That's pretty intense, I'm only 19 and there's no way that I'm ready for marriage, I think you should seriously talk about it with her, and making it a secret would only cause big problems in the family and will eventually take a toll on your relationship, so don't make it a secret.
no not at all. Talk to her and explain things. Ask her to wait until her studies are completed while you get yourself established. Ask her to respect your views and not to ask for marriage so soon.
If you have doubts, you're not ready. It's as simple as that.
I'd ask her why she wants to get married in secret? If a relationship is stable enough that marriage is even an option, you'll still be together when your studies are finished.
Im young to have any tips for U. But i dont wanna get married too young. At least 25-30...
I will tell you what I have told my children. Do not get married til you have 1.a job that has benefits (ie, medical, etc) 2. Til you have a decent savings put away. 3. Will be able to support yourself if the marriage doesnt work out. 4. Absolutely know that you are ready for it.
From what it sounds like you are not. Finish Your studies let her finish hers. If then at that time you are still together then discuss marriage. If you really love each other what is the rush. Are you sick or dying of cancer? if not wait til you are completely ready.....
Ask her what marriage means to her? She may say something like "love, commitment, faithfulness" and her yearning to be married with you so soon may stem from insecurities about those things. Try to let her know that even if you weren't married yet, you'd still be all of those things for her. Marriage shouldn't be rushed and should be done when both of you are ready.
For me you both are to young to get married.
You are not finished your development as a personalities yet and in my oppinion you have a little of personal experience.
In this years young people want to do many things and not to take much responsibilities.
Many people don't have stable job or opportunities for gaining enough money.
There are to many problems to solve if you get married. And, in my oppinion is better if you do not do it at this time.
I think the real question you need to be asking first is if you are ready. I have seen too many marriages disintegrate for the simple reason that things "didn't work out." Now, my opinion is biased because my parents recently went through this, and it was a nasty ordeal. I guess the point is that marriage is a mutual and (in theory) a lifelong thing. To that end, BOTH of you should be completely prepared before tying the knot.
I am by no means a marriage counselor or expert, but this just comes from my own observations. Take it for what it's worth, and good luck!
go have a "secret honeymoon" instead, its romantic yet mysteriously evasive.