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How to stop a girl from loving me ?





vineeth
Dear friends,

Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do??
cavey
If a girl starts to fall in love with you (or you think she is), start talking about how glad you are that a guy and a girl can be just friends and nothing more. :)

No one can force you to start a relationship with someone, or love someone back, just because she loves you.

Good luck!
deanhills
If you are serious, I believe honesty is the best policy. You need to tell her how you feel. Did she actually tell you that she loved you? Or is that your interpretation. As there could be a good chance that she feels the same way you do. Wouldn't that be a great relief for you? Think all relationships are the same like this. You get to this point and then you have to have a talk. If you do not talk all kinds of misunderstandings happen, and you may even loose the friendship that you value so much.
ainieas
If I ever get the hint that someone might be taking me wrongly then I usually find an excuse to msg them and start it lik - "Hi sis...."
Everyone gets the hint in the first go. I know it might be a bit harsh but its a sure shot way that has never failed me!
Or if you want to go the other way round, it will be talking with the girl one-on-one and explain to her that she might be just getting you wrong. I'll make the both of you awkward for sometime but it'll pass and someday you'll laugh about it all.
smurky182
just tell her that you don't love her and that you should be just friends. tell her that your really love being with her as a friend and nothing more. make her believe it.
Coen
Try being a bit subtle. Tell her that you like being friends and how much you appriciate that fact. Should she come to you and tells you her feelings, just come clean and explain to her that you like her as a friend, but nothing more then a friend (good friend though).
molif
girls can be suicidal if u happen to say the wrong things to make it easier for you not to be her love..

say the right words, express honestly.. and don ever tell her the reasons why u don't love her at all.. it can be nasty actually..
Margery
If you're sure it's really love... tell her that you 2 should only be friends and don't let her wait too long before you say it. It will hurt her the most. If you're not sure, then you should find out.
myjourneytosuccess
just be straightforward with her...the worst thing you could do right now is lead her on and not be honest...
selevan
myjourneytosuccess wrote:
just be straightforward with her...the worst thing you could do right now is lead her on and not be honest...


Yup, i agree. Tell her everything, i know its hard sometimes (its even harder to break relationships with girlfriend) but thats the best way.
UntitledDocument
selevan wrote:
myjourneytosuccess wrote:
just be straightforward with her...the worst thing you could do right now is lead her on and not be honest...


Yup, i agree. Tell her everything, i know its hard sometimes (its even harder to break relationships with girlfriend) but thats the best way.


Or you could be descreet but clear at the same time.

Just say to her how good it is to have a friend like her, and if anything changed between you you don't know what you would do. Also talk about other people you like in front of her and encourage her to do the same. This will bring her sights to other people.
rightclickscott
molif wrote:
girls can be suicidal if u happen to say the wrong things to make it easier for you not to be her love..

say the right words, express honestly.. and don ever tell her the reasons why u don't love her at all.. it can be nasty actually..


No, crazy suicidal emo people can get suicidal. Generalizing among women just because a few want to kill themselves isn't a smart thing.

My info to you, my good friend, is to simply screw'um and dump'um, but make sure you can get out every morning before they ask for breakfast.
cvkien
oh, maybe you can have a try with her, then break up with her, that is the 1st option. second option is talk to her, if you are single, say u are not ready yet to have girl friend or something like that. 3rd option is if you are still single, tell her you are gay. 4th option is ask someone to pretend to be your girl friend. then tell her you love your girl friend so much and plan to marry. 5th is whenever she say all this kind of thing with you, you respond back like she was joking with you. then you play around with the joke. she will finally found you annoying. 6th is find a boy friend for her, introduce someone who have almost characteristic like you. ok, i think that all for now. good luck.
Coen
molif wrote:
girls can be suicidal if u happen to say the wrong things to make it easier for you not to be her love..

say the right words, express honestly.. and don ever tell her the reasons why u don't love her at all.. it can be nasty actually..

That's not his problem, is it? If she can't take the fact that he doesn't like her and wants to kill herself because of it she needs serious help because getting suicidal because of something like that is far from normal behaviour.
RubySlasher
Be a complete jerk.

You should know how to do it naturally. You're a guy after all.

Just stop being so nice around her.
Drawingguy
I assume you mean that the girl in question was previously a friend, and you assume that she is now becoming attracted to you- it's either that, or you're already in the relationship, and you want to end it, but I'm leaning towards the first.

A lot of us guys have learned the hard way how effective the 'I love you as a friend' thing works out. If you start emphasizing that point, she'll eventually get the message, assuming she's not completely socially inept. Just don't be too bitter when a girl does the same to you.
rshanthakumar
Have a nice time, man! It is pretty tough to break up later on if you are not really serious. But remember something, it is nice to have some one who loves you than someone whom you love. It is easy to get many things out of them. Give it a fair thought!
Sphaerenkern
That's hard... She probably loves you because you are nice to her or because you have some particular attitude, so you can either stop being nice to her (what's pretty mean) or try to change so she loses interest (what's quite hard).
asim
vineeth wrote:
Dear friends,

Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do??


simple get a list of things she dilikes and behave accordingly.
selevan
Just tell her in front of her that u dont see sense in it etc. but expect that relations between you would get worse Sad Sad but true. I had same problem.
tapina
vineeth wrote:
Dear friends,

Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do??


Tell her that you are only interested in friendship but not love relationship. Be firm but nice.
iyepes
Just tell her that your interest is only friendship, and act in consequence, you can't tell something I'm not romanticly interested, and after that invite the other person to a romantic dinner.

What you have to say it's hard to hear, but it's worst to keep false expectations.
mconnelly
I don't think you need to say anything. Or be mean. Or insensitive. Keep being nice. Keep being friends. You don't really need to acknowledge that she loves you, and sometime soon, it won't matter. She'll have gotten over it, or you'll realize you kind like her too. Either way, you don't need to change your behavior at all.
James_Hicks
Just tell her that you're gay and that you wish to use her body every once in a while to be sure that you are still gay.
flyfamilyguy
vineeth wrote:
Dear friends,

Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do??

How about some 'reverse psychology', you Doofus! CLING to her, NEVER let her out of your sight, NEVER allow her any privacy, Pretend to be jealous every time that she interacts with someone, question her motives all the time. Questions, questions, and MORE questions! 'Space' is NOT in your vocabulary.,GET IT?
I GUARANTEE that she will not "love" you very long! Twisted Evil
urdumaila
vineeth wrote:
Dear friends,

Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do??

just slaped him she will left u
frih
i think you should start changing your behaviour.....start making things which she doent like...
devilisthedj
Love her Friend!!!!
gandalfthegrey
Honest is the best policy.

Be don't be blunt or an ****** about it.
Drop hints that you are interested in another woman or that she is only a friend to you.


I would also ask yourself are you sure that you would never go for her? In the ballet/opera Onegin, the character rejects a woman who he later realizes that he loves. Don't make that mistake bro.
Cddhesh
Very rarely this question comes up, of telling the girl not to love me, well Girls are very dangerous,as what i have read Smile, i mean Once they love someone its very difficult to forget him for them, so they may try committing suicide too,So beware, Best way is to make her feel that u love someone else.
Cddhesh
Very rarely this question comes up, of telling the girl not to love me,
well i agree with gandalfthegrey's reply .
Girls are very dangerous,as what i have read Smile, i mean Once they love someone its very difficult to forget him for them, so they may try committing suicide too,So beware, Best way is to make her feel that u love someone else.
Cddhesh
Very rarely this question comes up, of telling the girl not to love me,
well i agree with gandalfthegrey's reply .
Girls are very dangerous,as what i have read Smile, i mean Once they love someone its very difficult to forget him for them, so they may try committing suicide too,So beware, Best way is to make her feel that u love someone else.
chatrack
Dealing such situation is very rare. Any way you should be care full that what step you take does not
hurt any hearts. Best way is to realize her that your are love with some one else. Crying or Very sad .. Wink
muffinman187
do everything completely opposite of what you're doing that is making her falling in love with you. become needy ..
Xaferrow
vineeth wrote:
Dear friends,

Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do??


Tell her the truth, i think
BigGeek
OK you're screwed dude! No matter how you look at it, you are screwed. The only thing that you can do if a woman says they love you and you do not love them back is break off all communication with them, and never speak to them or be around them again.

No matter how close of a friend they are, you're friendship is now shot done and gone withe the revelation that she loves you, and you don't love her.

Here is why!

Situation:
1) You tell her that you do not share the same feelings and you try to remain friends - she will never be able to let go of the rejection of her love, and will always be angry and upset when you are in relationships with other women, and will constantly badger you wondering why you don't love her, and will begin to have self esteem problems and wonder what is wrong with her and why she is not "good enough" for you, and the friendship will degenerate to an abusive one, as she takes out her anger and frustration over seeing other women and not her, and constantly reminding her that she is not "good enough" for you!

2) You try and keep things as they are and do not tell her that you do not love her the same way she loves you. NEVER EVER WORKS, here is why, she will always think that she has a chance and that if she is a good friend she will win you over and get you to love her. If you let her, she will shower you with gifts, pay your way to places, and a number of other generous behaviors all calculated to "win you over", and if you ever tell her you do not share your feelings she will explode in anger at you and claim you led her on by not telling her how you felt.

Now remember if you stay friends with her, her tactics may change over time from showering you with gifts and favors to one of trying to intimidate and guilt you into a relationship.

3) If she succeeds in guilting you into a relationship you are screwed on 2 fronts. one you will have sent her a message that it "works" to guilt and intimidate you into doing what she wants, and she will forever be using that same behavior on you to control you, and get you to do what she wants. Which is no way to live for either of you, and if that behavior is left unchecked it will escalate to physical abuse overtime.

4) If she does not begin to use the guilt and intimidation but uses the favors and gifts and that works to "win you over" then she will descend to self esteem issues, and eventually the relationship will turn abusive in that she will always feel that you do not love her as much as she loves you, she will notice how she does "so much" for you, but you don't return the favors and gifts. Then it will start to get abusive as she begins to guilt you and insult you in an attempt to get you to prove to her that you do love her, even when you don't, or at least you don't love her the way that she loves you, which will eventually destroy your relationship.

Here is the number one rule of love!

YOU CANNOT FORCE SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU!!

It is very very rare that a woman or a man can remain friends with a person that they love, and that person does not share their feelings. Men can handle it a little better than woman if they stay detached and don't let their desires get the best of them, but that is rare as well. I've only known one woman that was able to tell me she was madly in love with me, and I told her I did not share those feelings, and we remained friends. That only worked because she was a good friends wife, and they had 3 children together, and she knew before she told me how she felt that I would reject her feelings due to my close friendship with her husband, we are all still friends to this day and she has gotten over it. But that is rare, and circumstances forced her into detachment!!

So there you have it, you're screwed........Good lock with it BRO!!!!
iyepes
I have to say, you can not stop anyone for loving you, since love is a volunteer feeling which is born from the self will, not from the acts or intentions of others, included the loved one.

What you can do, is mark clear limits to someone else, when your purpose is not to love that person. Restrict certain affection expressions, proximity inclusive. It could sound a little hard, but you have the right to keep your space only for the people you want.

It's a task of the other person to stop loving you or not, you are not responsible for anyone else's feelings. Your only responsibility is showing the right signs to the other, to let her make informed elections.
Chinmoy
a better part of the population is interested in just the opposite!
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