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What is better than Marriage?
Letīs talk about something is becoming rare today: marriage.
If you have/had about 20, what would you answer to the question "would you marry me?" from your best friend (from the opposite sex, of course)? "Yes, because I love you", or "letīs just live together"?
I have my way of living. I love my family and I love to be and to have exclusive attention. But Iīm affraid the question posted in this topic will result in some people that donīt believe in marriage anymore. Maybe because the new lifestile, the womenīs carreer, the independence, the freedom!
What I intend with this topic is to get responses, maybe in few words, about the reason because marriage is or isnīt the best thing in the world... and why?
If you have/had about 20, what would you answer to the question "would you marry me?" from your best friend (from the opposite sex, of course)? "Yes, because I love you", or "letīs just live together"?
I have my way of living. I love my family and I love to be and to have exclusive attention. But Iīm affraid the question posted in this topic will result in some people that donīt believe in marriage anymore. Maybe because the new lifestile, the womenīs carreer, the independence, the freedom!
What I intend with this topic is to get responses, maybe in few words, about the reason because marriage is or isnīt the best thing in the world... and why?
I would rather not marry a woman. If we put our hands down too early in the game, both parties would be taxed both financially and emotionally, and even just financially for a rather wasteful ceremony at start. Both parties can be together happily without a legally binding contract of some sort.
Depends if I find the right one!
It also depends how much shit I've got.
It also depends how much shit I've got.
Marriage is a beautiful thing that the Lord has created for us humans. It is for us to honor the marriage!
Marriage means commitment though divorces are quite easy to get nowadays.
Marriage means commitment though divorces are quite easy to get nowadays.
| Whong wrote: |
| Marriage is a beautiful thing that the Lord has created for us humans. It is for us to honor the marriage! Marriage means commitment though divorces are quite easy to get nowadays. |
I agree with you.
I don't think the Lord has created the marrige as it is today. That would just be stupid.
A trend in sweden is that people marry in the old years when all the kids has flewn just to revive the relationship. Well some people does get married before kids but it's rare I think.
A trend in sweden is that people marry in the old years when all the kids has flewn just to revive the relationship. Well some people does get married before kids but it's rare I think.
whats better than marriage?
sex before it
sex before it
I think it basically depends upon culture and religious background of the concerned people.
Remember that there are people still in various parts of the world who don't believe in sex before marriage, what to talk of kids!
Remember that there are people still in various parts of the world who don't believe in sex before marriage, what to talk of kids!
I won't get married for the sole reason that it'd mean nothing to me. The day I start living together with a woman I love, the fact that I was all dressed up on a church with her won't change a thing. I won't love her any more or any less because of one small formality.
Now, if she wants to get married that badly I won't say no, of course... But I'd rather not get married at all.
Now, if she wants to get married that badly I won't say no, of course... But I'd rather not get married at all.
I have not a chrisian view on marriage but I believe that if you find the "right" person for you it is a great idea to marry, hm, it sort of represents that you two are going to share your life, not just care for each other for the moment.
But I do not say that everyone should marry someone, only those who finds a partner they fit so much with that they could live on together for their whole life.
But I do not say that everyone should marry someone, only those who finds a partner they fit so much with that they could live on together for their whole life.
First of all i don't think marriage is becoming rare these days. This surely is declining, but not a rarety yet.
Marriage is a wonderful relationship which gives you a feeling of security and responsibility that no other relation can offer.
I stand for it.
Marriage is a wonderful relationship which gives you a feeling of security and responsibility that no other relation can offer.
I stand for it.
I think there's no real problem with marraige in theory. I'm disturbed by weddings (waaayyy too expensive, most of them--really, is it worth it?), and I'm disturbed by how many of my girlfriends growing up felt that marraige was the thing to do when we got older. However, I think that taken into the right context, there is merit in marraige. There is nobility in the concept: two people who love each other, making a permenant commitment to each other. It's not for everybody, though, and it's not THE way to give your life significance.
| volotao wrote: |
| Letīs talk about something is becoming rare today: marriage.
If you have/had about 20, what would you answer to the question "would you marry me?" from your best friend (from the opposite sex, of course)? "Yes, because I love you", or "letīs just live together"? |
Marriage is just a word .... it has nothing to do with love and devotion to another being that you want to share your life with. If you have found that "person" that is the one for you, that you can share your inner most thoughts without fear of ridicule, that you can honestly share the rest of you life and all the hopes and dreams that come with it, then marriage is just a word and a pice of paper. If you don't really have the love to begin with then getting married isn't a way to bring you closer together. On the other hand if you do truely love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together then marriage is not necessary, those feelings will be there with or without that piece of paper.
With all that said, I will admit that I am married. I have been with my wife for over 10 years and only have been married 1. To be honest if we had not had a child together and wanted things to be easier on him and us in reguards to healthcare and education we probably wouldn't have bothered with the outdated idea of acutally getting married.
Indeed, a marriage certificate is just a legal document. The idea is that those who get married are more committed and trustworthy, which is total bullshit. They're shallow conformists who actually believe that a "legal" committment supercedes an emotional committment. It's insane! The rate of divorce is telling. Once the novelty wears off and reality sets in, an entirely different perspective is unveiled. According to the CDC, nearly half of marriages end in divorce every year. When you factor in those who remain married for the sake of the kids, religious purposes, financial reasons, gay socialists and couples who are separated, the situation is quite disturbing.
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