Guys (and yes, Girls) I am looking for some advice on being a dad for the first time to be part of new website I am developing for first time dads, acting as a place for us guys that have no idea to get some tips and tricks.
While I am happy to read all your views here, I will be equally happy to get emails (address on profile)
No horror stories or stupid stuff (unless it has real relevance) I just want goo, honest advice for us men that have no idea what to expect....
Thanks all.. and hope you visit my site soon
Some of the best advice I can give is to buy stock in baby gas medicine. You're going to need it. I don't know who invented this stuff, but it's very handy to have around. It's also made so that you can't give too much. It's very mild.
There's obvious things, like: appreciate what your wife does, help change diapers, clean up messes, take night shifts with the baby in place of your wife, don't come home from your easy-peasy job at work and expect to be served hand and foot just like baby, etc.
I am far too young to be experienced in such things, though, but this is just from what I've heard in the past.
But good luck on your site!
Be constant. Do the same thing for the same action and don't waffle or confuse your kids.
Do as much as you can and give as much as you can and when there is still more, always ask for help.
Remember what you are doing is for your wife and child, so the late late night visits and crying over and over won't bother you. As much, at least.
secondly, i think treating your wife like a queen is important. she means the world to you, i am sure.
I don't have kids, but I have this to comment: One thing to keep in mind is that it will be stressful, but in the end it will be worth it. Also, they're lucky, and should remember that. Some of us cannot have kids due to being sterile and whatnot. I guess at times it will look like the grass is greener on the other side from both sides.
I used to report back to home in the late nights due to the work I did. I felt very bad with this (disturbing my wife and son in that night) and I had to leave the job and search for other. Also, have all the medicines and other stuff like diapers, etc in place so that you need not to run suddenly. Having the doctor's phone numbers in hand that helps in sudden sickness is another advice from me.
Don't see them as an object, or something to just deal with. See them as a person, as a human being.