Dear memebers
this is my first post i this forum.If anything goes wrong please take it as granted..
I want people to answer my question,like if you love someone very deeply in reply she betrays you.WHAT will be your next move..
This question is for the true lovers and who has faith in love
Ok first of all somethings are to be pointed out with you question. First you used the word LOVE. For most people LOVE is they word they want to use bu INFATUATION is actualy what they need to use. It all is in perspective.
As for the actual question what do you mean betrayed. It could mean a world of things from cheating to just loosing interest.
Justly I would say do not do anything stupid just move on with your life.
If you gave me more information, like how long you were going out for, what you call love, etc. That i would gladly help more.
That's a very ambiguous question. You mention that you were deeply in love with this girl, but you did not mention that she love or loved you back.
I agree with the above poster. Just move on. If someone has betrayed you, they are probably not worth it anyway. And instead of talking to us, you should be talking to her. Isn't it a form of betrayal that you would rather confide in a group or strangers than confront her yourself?
Tell her she's fat and ugly, and then buy a giant automobile.
I would forgive and tell her not to do this, if done for the first time.... but if she contnues to do so... i would pretend that i dont know... have a good time... but never marry her 
Asim, this is wrong to use someone else. As in this case you are nothing better than her.
There are several things to be counted here like what's your definition of love and how deep is your relation like others said and how she betrayed you.
Generally and to not suffer alone wondering why... you have to confront her and try no to show that you are hurt. Be strong while confronting her and give her the feeling of guilt.
The other thing, is to move on. In most cases you won't be able to forgive her and you won't forget what she did to you. So instead of sticking with her - which may lead you to think about revenge - move on and get away, forget the whole thing. I know it might not be easy, but this is how it should be to save you and not to hurt her.
move on and find someone less deceptive that you're into and that is into you.
There are 3.6 billion females on the planet, don't go for the one that isn't all you want in a person!
Well since you never got back to my questions i just say move on.
Well I would just move on. Taking revenge on her or doing the same to some1 else just because i was betrayed is not an option for me.
Forgiving someone is very difficult. and he who does it is great!!!
A lot of times, trust is a big thing in relationships. If that's gone, or starts deteriorating, the relationship really can't last for quite long.
| dusara wrote: |
Dear memebers
this is my first post i this forum.If anything goes wrong please take it as granted..
I want people to answer my question,like if you love someone very deeply in reply she betrays you.WHAT will be your next move..
This question is for the true lovers and who has faith in love |
ummmm may b kill her 
People you are talking about REVENGE which is not the perfect solution in anyway. No matter how much you were hurt, If everyone seeks revenge after he was hurt, it would be something like:
"If an eye for an eye, we will live in a blind world" Ghandi
I'd say, it depends what kind of relationship you have...
If the relationship is going to break and she betrays me, I would take it as an goodbye. But if the relationship is working for quite a long time and she betrays me, I would take it as a sign. I would want to talk to her to solve that problem.
Ah, I forgot: When she betrays me right at the beginning of a relationship, I also would take that as a goodbye 
It really depends!! If you LOVE each other there should never be betrayel.
If you truely love eachother she wouldn't betray you. If a girl I loved would betray me I'd probably be devastated but I think I'd end the relationship and get over it. Plenty of fish in the sea, so to speak.
| Coen wrote: |
| If you truely love eachother she wouldn't betray you. If a girl I loved would betray me I'd probably be devastated but I think I'd end the relationship and get over it. Plenty of fish in the sea, so to speak. |
Couldnt have said it better. But honestly, Id hate her for doing something like this, that would mean that all the times she said the magic words "I Love You" were lies... And no, there wouldnt be a second chance, never. But it would still leave me in a deep, deep hole...all good things must come to an end. mostly if these things occur it means someone is unhappy.
its a good start of thinking about the whole relation and how u should proceed. just leave the bitter feelings. look at it as a new beginning, although if u really love her of course its hard.. just ask urself..was it worth it.
| king_jofy_joe wrote: |
| find another one! |
Me too 
I'd get over it first before even thinking of 'getting' someone else. It's not wise to start thinking about a new relationship when you haven't dealt with your old one yet. Take some time to "recover" first.
It might sound a little bit harsh for me but for me, betraying starts before even kissing another giy...a girl that loves me normally wouldn't even think of flirting with another guy, or play games with him if he starts flirting with her. It is a little bit extreme, since most people I know would not even call kissing another guy betraying, they would call it an "ausrutscher" as we say in German (means a small error). In case a girl betrays you, it all really depends on the girl and on your personality and the way you usually handle things. I am the kind that is really nice to my girl and expect the same from her. If the situation come to betraying or being betrayed then I am very hard, on the opposite to my normal behavioor. It can vary from not even talking to her and acting as if she was transparent (because of a profound disgust for her after such an incident) to talking to her like normal but really letting her know each time what I think of her. It is just this way, people who do not care about the feelings of others are no good. I may even wish her that her next guy does the same to her.
forgive her then slowly poison her coffee. ('
') I would certainly reccomend to keep her alive. But that's not entirely on topic I guess.
I think I already got betrayed...kind of. By my own emotions. I like this girl, but one of her friends found out and told her and the girl I like was 'repelled' by me, and now just cause of that she doesn't even want to be my friend anymore....
That's really sad to hear. On the other hand, if that what she really is you might want to be happy she isn't anymore. I think you have two options; either you talk to her about it and it will get better or worse, or you just leave it and get over it. Although you might be sad now you might come to the conclusion that she wasn't that kind because of her reaction. That might only happen when you're over it though so I reckon you don't look at it like that now.
| Coen wrote: |
| That's really sad to hear. On the other hand, if that what she really is you might want to be happy she isn't anymore. I think you have two options; either you talk to her about it and it will get better or worse, or you just leave it and get over it. Although you might be sad now you might come to the conclusion that she wasn't that kind because of her reaction. That might only happen when you're over it though so I reckon you don't look at it like that now. |
Thanks for the concern. 
But, I'm over it now. It's just like meh, although she was cool. | dusara wrote: |
Dear memebers
this is my first post i this forum.If anything goes wrong please take it as granted..
I want people to answer my question,like if you love someone very deeply in reply she betrays you.WHAT will be your next move..
This question is for the true lovers and who has faith in love |
I would investigate what was leading her to betray me and try to solve things out with her. But I would consider leaving her and find someone else, because betrayal is a serious thing in relationship.Just move on and find someone else. Plenty of fish in the sea.
Hum...
It's a hard question. XD
If this happens... I'll find someone else, too. 
After reading some Billy Shakes...Pull an Othello ftw
| supjapscrapper wrote: |
| It might sound a little bit harsh for me but for me, betraying starts before even kissing another giy...a girl that loves me normally wouldn't even think of flirting with another guy, or play games with him if he starts flirting with her. It is a little bit extreme, since most people I know would not even call kissing another guy betraying, they would call it an "ausrutscher" as we say in German (means a small error). In case a girl betrays you, it all really depends on the girl and on your personality and the way you usually handle things. I am the kind that is really nice to my girl and expect the same from her. If the situation come to betraying or being betrayed then I am very hard, on the opposite to my normal behavioor. It can vary from not even talking to her and acting as if she was transparent (because of a profound disgust for her after such an incident) to talking to her like normal but really letting her know each time what I think of her. It is just this way, people who do not care about the feelings of others are no good. I may even wish her that her next guy does the same to her. |
I think you need to chill out, then. I can understand jealousy if you are in love but it is not like you two are married or even any kind of commitment. That is over the top.probably break the person she cheated on me withs legs, then tell her where to go, simple as lol
It's not an easy situation. But, I suppose that if I have to do something, I would move on and find someone else. There isn't motives to suffer by someone who has cheated to you.
| dusara wrote: |
Dear memebers
this is my first post i this forum.If anything goes wrong please take it as granted..
I want people to answer my question,like if you love someone very deeply in reply she betrays you.WHAT will be your next move..
This question is for the true lovers and who has faith in love |
If a girl betrays me besides a girl that i love so much, i would kidnap her and take her as a hostage and then i would do what ever i think is right and that is all i have to say....i would treat her like sex toy, dats it and would never marry her
i should... what should i? i think i should be very f´cked up, and if im f´cked up, i dont know what i do...
love needed two side cooperation, love need understanding, love need trust, love need freedom, love cannot be force. if you love someone, and she don't love you, then let her go, bless her. if you love someone and she ran away, leave her and bless her. by the time, she was letting you to find a better one than her.
Well, I guess in this case you'd need to understand that there is no future for you guys and move on. You can't keep hanging in the hopes that things would work out no matter how much you love the girl. But it was a first mistake and that too arising out of a situation that you might be responsible in a way, then there might be a chance for forgivness and a continuance of the relationship.
| dusara wrote: |
Dear memebers
this is my first post i this forum.If anything goes wrong please take it as granted..
I want people to answer my question,like if you love someone very deeply in reply she betrays you.WHAT will be your next move..
This question is for the true lovers and who has faith in love |
Love usually puts blinkers on us all. I do not think there is a person more easily self-deluded than someone who is in love. And then betrayal usually follows the following stages. Total devastation and inability to admit it to yourself, and you delude yourself that you are deeply in love with this person. Then slowly you realize what has happened and you get very angry and want to take revenge. Then after the anger you get completely depressed, as you begin to realise that the love belongs only to you and is not shared. You may also get bitter as well. And then finally if you have managed to go through all these stages you are ready to heal and start again.
There is nothing more painful than someone in love being betrayed. One of the worst hurts and the anger stage can destroy you. Hope you can keep yourself busy with constructive things that can keep you very busy. Probably very difficult to advise a person who is so deeply hurt as that person has to find her/his way out of it their way, but try and think good things of yourself, be good to yourself and just let it pass. Will take some time but eventually you will find that life goes on, someone else will cross your path, and the hurt will get less and less. Time is the best healer of all.
