I was initiated into Nam-myo-ho-Renge-Kyo in May this year. There was a subtle change in my attitude soon after I started chanting.
I got a phone call from my father living in New Delhi in May or June informing that I was entitled to a share in prime property in New Delhi as per my late grandfather's will but a relative was not only trying to keep me away from my share but also trying to sell it to a builder for ``peanuts.'' My father further alleged that my uncle was trying to deprive me of my due share by ``actually selling the flat at a higher price'' in collusion with the builder.
My father advised me to send a legal notice to my uncle and I even consulted an advocate and got a ``harsh'' letter addressed to my uncle drafted. However, it was the effect of my Buddhist practice that I decided not to send any such letter which would strain relations. I decided to play a passive role in the matter.
A few days ago I got a phone call from my cousin (my uncle's elder son) and he explained matters to me in a different perspective altogether and assured me that the property would not be sold without consulting me. I understood his point of view and thanked Nam-myo-ho-Renge-kyo which stopped me from sending that letter/legal notice. Yesterday,I signed the legal documents sent by my cousin which would pave the way for legal transfer of the flat in the names of all beneficiaries under the will.
I am grateful that my attitude and behaviour are gradually changing from always being in a ``reactive mode'' to an ``affirmative mode.''
I have several experiences to narrate which I will do as
and when inspired to write as sharing instills faith.
I was allotted a Government house in Panchkula in April 2007 and was
in the process of shifting house from my in-law's place in Chandigarh
where my family and I had lived for nearly 10 years in virtually two
rooms.I was calling up and meeting old friends and acquaintances
living in Chandigarh before shifting.
We went to meet Mr.Khosla, a senior Public Relations Officer with a
nationalized Bank, at his residence as my wife wanted to present a
painting made by her to his family.I have known Mr.Khosla since 1993
when I was transferred to Chandigarh from New Delhi and he had helped
me several times in my dealings with his bank and he was aware of my
financial situation---debts,debts and debts----about most of which
even my sick wife was ``unaware.'' Frankly, I am always wary to go to
his house along with my wife out of fear that Mr.Khosla might
inadvertently say something about my ``financial difficulties.''
The last time I had met Mr.Khosla, his condition was ``bad'' as he is
suffering from Multiple Sclerosis.But this time I was pleasantly
surprised to discern a glow in his whole body and mind.Even before I
could ask him about the transformation, he said he wanted to speak to
me about a mantra which would not only cure my wife's Celiac disease
(incurable wheat allergy) but also my health and improve finances as
well.He went on to narrate how he had heard about `Nam-myo-ho-Renge-
kyo' from a Bank's client and that he had been chanting it for the
last couple of months.Even though my wife and daughter were not
``convinced'', I immediately noted down the mantra and started
chanting it, loudly and even silently.
On coming home, I spent the entire night surfing the net about Lotus
Sutra and ``Nam-myo-ho-Renge-kyo.'' It was this mantra which
sustained me during the shifting and helped me in meeting many
difficulties and challenges. The proof of power came when my wife and
I had a big quarrel over shifting and my teenager daughter studying
in Class XII. My wife is always attacking my daughter and I over
something or the other and it becomes really unbearable. So, I was
chanting `Nam-myo-ho-Renge-kyo' in my new house in Panchkula while
whitewashing was going on. Suddenly, I had a vision of Lord Buddha
and I felt deep peace and calm and when I returned to Chandigarh,
there was a discernible change in my wife, though very short-lived.
I fell very sick,suffering from several bouts of heat stroke and
extreme fatigue and debility.My wife did not understand and she
charged that I was feigning illness in order to avoid chores
associated with shifting and settling down in a new place. I was
expected to cook meals for her whether I was well or not. The
financial bills and debts also piled up during this transitional
period. Matters were aggravated with behind-the-scene interference of
my father-in-law.My daughter bore the worst brunt of my wife's
tantrums and she even talked of ``committing suicide'' as she, a
bright student, was not doing well in her studies. My sole support
during this traumatic period was the great mantra `Nam-myo-ho-Renge-
kyo.' I joined several Yahoo groups including this one and in
response to my message posted online, I got contact numbers of
members in Chandigarh. I spoke to one nice woman on the mobile phone
and she advised me to contact Mr.Khosla who had introduced me to
Interestingly Mr.Khosla called up in a day or two. He told me that I
could share all my problems with him as a friend without any fear and
he would pray for me. I also filled up the membership form. I told
him about my family problem and the ``desperate situation'' which my
daughter and I were facing. After teaching me how to pray,he advised
me to 1.send Daimoku for my wife's good health and positive attitude
and that Buddhahood may arise in her;2.not to escape in the evening
from my home by telling a lie that I had been invited to a press
conference or dinner but to stay at home chanting `Nam-myo-ho-Renge-
kyo' come what may even if my wife ``thundered;'' 3.serve my sick
wife as my ``Karma'' and 4.form a deeper bond with my daughter.
I start practising this path.I try my level best to stay at home in
the evening (this also saves money) though I still sometimes succumb
to temptation.There has been a subtle change in my wife's attitude
though she still throws tantrums. I feel I am developing inner
courage to face the situation in the family and my bond with my
daughter has further deepened.There has been a positive change in my
inner attitude that I must perform the household chores willingly for
a sick person. Sometimes, I even feel compassion for my wife and I
``forgive'' her. The process is going on and I am sure things will
become better and better. I have set up a yahoo group where people
can post prayer requests (diamoku) and I have introduced three
persons who were in a desperate condition to the great Mantra. I read
the inspiring messages of the Sensei and the Gosho and the Lotus
Sutra translation. I have downloaded Gongyo and listen regularly.
``No one can better bask in summer's balm than those who have endured
winter's bite. Similarly, it is those who have suffered through life's
darkest hours who are able to truly savor the bright dawn of happiness.
The person who has transformed the worst of fate into the best of
fortune is life's champion.''
These words of the Sensei have come true in my life. I was under huge
burden of debts for last so many years and there was no way out for me.
Then a friend introduced me to Nam myoho Renge Kyo and i started having
several experiences even though i am not a member of the BSG as i am a
journalist. I have posted some of my experiences in this excellent
Recently, I got a share from a windfall (inheritance left by my
maternal grandfather. I have paid off 99 per cent of all dues and
debts. I have also deposited arrears of house rent owed to a Government
body. I am much happy and less burdened today.Also,savings and
investments which were unheard of in my life are now regular.
I am trying my very best not to land in vicious debt trap again. Credit
cards are not bad provided one pays off the entire due amount every
Please connect me to the budhist community in faridabad