I am really confuzed...

cr3ativ3

Ok, I will post this on the best place for me on the internet today (after google) for me. I have had frihoster's help or fix all the problems I have posted about so why not the biggest thing on my mind today.

K so there is this girl in my class I have liked for almost a month atleast I think. I asked her to a dance and she accepted and when I asked her she seemed happy (made eye contact smiled). Then there was the christmas break so the majority of time I knew her we talked on MSN which somday's I was literally waiting at my computer for her to comon doing nothing not even working on software development I used to. I told her I liked her on the last day of the christmas break and she said "very cool" then it was silent for a few minutes then she asked how long I had felt that way about her and I said a few weeks, she said thats a long time I didn't really understood what she ment by that.

Anyways since we got back to school the first few days she glared at me a few times. By the way I can't stop thinking about its really starting to bother me.

Let me tell you about this other guy in my class before I continue, so this guy is what most of the girls want or atleast they all like his personality and his looks. Most of the girls know they can't have him for some reason or maybe he is just to strange for them. But he always blurts out the funny things that everyone laughs at in the class.

So she would always look back at him in class making very close eye contact with him when he would say funny things and she only started this a few days ago and then this guy started doing the same thing and watching her I guess you could say its one of those factual hunches that they both like each other.

But this is really bothering me plus the girl I like's best friend likes me or atleast she tells me she likes me.

The girl I like can be confuzing because she can seem like she likes me at times also and not like this other guy.

I am confuzed on what to do I can't really compete with this other guy but I wish I could just go up to her and talk to her more about it but I just chicken out.

I really need advice please help. Oh and I read like all the posts in this forum a few were like mine.

Thanks All!

tiel_99

Go for the girl's friend.

If this girl liked you, she would have said something over MSN or at least given you some attention after the break. But she's now making eyes at another guy. Her message: back off. I'm not interested.

So go for the girl's best friend. That's the best.

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cr3ativ3

But I can't stop thinking of her I am always thinking of her and I don't really want to go for her friend her friend is nice and all but ya.

I get confusing messages from this girl that she likes me or she doesn't.

Isn't there anything I can do to try and change her mind without bothering her. Plus I am one of the shyest kids in my class which doesn't help.

loryl

I don't think she likes you. If she did, she would have reciprocated your behavior towards her already, since she knows that you like her. She's also had time to think about whether she likes you or not (over Christmas break).

Look at it from her point of view: you two are both in the same class and are acquaintances, if not friends. When she found that you liked her (but she didn't like you), she was probably trying to find a way to gently tell you that she didn't like you the same way you liked her, without hurting your feelings. She probably still wants to be friends (or whatever), but doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Saying "no" would have been awkward and may have ruined whatever relationship you two had. So... she's probably trying to avoid the situation in general.

Not all relationships are meant to exist. It's better to let it drop than to pursue it and make her feel uncomfortable.

Go for her best friend.

cr3ativ3

Ok, ya this has kinda been resolved thanks for offering help and it turned out she did like me she just was confuzed and didn't know what to say.

Thanks for all your help though

dagurl

cr3ativ3, don't be a backstabber. No girl likes that, ecpsecially when they know a guy likes them and the dude goes for a BFF. It hurts and stings. I know you can't stop thinking about her (as you have mentioned enough) but instead of groveling on the subject, do something. I've found sudoku is the best little teaser. It distracts you plus helps increase your mental speed and memory. Just don't follow loryl's advice. It would just show you're a jerk.

cr3ativ3

Ya, I was kinda wondering why these people kept telling me to do that I am a very nice guy compared to the people in my class. Most of the girls wish I was more open or less shy.

So ya this topic is solved I am not going to be a jerk/backstabber and this topic can sorta be closed unofficial or official because I don't need anymore advice.

Thanks for pointing that out so I knew it wasn't just me seeing something wrong with that.

apple

so you're not gonna tell us if you and the girl are "official"???? Rolling Eyes

cr3ativ3

Lol, Nope. You really wanna know don't you?

cocobirdi

you sound like you're in middle school or something... at that age relationships or crushes flip back and forth so fast and everything's so shallow... being head over heals over somebody because they're "gorgeous" is silly!

my advice is to forget her. if she's not as into you as your'e into her, then no matter what her friend says, move on. if she wanted you, she'd show more interest. there are nicer girls out there!

cr3ativ3

Ok, thanks for the advice lol finally some useful advice anyways ya this topic is resolved so STOP REPLYING TO IT. Lol

windrei

well, i did she like you at the moment you expressed to her, but not very much. And after that day, she might be thinking, to be with you or not, because she is also not quite sure her feelings towards you.

But now, her love to you is fading away, maybe due to the guy you mentioned, maybe not... Did you do anything after that Xmas ??? or you just let herself to think ?? it's a subtle period to her, and if you did not do any, then she would leave you....

i think that guy had taken the right moment to enter the game... you've lost...