Been in a relationship with this girl since February 07 and I am at a dilemma.
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About me: im in the military, 26, both adoptive parents deceased. I have no other close family members. I have been in the military for over two years, I just started living out on my own the last 8 months previously i lived on base. I am in flight school which is very demanding.
Here's the background she messaged me on facebook and things pretty much got started that way. First we chatted on facebook then on myspace. Eventually I ended up meeting her and and her sister at a club in Mobile AL. That was all cool and we talked on the phone for a while also during the first month.
This is what I come to find out about her as we are getting to know each other. She is 21 and she dropped out of highschool to do home school then she stopped doing that for a while. She left her parents at age 15 to stay with a guy. She lived with several other guys between ages 15 and 21, and none of those relationships were successful. She ended up back at home with her parents. She tried to get herself back on her feet by working as a waitress but she ended up wrecking her car on her way home from work one day.
At the point that I met her she had just lost her car and wasnt able to work. She also was very determined to finish classes for her GED, and eventually some how become a registered nurse. I was impressed with how motivated she was to get what she wanted and also sympathetic to the fact that her home situation was not all that good (supposedly why she left at at 15). So we ended up getting closer then eventually date. This entailed me driving 80 miles to see her from Pensacola one-way, picking her up and driving her back to my house, then repeating the process to drop her back at home with her parents at the end of the weekend.
Well this continued for the majority of months we have been together. I made a big mistake I didnt tell my ex gf, who I am still friends with that I had another gf. My current gf however was a little concerned that I was friends with my ex, so in order to smooth things over I openly suggested that they talk to each other. Push comes to shove and my ex finds out that im in a relationship and it becomes a big trust issue, however I apologize and we eventually move on. This happened in April.
In May she got her GED. She had been working on it since starting homeschool at age of 15.
Fast forwarding to August I decide that this relationship is starting to wear on me especially with the driving. Not to mention she still does not have a job so I have to pay for everything always! I lie to her and tell her that I am changing duty stations in another state. This lie only lasts for two weeks as we are still talking on the phone. She decides to move in with her sister and this whole situation ends up negatively affecting her and what she is trying to do.
I want to help her so I tell her that i lied and she decides to move in with me because I still live in pensacola. The situation we agree on is that I will pay all the bills, groceries, etc with exception to her phone bill. This was to allow her to save money and get a car before I do actually have to change bases on Dec 15th. I help her find a job and eventually I take her to and from work plus my own job responsibilities. BTW I decided it would be better for her so stay near her family and not have to worry about out of state tuition, as opposed to moving around with me and trying to maintiain a job. During this time period we also consider marraige. IT would give her 250 a month plus medical benefits while I am away overseas. I go back and forth over the issue because im and not ready for that much commitment yet and we have only been dating for 10 months. Plus if she gets pissed off at me or upset she can royally screw me over. In addition she occosionally brings up the subject of marriage and tells her family that are getting married without us really deciding on it yet.
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About me: im in the military, 26, both adoptive parents deceased. I have no other close family members. I have been in the military for over two years, I just started living out on my own the last 8 months previously i lived on base. I am in flight school which is very demanding.
Here's the background she messaged me on facebook and things pretty much got started that way. First we chatted on facebook then on myspace. Eventually I ended up meeting her and and her sister at a club in Mobile AL. That was all cool and we talked on the phone for a while also during the first month.
This is what I come to find out about her as we are getting to know each other. She is 21 and she dropped out of highschool to do home school then she stopped doing that for a while. She left her parents at age 15 to stay with a guy. She lived with several other guys between ages 15 and 21, and none of those relationships were successful. She ended up back at home with her parents. She tried to get herself back on her feet by working as a waitress but she ended up wrecking her car on her way home from work one day.
At the point that I met her she had just lost her car and wasnt able to work. She also was very determined to finish classes for her GED, and eventually some how become a registered nurse. I was impressed with how motivated she was to get what she wanted and also sympathetic to the fact that her home situation was not all that good (supposedly why she left at at 15). So we ended up getting closer then eventually date. This entailed me driving 80 miles to see her from Pensacola one-way, picking her up and driving her back to my house, then repeating the process to drop her back at home with her parents at the end of the weekend.
Well this continued for the majority of months we have been together. I made a big mistake I didnt tell my ex gf, who I am still friends with that I had another gf. My current gf however was a little concerned that I was friends with my ex, so in order to smooth things over I openly suggested that they talk to each other. Push comes to shove and my ex finds out that im in a relationship and it becomes a big trust issue, however I apologize and we eventually move on. This happened in April.
In May she got her GED. She had been working on it since starting homeschool at age of 15.
Fast forwarding to August I decide that this relationship is starting to wear on me especially with the driving. Not to mention she still does not have a job so I have to pay for everything always! I lie to her and tell her that I am changing duty stations in another state. This lie only lasts for two weeks as we are still talking on the phone. She decides to move in with her sister and this whole situation ends up negatively affecting her and what she is trying to do.
I want to help her so I tell her that i lied and she decides to move in with me because I still live in pensacola. The situation we agree on is that I will pay all the bills, groceries, etc with exception to her phone bill. This was to allow her to save money and get a car before I do actually have to change bases on Dec 15th. I help her find a job and eventually I take her to and from work plus my own job responsibilities. BTW I decided it would be better for her so stay near her family and not have to worry about out of state tuition, as opposed to moving around with me and trying to maintiain a job. During this time period we also consider marraige. IT would give her 250 a month plus medical benefits while I am away overseas. I go back and forth over the issue because im and not ready for that much commitment yet and we have only been dating for 10 months. Plus if she gets pissed off at me or upset she can royally screw me over. In addition she occosionally brings up the subject of marriage and tells her family that are getting married without us really deciding on it yet.
