Dear friends,
Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do??
If a girl starts to fall in love with you (or you think she is), start talking about how glad you are that a guy and a girl can be just friends and nothing more. :)
No one can force you to start a relationship with someone, or love someone back, just because she loves you.
Good luck!
If you are serious, I believe honesty is the best policy. You need to tell her how you feel. Did she actually tell you that she loved you? Or is that your interpretation. As there could be a good chance that she feels the same way you do. Wouldn't that be a great relief for you? Think all relationships are the same like this. You get to this point and then you have to have a talk. If you do not talk all kinds of misunderstandings happen, and you may even loose the friendship that you value so much.
If I ever get the hint that someone might be taking me wrongly then I usually find an excuse to msg them and start it lik - "Hi sis...."
Everyone gets the hint in the first go. I know it might be a bit harsh but its a sure shot way that has never failed me!
Or if you want to go the other way round, it will be talking with the girl one-on-one and explain to her that she might be just getting you wrong. I'll make the both of you awkward for sometime but it'll pass and someday you'll laugh about it all.
just tell her that you don't love her and that you should be just friends. tell her that your really love being with her as a friend and nothing more. make her believe it.
Try being a bit subtle. Tell her that you like being friends and how much you appriciate that fact. Should she come to you and tells you her feelings, just come clean and explain to her that you like her as a friend, but nothing more then a friend (good friend though).
girls can be suicidal if u happen to say the wrong things to make it easier for you not to be her love..
say the right words, express honestly.. and don ever tell her the reasons why u don't love her at all.. it can be nasty actually..
If you're sure it's really love... tell her that you 2 should only be friends and don't let her wait too long before you say it. It will hurt her the most. If you're not sure, then you should find out.
just be straightforward with her...the worst thing you could do right now is lead her on and not be honest...
| myjourneytosuccess wrote: |
| just be straightforward with her...the worst thing you could do right now is lead her on and not be honest... |
Yup, i agree. Tell her everything, i know its hard sometimes (its even harder to break relationships with girlfriend) but thats the best way. | selevan wrote: |
| myjourneytosuccess wrote: | | just be straightforward with her...the worst thing you could do right now is lead her on and not be honest... |
Yup, i agree. Tell her everything, i know its hard sometimes (its even harder to break relationships with girlfriend) but thats the best way. |
Or you could be descreet but clear at the same time.
Just say to her how good it is to have a friend like her, and if anything changed between you you don't know what you would do. Also talk about other people you like in front of her and encourage her to do the same. This will bring her sights to other people. | molif wrote: |
girls can be suicidal if u happen to say the wrong things to make it easier for you not to be her love..
say the right words, express honestly.. and don ever tell her the reasons why u don't love her at all.. it can be nasty actually.. |
No, crazy suicidal emo people can get suicidal. Generalizing among women just because a few want to kill themselves isn't a smart thing.
My info to you, my good friend, is to simply screw'um and dump'um, but make sure you can get out every morning before they ask for breakfast.oh, maybe you can have a try with her, then break up with her, that is the 1st option. second option is talk to her, if you are single, say u are not ready yet to have girl friend or something like that. 3rd option is if you are still single, tell her you are gay. 4th option is ask someone to pretend to be your girl friend. then tell her you love your girl friend so much and plan to marry. 5th is whenever she say all this kind of thing with you, you respond back like she was joking with you. then you play around with the joke. she will finally found you annoying. 6th is find a boy friend for her, introduce someone who have almost characteristic like you. ok, i think that all for now. good luck.
| molif wrote: |
girls can be suicidal if u happen to say the wrong things to make it easier for you not to be her love..
say the right words, express honestly.. and don ever tell her the reasons why u don't love her at all.. it can be nasty actually.. |
That's not his problem, is it? If she can't take the fact that he doesn't like her and wants to kill herself because of it she needs serious help because getting suicidal because of something like that is far from normal behaviour.Be a complete jerk.
You should know how to do it naturally. You're a guy after all.
Just stop being so nice around her.
I assume you mean that the girl in question was previously a friend, and you assume that she is now becoming attracted to you- it's either that, or you're already in the relationship, and you want to end it, but I'm leaning towards the first.
A lot of us guys have learned the hard way how effective the 'I love you as a friend' thing works out. If you start emphasizing that point, she'll eventually get the message, assuming she's not completely socially inept. Just don't be too bitter when a girl does the same to you.
Have a nice time, man! It is pretty tough to break up later on if you are not really serious. But remember something, it is nice to have some one who loves you than someone whom you love. It is easy to get many things out of them. Give it a fair thought!
That's hard... She probably loves you because you are nice to her or because you have some particular attitude, so you can either stop being nice to her (what's pretty mean) or try to change so she loses interest (what's quite hard).
| vineeth wrote: |
Dear friends,
Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do?? |
simple get a list of things she dilikes and behave accordingly.Just tell her in front of her that u dont see sense in it etc. but expect that relations between you would get worse 
Sad but true. I had same problem. | vineeth wrote: |
Dear friends,
Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do?? |
Tell her that you are only interested in friendship but not love relationship. Be firm but nice.Just tell her that your interest is only friendship, and act in consequence, you can't tell something I'm not romanticly interested, and after that invite the other person to a romantic dinner.
What you have to say it's hard to hear, but it's worst to keep false expectations.
I don't think you need to say anything. Or be mean. Or insensitive. Keep being nice. Keep being friends. You don't really need to acknowledge that she loves you, and sometime soon, it won't matter. She'll have gotten over it, or you'll realize you kind like her too. Either way, you don't need to change your behavior at all.
Just tell her that you're gay and that you wish to use her body every once in a while to be sure that you are still gay.
| vineeth wrote: |
Dear friends,
Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do?? |
How about some 'reverse psychology', you Doofus! CLING to her, NEVER let her out of your sight, NEVER allow her any privacy, Pretend to be jealous every time that she interacts with someone, question her motives all the time. Questions, questions, and MORE questions! 'Space' is NOT in your vocabulary.,GET IT?
I GUARANTEE that she will not "love" you very long! 
| vineeth wrote: |
Dear friends,
Just curious and somewhat serious. How can I stop a girl from loving me? Just friendship, with its all limits is ok but I don't need love. What to do?? |
just slaped him she will left ui think you should start changing your behaviour.....start making things which she doent like...
Honest is the best policy.
Be don't be blunt or an ****** about it.
Drop hints that you are interested in another woman or that she is only a friend to you.
I would also ask yourself are you sure that you would never go for her? In the ballet/opera Onegin, the character rejects a woman who he later realizes that he loves. Don't make that mistake bro.
Very rarely this question comes up, of telling the girl not to love me, well Girls are very dangerous,as what i have read 
, i mean Once they love someone its very difficult to forget him for them, so they may try committing suicide too,So beware, Best way is to make her feel that u love someone else. Very rarely this question comes up, of telling the girl not to love me,
well i agree with gandalfthegrey's reply .
Girls are very dangerous,as what i have read , i mean Once they love someone its very difficult to forget him for them, so they may try committing suicide too,So beware, Best way is to make her feel that u love someone else. Very rarely this question comes up, of telling the girl not to love me,
well i agree with gandalfthegrey's reply .
Girls are very dangerous,as what i have read , i mean Once they love someone its very difficult to forget him for them, so they may try committing suicide too,So beware, Best way is to make her feel that u love someone else.
