place" went inside your "happy place," then you are no longer a virgin. If his "happy place" is small, then you will probably not bleed if he did, and you might get pregnant. Like I said, it is VERY important for you to talk to another girl about this. In person. You can't ask for advice about things like this online, it is simply not a good idea. 
I'm really not sure what happened. But from your post i figured there was no penetration. Why take a risk? Visit your doctor as soon as possible.
Not many young people can go to a doctor. And it seems she's very young. Or from a place that doesn't know english.
Or both, since she doesn't appear to have even elementary knowledge of biology (13-14 year olds should know this stuff).
Well, you're not going to get pregnant unless he achieved orgasm. Unless he had quite a bit of precum, then you won't get pregnant. It sounds like you're really clueless to the human anatomy. Just remember that if you're going to do it with him again, make him wear condom. If you don't have one, then don't do it. You shouldn't have sex if you can't have sex responsibly.
What about a pregnancy test?
People!! You're scarying the girl! Doesn't matter whether she has bio knowledge or not, this is a situation in which she needs help. And, by the way, I don't think this is Frih-inappropriate. She kept decent as the rules state. So please let her feel comfortable.
Sweety, you're veeery unlike to get pregnant. Go to a doctor anyway, if you can. Don't avoid talking this stuff with your mom, older sister, or a professional.
How do you feel about talking to your mom? Is she so traditional you can't even think about getting to her? Because, from your post, it appears that you did it sneekingly.
At last, tell us what did you think about your boyfriend introducing in you. Did you feel invaded, disrespected, or so?
Thank you, Da Rossa. This isn't inappropriate. It is important for people to express themselves on a forum, and she kept it decent. You probably don't have anything to worry about, go see a doctor if you think it's nescessary. You're young, and probably won't get pregnant. Hi, If he was in you for a while and he had an orgasm (which is when he will release) in you, then you stand the chance of getting pregnant.
Before I attempt to give you any more info I'd like to know how old you are. You can send me a private message and I'll respond to it.
To what I understand, there is really no chance of you being pregnant. All he did was finger you. Get someone to talk to about the subject or do some research online.
| guitar22891 wrote: |
| To what I understand, there is really no chance of you being pregnant. All he did was finger you. Get someone to talk to about the subject or do some research online. |
It is more important that you talk to someone, prerably one you trust.I think she's from the Middle East countries where these stuff are considered among the public a forbidden thing to talk about and not appropriate for girls to talk about. You can't imagine how many girls don't know about the detail even if they study about it.
Anyways, as many has said earlier, if it was only fingers, then nothing to fear about getting pregnant. If he inserted his penis, there's a propapility not to get pregnant. Some married people try it once after another to get pregnant. All this depend on his sperm.
A note, I think you mean that this happened only two days after your period, that i think that the chances for you to get pregnant are very weak.
The same advice again, Visit a doctor or a more experienced girl and tell her/him in detail what happened. They can be more helpful in this situation.
Good luck
if it was just his fingers you have nothing to worry about
Okay? Actually you're going to get pregnant if your finger nail touches your scrotom... lol jk. No you will not get pregnant, it's not that big of a deal. If your heimann thing was broken then technically you are no longer a virgin so it would depend.
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| If your heimann thing was broken then technically you are no longer a virgin so it would depend. |
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| If your heimann thing was broken then technically you are no longer a virgin so it would depend. |
The level of biological and cultural ignorance of some posters is quite breathtaking.
1) It is called the hymen
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen
2) It has nothing to do with virginity. In days gone-by it was used as an indicator by a male-dominated society. In these more enlightened times we understand that the hymen is not a good indicator, since it can easily become ruptured through non-sexual means, and not all women are born with a 'complete' hymen in any case. A ruptured hymen does NOT mean you are not a virgin!
The advice of some above is good advice - talk to someone you can trust and who is knowledgeable about this. Your parents would be ideal, if you feel you can talk to them. Otherwise a teacher or health-professional would be a good second choice. Don't get worked up about it - I think you have very little to worry about.If he put his penis inside you, you are no longer a virgin, and you might be pregnant.
If he just used his fingers, you cannot be pregnant (unless they were full of seamen, I guess).
Not everyone bleed when they have sex the first time. The Hymen can easily be broken. F.ex. if you fall, or use a tampax.
Please talk to a grownup about this. Maybe a nurse at your school, or a parent - someone you trust?
Your boyfriend has no right to have sex with you in your sleep, thats called rape. Unless he knew (a 110%) you were awake and you still did not say no.
damn, thats crazy. no youre not pregnant. no semen = no babies. unless he was rubbing himself got precum and then stuck his fingure in you. you should go get a pregnancy test. next time don't sleep with him.
Frist of all let me ask you one thing...!!! Why the hell did you sleep with your boyfriend if you were afraid in this sort or when you didn't want to have sex...???
Your boyfriend tried hard to seduce you but you didn't reciprocate..!! That was good..!!
Ok anywyay it happened..!! The procedure went simple with only his finger going inside you..!! Hey gal that is just finger..it doesn't secrete any fluids which can make you pregnant..!!
So be happy and rejoice that you are still a virgin 
and you are not pregnant...!!! It can be scary, the whole first time thing. First, not to come across as some kind of 'grown up' spoiling your fun, but don't let ANYONE pressure you into this if you don't want to do it. Waiting for marriage is not a bad thing. And getting pregnant before you are ready is not any fun, it will change the rest of your life. I know people will laugh at me because I am a guy, but I was 26 before I had sex.
Now to the real question. You aren't pregnant if he just used his finger. You might be if he actually had intercourse. The only way to be sure is see a doctor or take a test.
| Alaskacameradude wrote: |
It can be scary, the whole first time thing. First, not to come across as some kind of 'grown up' spoiling your fun, but don't let ANYONE pressure you into this if you don't want to do it. Waiting for marriage is not a bad thing. And getting pregnant before you are ready is not any fun, it will change the rest of your life. I know people will laugh at me because I am a guy, but I was 26 before I had sex.
Now to the real question. You aren't pregnant if he just used his finger. You might be if he actually had intercourse. The only way to be sure is see a doctor or take a test. |
Good advice too. I can't say I followed that but I don't think it's a bad thing to wait for marriage either.Yah you should go see your doctor nevertheless. But if it was 2 days after the end of menstruation, then you're probably still ok. If he didn't ejaculate in you, your chances are better.
If you worry about still being a virgin, it's just how you see things. If he only put his finger in you, then no, even for the most strange views I know you would still be a virgin. About being pregnant, just see a doctor if you feel worried but if he didn't have an orgasm in you then I don't think you're pregnant.
Yeah, doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about as far as being pregnant goes. Don't they teach sex ed. to you sometime? A guy has to.. well, yeah... in order for you to be pregnant.
| Leiann wrote: |
i just wanna make sure coz i'm really confuse..if i'm still a virgin>or not anymore..
huhuhu! will i get pregnant because.. this things happened after 2days of my last day menstruation..
but still consider myself a virgin because there was no bleeding happend.. i just feel wet.. it's kinda masturbation of a girl?because the finger was inside the vagina?? then,,could it be consider devirginized?my bf had put his penis in my vagina but..it's narrow.. it doesnt bleed afterall.. but i really feel the pain.. pls.. i need some feedbacks 'bout this.. |
im a nurse, but not a RN, i can say is.. if penetration happens and orgasm did occurs inside your vagina, you may get pregnant, just remember if it is your ovulation or not, but if is, 80% you'll get pregnant.
ovulation occurs at 14 days after your last mens! ... safe s** will be on after or during mens!
so next time, behave! lol you calendar method!
addition: some female has thick hymen that you will say that you didnt bleed... you might be like them who has thick hymen.. 
good day...I read some other replies and I really agree with the ones that tell you to talk to an older woman. This can be anyone you trust, a family member or friend, a teacher from school. Just make sure you trust the one you're talking to. I think that will really help you to get out of the situation you're in now.
I wish you the best, hope everything turns out OK.
Uh, Leiann - it looks like your knowledge about biology isn't on proper level - as predecessors said; you can't get pragnant with out penetration
| Leiann wrote: |
| my bf had put his penis in my vagina |
You should read a bit better, she has a reason to be worried about pregnancy. | chonghua wrote: |
im a nurse, but not a RN, i can say is.. if penetration happens and orgasm did occurs inside your vagina, you may get pregnant, just remember if it is your ovulation or not, but if is, 80% you'll get pregnant.
ovulation occurs at 14 days after your last mens! ... safe s** will be on after or during mens!
so next time, behave! lol you calendar method!
addition: some female has thick hymen that you will say that you didnt bleed... you might be like them who has thick hymen.. :)
good day... |
What!? Are you a nurse?!
First of all. She CAN get pregnant without him getting an orgasm inside her. Seamen can "escape" before ejaculation and make her pregnant even though he "comes" on the outside.
Ovultation does NOT occur 14 days AFTER your LAST mens, but 14 days BEFORE your NEXT mens (if you get one). Not everyone has a 28 days cyclus. If it is f.eks. 3 weeks, it will be a week after first mens-day. Some still have mens after a week, so that's not safe for all. But if they know their cyclus, and its a 100% stable - always, you could calculate it. Just remember, things can change your cyclus, f.ex. stress, unhealthy dieting and so on.
I would rather ask her boyfriend to behave, and to use a condom instead of the calendar method! There are more risks during sex than pregnancy.
