ever fall in love with your own best friend..??
some ppl think its not a good thing to fall in love with someone who already know you so well and its not healthy for the relationship..
to me, ive already fall in love with my own best friend, so far, from a friend, to a best friend and now, my sweetheart.. i couldnt be more happier..
she is everything i need.. in terms of ANYTHING..
so, anyone here dating ur best friend..??
yap...i am now in love with my best friend...
she is so pretty, smart and cute...
she has a high sense of humor...
every time i am thinking of her, than i miss her very much...
and so on then i call her...and tell that i love her....
I did. It was about 15 years ago. We've been married for 12 now. 
Personally, I think this can swing both ways...
If both parties (you and her/ or you and him) feel the same way, I think it would be awesome. You guys already know each other's quirks and bad habits, so you don't really have to learn much about him/her. However, in the slight chance that things don't go right, and things don't turn up ok, you have the potential to mess everything up and lose a best friend...
I guess its hard... its a hard call.. but lately I've been thinking about the fact that life is too short to worry about such things.. you just have to do what you feel is right, or what you feel is best, and go for it. Sometimes whats right and whats best arent the same... and sometimes they are..
thats what makes life so complicated...
so.. kiss.
im guessing having ur best friend as your love ones is amazing..
I have, but that was almost a year ago. We're still good friends tho If you are not married to the person who is truly your best friend then you are married to the wrong person.
Friendship is the foundation of real love. It is totally normal and healthy to develop that sort of relationship with a friend. Some people are scared of losing a friendship if the relationship ends, but I think that depends on who you are as a person. Are you selfish and if things end will you be mean, jealous, or clingy? Or are you a true friend and if things end will you continue to share yourself with that person as a friend?
I think if you are a good friend and a good person, giving the relationship a try shouldn't hurt things in the end.
I think its good to date your Best friend that way you know them.
I didn't know her when I first met her (sister of a friend) but my girlfriend is now my best friend. Pretty good, no? 
I'm in love with my best friend and i think thats the way it should be. you almost accidentally fall in love.
afterall.. a partner should be a best friend... with benefits.
shes everything i've ever wanted and its totally ok.
I've never fallen in love with a best friend.. but every woman I've been in love with quickly became my best friend at the same time we fell in love
I personally can't understand couples that get married but don't consider their spouses their best friends.. maybe I just require a deeper personal connection with my partner
Well, my best friend is a woman, and so am I. And I'm heterosexual, and so is she. So no, I don't think we will be falling in love any time soon.
I love my boyfriend more than anything, but he's my romantic partner, my significant other. That's a different thing from being a best friend.
I've never fallen in love with a really close male friend who I've already known for a while. Generally it's pretty black and white as to whether I am attracted to a man or not. If I'm attracted to them from the start, then my interest and intention is to pursue a romantic relationship. If not, I become friends with them. If I'm not attracted to them from the start, I probably never will be.
Felt something for my best friend for about two years before I told her. She didn't feel the same way, but we carried on being good mates anyway; of course it was after that i discovered she'd lied to me and we were never best mates, but still, the principles are the same.
If you really are best friends then something like this won't come in the way; you should be able to deal with it and move on if it all goes sour.
I did when i was 15 years old. It was just a very bad experience.
I used to have a best friend whom I started dating with...it lasted about 3 years. Then the relationship ended and also the friendship. But by that time we had already more or less lost interest in eachother. Or maybe it was becuase I left her for another... 
Well anyway, at first it was great...because we always had things to talk about. Never a dull moment... true.. never a dull moment...
Yeah, it can be hard to sometimes not to have extra feelings for a close friend. But personally, I've preferred to just enjoy and keep the friendship than to have it deepen into something more than could put the friendship at risk. I dunno, I guess for me in most cases it's been that I'd rather be with the person more than to have something with them and maybe not be close to them anymore.
Friendship is the best foundation for love. But, along the way, when one tries to convert the friendship into a romantic relationship, I believe it can also put some risks to the friendship when the love feeling is not mutual. There are people who just reciprocate to the love offer of the friend because he/she does not want to lose the friendship. But this kind of reason won’t see long-term success in their love relationship and eventually fall out of love... and so goes the friendship,too.
The preferred idea here is to take the two relationships as two distinct areas in a relationship– that is, one unique from the other. If you fall in love with your bestfriend, don’t make your being bestfriends as leverage and false interpretation of an imminent love relationship. Similarly, if you want to keep your being bestfriends, don’t make falling in love as your ultimate goal.
Notwithstanding successes in bestfriends-to-lovers experiences, in my humble opinion, it is still better that when you fall in love with someone, it is not due to your being bestfriends but because you really feel love, beyond friendship, for that person. It is difficult to put friendship at risk, but, everyone knows that putting everything at risk is a natural consequence of true love. In this case, when the other party does not feel the same and can't reciprocate to your love , you can take care of your emotion because you have prepared yourself to lose everything in the name of love.
Sometimes this line makes sense: “Friendship to love, always. But love to friendship, never.” Or simply stated, friendship always (or often) leads to love, while love leading in friendship is never (or less probable) to happen.
There is a situation where being bestfriends is better than being lover. A situation where commitment is significant to it – like the LEVEL of commitment from BOTH parties. If NEITHER wants commitment, just stick with being bestfriends.
Its always nice coz yr best friend understand you better than anyone else but also if you break up most of the time you loose both love and friendship. you wont able to role back to friendship.
I liked my best friend's sister and now my friend who I've known since the day I was born...
I've been in love with my best friend too...but unfortunately she ended up with my cousin...too bad... 
I feel in love with my best friend. Now we're married and have an 9 month old baby. I can work out. Think about it. Who knows you better than your mother and your best friend? If she still loves you after knowing everything, she's a keeper!
I have never fallen in love with my own best friend. But i would like to because you will have a better relationship relating to one another and just knowing her thoughts because if she is my best friend she will communicate her thoughts and we will be closer than if we were jsut total strangers when we fell in love with each other.
| jumpbox wrote: |
| I have never fallen in love with my own best friend. But i would like to because you will have a better relationship relating to one another and just knowing her thoughts because if she is my best friend she will communicate her thoughts and we will be closer than if we were jsut total strangers when we fell in love with each other. |
i agree with uwhen or if the relationship ends, you also ending your best friend and friend relationship
true... if the relationship fails, there is no way that we can go back who were used to be as best friends...
Almost all of my best friends r guys so it would be kind of weird for me to even think about it. But isnt your BF or GF really your true best friend.
I guess you can have both but i guess your best freind isnt exactly going to be your opposite or equal. But then again maybe you would have more in common then most boy to girl relationships.
Is it possible to fall in love with your worst enemy? Falling in love with your best friend.. is the worst thing that'd happen to you!
A best friend means: He knows everything about you, your life, your problems, your waknesses..etc.. there are no secrets about you!
If you fall in love with him.. there one thing that's cetrain: No surprises between you people
You're gonna get sick of each others and soon break up that relationship.. better keep away from the best friend!
The problem is.. some people are already in love with a girl.. and they can't tell her so.. when they become friends, he just says: i'll just be her best friend and forgot about love...
but at the very first occasion.. he'll fall in love.. and break down even that friendship | DarkoSS wrote: |
Falling in love with your best friend.. is the worst thing that'd happen to you!
A best friend means: He knows everything about you, your life, your problems, your waknesses..etc.. there are no secrets about you!
If you fall in love with him.. there one thing that's cetrain: No surprises between you people |
I disagree. I had a girlfriend a she was also my best friend that way, we shared our problems and everything. She was 2 in 1 
| DarkoSS wrote: |
You're gonna get sick of each others and soon break up that relationship.. better keep away from the best friend!
The problem is.. some people are already in love with a girl.. and they can't tell her so.. when they become friends, he just says: i'll just be her best friend and forgot about love...
but at the very first occasion.. he'll fall in love.. and break down even that friendship |
Taht point you are right. I won't date my best friend because of loosing that good friendship after breaking up. We both know that and have discused that... But for sometime i was realy thinking about itI was 16, I had been attracted to my best friend (female) for 5 years and then I presumed I'd fallen in love with her, and at Christmas we had sex together which was my first time and her second.
Heh, look what it did to me, the next year and a half afterwards I started treating women like objects, and now I've just realised its not a good thing.
I'm only 18 1/2. Considering this was 2 1/2 years ago and I'd still tell you NOT to do it.
It all depends on the type of people, the type of relationship and all things like that. For me, falling in love with my best friend has been a huge success! We have been together for four years and living together for a few months. Because of the fact that we were best friends before hand, I find it much easier to get along with him and deal with any problems that we might have, because I know how he reacts to things and I also know, that because he nad I don't have any secrets, our relationship is sort of better for it.
For me, falling love with my best friend has worked. And, we are that close that even if we break up, we will still be friends. We have already decided that we cannot stop knowing each other no matter what.
So yeah, I feel it all depends on the people and the type of relationship they have.
| Darkfall wrote: |
| ...at Christmas we had sex together which was my first time and her second. |
Nice Christmas present.Heh, tell me about it.
For new year she gave me a broken heart.
| Darkfall wrote: |
Heh, tell me about it.
For new year she gave me a broken heart. |
In my country, we don't gave presents for New Year.
But, I'm sorry for that.I fell in love with my best friend. I disagree when people say that it's bad for your lover to know everything about you, because the purpose of a long-term relationship is to get to know each other on a deeper and committed level. When you fall for a friend, you know what you're getting into. But at the same time, you'll learn more things about them that could only be shared between a couple.
| urbanbuddha wrote: |
| I fell in love with my best friend. I disagree when people say that it's bad for your lover to know everything about you, because the purpose of a long-term relationship is to get to know each other on a deeper and committed level. When you fall for a friend, you know what you're getting into. But at the same time, you'll learn more things about them that could only be shared between a couple. |
You are absolutely right.
The problem of this realationship is, that after you break up you maybe loose your friendship you had had before you fell in loveI'm also right now trying to make my best friend as my life partner..I don't know yet how I'm gonna do it..But I think I will just spit it out in front of her..
But I'm also afraid she's gonna reject me coz I'm her best fren..And sadly there will be no more friendship between us..Thats really terrifying..
| creezalird wrote: |
I'm also right now trying to make my best friend as my life partner..I don't know yet how I'm gonna do it..But I think I will just spit it out in front of her..
But I'm also afraid she's gonna reject me coz I'm her best fren..And sadly there will be no more friendship between us..Thats really terrifying.. |
If she become your life partner, it woukld be OK, but if something went wrong, you would lost your friendIt is easier to fall in love with a friend because you allow them to get so close that they learn more then you could possibly ever let someone else know. It all just depends on what type of friendship you and the other person have had but you can pretty much fall in love with anyone at any given momment. Love gets hard but your friend is always there to help you and you eventually start wondering about doing things with your friend thats been there for so long and it makes you want to love them even more that they are there for you. 
Yeah... It kind of sucks but it's kind of okay because just being with her makes me happy.
First we were friends, then we dated, and now we're best friends. And now I love her romantically again in addition to loving her as a friend. Maybe it's because we're so comfortable with each other. We even cuddle sometimes, haha. But she just wants to be friends. And I'm so glad that once I told her I liked her again she just said "No... But we're still great friends, right?" and everything was back to where it was before. Man. Where am I ever gonna find someone else like that, huh? But yeah. I love her very much, especially as a friend, though.
I have a besfriend now and haven't been to that point but who knows, in the future I might ask her out. For now, I'm happy being her bestfriend.
| molif wrote: |
| ever fall in love with your own best friend..?? |
Heh, I think this is happening to me...
What's weird is that this is the first time I've admitted it...If you are in love with your close friend then you miss a girl in your life man.
since your friend is already close to you... she will be there always with you as friend... whenever you need so why to create another relationship in a relationship.
Leave your close friends as they are with you. Lover or life partner... lookout for someone else guys...
Hope I said what I wanted to say... Falling in love with my best friend was actually the greatest experience in my life so far.
From the day we met, we just automatically had this connection and by that night it seemed as if we knew each other forever. =]
We went out 4 times, it kept breaking off for pretty much the same reason. He had to move a lot, so the distance was extremely hard. I have to say though, despite it all, he was the best boyfriend I've ever had. He was my first love. And him and I have only gotten closer as best friends rather than split apart! He truely knows me better than anyone and the same goes with my for him. He couldn't hurt me anymore and didn't want to break my heart, and we both knew that if things were different [as in if we lived close by from the start] we could've lasted a life time. It was too hard, we're still only young adults anyway. Although we moved on mentally, our hearts will always love each other forever. We made a promise the day we first went out. "I promise I'll always be with you, weither as your best friend or more" and that promise, to me, means more than anything in this universe. No matter what, he calls me his other half and I call him my other half. We'll forever have that connection. =]
We took the dive, we gave our love a shot.
In the end though, we've created a strong bond of friendship.
No regrets at all. Just memories and a love that will never die. =]
Thats a bit long, but yea. I could write pages about Our Story. hahah
I have a best friend I have fallen in love with. As previously mentioned... I found it just happened. I didn't mean for it to happen... and I am so scared to tell him because I do not want to lose our friendship. You see, I am in a relationship that is in the process of breaking up. And, I am confused if whether or not the reason for the break up is because of my feelings for my friend. I cannot imagine my life without him, and I am pretty sure he feels the same way, and we have never acted on it because I was unavailable. However, I am confused still because I love my partner, and am considering trying to work it out. This is where it gets confusing, because I still want my best friend in my life, but not the feelings. It gets harder and harder to see him everytime, when all I want to do his hold him. One suggestion I got, and I'll admit it's what my head is saying, is to not see him anymore. However, my heart is telling me different, and looking at it, I cannot imagine doing it. This person is very important to me, and I could never hurt them like that. Not talking to them would feel like I am abandoning them... I am scared to tell him how I feel, and I guess I know I should just to let him know where I am coming from... I do not want to lose this friendship.. it's crazy because before we used to just meet with friends, and then we started talking more. We are soo much alike, and have simillar backgrounds..... it was so easy to be myself with him, and I did not feel like he judged me, he accepted me for me. I am so scared that I am going to lose him because I let myself fall in love with him... Any suggestions???? Anybody go through something similar??
lol, that was the very bad thing youve done.. lol..
nwiez.. its really bad coz you treated some girls like object.. you must consider some girls side or feelings..
i dunno what i am talking about..
lolx
but anyways.. maybe its ok.. if you stop..
| molif wrote: |
| ever fall in love with your own best friend..?? |
Yeah, I once upon a time I lived my best friend, we were in another country far from homeland and she was really prettier than she was in home land, so my soul whispered to me "This is the girl you were waiting for years!" Loll..
But, alas! I think, love with best friend will never last, this is because, she/he knows you mre than the other girls!
Cool![/quote]I also felt in love with my best female friend and well, now we are a couple
It's not impossible... This is not as complicated as the ladies want it to be. This thing happens, and it's is more natural than the average people can accept.
I've fallen in love with a classmate once. I didn't know her, so I began the friendly approach. I successfully became her friend. Then, a long time is wasted until I make the real approach. It was too late for two reasons: 1- She was already with somebody, but I didn't care, I felt so much love for her that I was up to engage in a conflict; and second, and most important: she had already developed a feeling of friendship towards me. She said that "it wouldn't be worth to throw away our friendship" <--bullsh*t. It's absolutely no big deal. I could still be her friend, and even more: I was here, available, ready to make her the happiest girl in the world. Shame on her.
Did you see how stupid women are in this aspect? They waste REALLY good opportunities, like the one to be with a trusted person, but no, they choose the S.O.B's instead. After that they begin the suffering and don't know why.
it isn't impossible.. in fact, once you have fallen in love, you will go all out to treasure it..
Hurray .....! Never commit this mistake...
Friends can't become partners and Love/Friendship will never long lasts as you proceed in future.
| tempdbs wrote: |
Hurray .....! Never commit this mistake...
Friends can't become partners and Love/Friendship will never long lasts as you proceed in future. |
I think that the 'mistake' is exactly thinking like that. Why can't they? | Da Rossa wrote: |
I think that the 'mistake' is exactly thinking like that. Why can't they? |
Da Rossa-
You mean to say I am thinking ODD.. 
| tempdbs wrote: |
| Da Rossa wrote: |
I think that the 'mistake' is exactly thinking like that. Why can't they? |
Da Rossa-
You mean to say I am thinking ODD.. |
Sorry but I didn't get it. I don't understand certain acronyms. What I meant to say is that a line of thought like yours - and millions of women - is very sad.in some ways i think your girlfriend is my best friend
tbh i just avoid trying to go out with my friends as much as possible, just so it doesnt wreck the friendship
Been there. Done that.
Turned out terribly screwed up one time, but wonderful another.
So I guess it just depends.
| molif wrote: |
ever fall in love with your own best friend..??
some ppl think its not a good thing to fall in love with someone who already know you so well and its not healthy for the relationship..
to me, ive already fall in love with my own best friend, so far, from a friend, to a best friend and now, my sweetheart.. i couldnt be more happier..
she is everything i need.. in terms of ANYTHING..
so, anyone here dating ur best friend..?? |
Hi, I don't know if I am supposed to start above or below this entry. Let me know. As for best friends--absolutely. My husband and I have been together for 17 years and married for 15. We now have 2 boys 6 and 4. The boys are brilliant but more than a handful. we used to be best friends and would stay up alnight talking and playing darts, cards, pool, etc. We became best friends and I would have never dreamed about getting romantically involved and then one day it happened. I think it gave us a terrific foundation but after this many years and some hardships we aren't what we were. We don't communicate like we used to. Keep that in mind and maybe try harder to keep that going. I guess I'm realizing that I need to put alot more work into my marriage and romance and maybe slack off some on school, business, and kids. I don't know how to balance it all. Any suggestions?Falling in love with your best freind can happen quite easily seeing that you have most of the basic requirements of a relationship covered right at the start (i.e. share, care, respect communication, trust, fun etc etc), If the feeling is mutual this could lead to a really fullfilling relationship, I personally about 75% of my relationships has been with best freinds or close freinds as girlfreinds, not intentionally it just sort of happens, and best freinds and close freinds does not imply I dated my kindergarden group of freinds one by one, I travel allot and in the various cities and countries one tends to make allot of new best friends and close freinds ; ) .
I guess one gets to feel a real strong bond when you hook up with a best freind and for me the feeling has always been mutual, you reach a point when you know your feelings are more than just freinds and you also realise that the other person feels similar, its easy to tell as you know each other quite well already.
I would advise it, it takes things to different levels
This is the eternal subject you know, actually generally it is not so good and doesn't work well if you fall in love with your best friend, even if all the first examples have shown the opposite. This said, it can happen that the natural evolution of a love relationship, goes through thephases of friend, best friend and then lover, and they can even last very long if no reminiscences of the friendship time come back, that is, if no drama or whatsoever happens and then one remembers the times of friendship where everything was cool, and then concludes that the best for both parties is to become freinds again...it's a go or break thing you know... This really depends on the personalities and emotional profiles of people..... I just hope the best for everybody and that they are going to open eyes wide and not miss the love of their life.... this happens so rarely when one looks at divorce rates in our society.
some ppl think its not a good thing to fall in love with someone who already know you so well and its not healthy for the relationship..
It is illogical to fall in Love with somebody whom you dont know .
And there is no point in falling in love with a person whom you dont know. Unfortunately you going to live with the Character for the rest of the live (if it is true love) and not with Beauty or Money or Physical fixtures.
Happy Loving... I think that falling in love with your best friend isn't such a healthy thing to do... First of all, there is a very high chance that the "love" you think you feel for him/her is only in your mind. It may not be real, because it can be induced by the way you get along with your friend. What I'm trying to say is that, when it comes to a very tight friendship between a man and a woman, you can easily confuse this with love. Then again, there are so many relationships that don't function.... I won't give my friendship with a person for something that might destroy it! Because there's nothing more likely to destroy a perfectly good friendship than a great romance!
Sorry, it was "There's nothing better than a great romance to ruin a perfectly good friendship" (A Lot Like Love)
| MyBonnie wrote: |
| I have a best friend I have fallen in love with. As previously mentioned... I found it just happened. I didn't mean for it to happen... and I am so scared to tell him because I do not want to lose our friendship. You see, I am in a relationship that is in the process of breaking up. And, I am confused if whether or not the reason for the break up is because of my feelings for my friend. I cannot imagine my life without him, and I am pretty sure he feels the same way, and we have never acted on it because I was unavailable. However, I am confused still because I love my partner, and am considering trying to work it out. This is where it gets confusing, because I still want my best friend in my life, but not the feelings. It gets harder and harder to see him everytime, when all I want to do his hold him. One suggestion I got, and I'll admit it's what my head is saying, is to not see him anymore. However, my heart is telling me different, and looking at it, I cannot imagine doing it. This person is very important to me, and I could never hurt them like that. Not talking to them would feel like I am abandoning them... I am scared to tell him how I feel, and I guess I know I should just to let him know where I am coming from... I do not want to lose this friendship.. it's crazy because before we used to just meet with friends, and then we started talking more. We are soo much alike, and have simillar backgrounds..... it was so easy to be myself with him, and I did not feel like he judged me, he accepted me for me. I am so scared that I am going to lose him because I let myself fall in love with him... Any suggestions???? Anybody go through something similar?? |
I got through something like this... and I choose to tell my best friend what my feelings were... And now, after almost 2 years, I am so sorry I did that... I've lost my friend... And the person I loved will never be the same again, even if we are still together... I was very unsure of what I was feeling, I didn't know who I loved more... I didn't know who I wanted to be with... And I hurt their feelings and mine too. My advice is not to tell them everything! Don't make them pass through the incertitude you are passing right now. Give it time. Things will work out, eventually. They always do. Just DON'T HURT THEM, because you'll never be able to get over it, you'll always feel guilty and the relationships that you have with both of them will never be the same again. Never!Well, I think we all have different lucks. It once happened to me, I asked my best friend out and it turned-out to be a sour experience.
I vowed I would never allow that experience to repeat itself, but day after day I still wish we got on well. Honestly speaking, I agree that it is one of the good things that can happen to a guy, if I have that opportunity again, I will be more careful.
I think it's o.k to fall in love with a friend. You do run the risk of loosing a good friend but that's the risk you have to be willing to take to gain a lover and friend for life. I had a relationship with a guy that I've been knowing all my life and it didn't work out but we are still friends today. Sometimes it's hard to here him talk about other females and he doesn't like to hear me talk about other guys but we both have a place in each other's heart that no one else can fill. It does depend on the people involved because everyone can't do that and go back to being friends.
| molif wrote: |
| im guessing having ur best friend as your love ones is amazing.. |
it is i am there now No, once i fell in love with a friend, but she is not my best friend. i just wanted to be close to her and take care of her, wanna protect her, wanna make her smile, wanna make her happy. But finally i did not tell her my feeling, as i thought it's better to keep the friendship with her instead of changing it to love relationship. Now we are still friends, and best friend i think. i will not love her anymore because i already met my true love. That's fate.
Well, I think falling in love with the best friend is, in my opinion, the best way to a relationship - you know each other, know how the other one feels and so on... And, it works for me | molif wrote: |
| true... if the relationship fails, there is no way that we can go back who were used to be as best friends... |
That is true. So I would ask if it's time to play the romance card now or not. ...You might wait until you both have enough experience and are at a point in your lives were you could marry if it came to that. I certainly wouldn't throw it away in a matter of satisfying adolescent hormones. ...I don't know how old you are. ...In alot of ways, it makes a difference. Are you two ready to settle down?im not yet experience well fell in love with bestfriend
Loving a best friend is very common. It's because in every problems you have, your best friend is always there for you. Whenever you're lonely and sad, best friend is always there. That's why it is very easy to be in love with your best friend.
As for me, My girlfriend is my best friend. I love her so much, she's always there for me, let's just say for thick and thin. hehe.. We've been together for almost four years now and is very content for what we have.
She is my best fren and i love her a lot. But im affraid tat i will lost her friendship when i express my feelings to her. I will keep my love deep in my heart. Perhaps 1 day, she might felt it and kick me out of the game or just accept me, or i might meet with another gals. Sincerely, i love her so much, and she is Shirley.
Hi,
i have been in love with my best fren.... now she is not with me.... one istake and she is gone.... i still curse myself for that day... 
This is quiet common! Basically love is never at first site. That is infatuation love is when you come to know some good qualities of person and start respecting him/her for the qualities. you start feeling secured with him or feel happy .you start thinking about him and gradually have a feeling you will not be able to live without him/her or any feeling similar to that.
thats love!
yep....
I had a really really close friend, a girl who I grew up together since we were very young.
When we were young, she was just like everyone else, a good friend. But as we grew up, hit high school, we were no longer little kids, and she grew up to be a fine girl.
When we were sophomores, I began feeling something for her, and I thought I was in love with her for like 6 months. After all, she was and still is hot . But I never told her anything, and just kept my feelings for myself.
My relationship with her is kinda weird though. We both had bf/gfs before, and we would give advices to each other and stuff, but we flirt with each other as if we were going out.
We go out on dates and stuff, but we are not having a relationship with each other. If we wanted to, we could probably get together, but we seem to like us as we are right now
Conclusion: dont tell your best friend your true feelings towards her/him. Yes it has happened to me once, if only i would have moved faster 
. Everyday I think about her and everyday i regret not telling her how i felt. Now she is going with my (who i thought was my best) friend. (Friends don't go behind friends backs) He knew I really liked her and knew i wanted to ask her out but he went to her one day and asked her out. He was not even interested he done that just to get me mad. I wish she knew how two faced he is!!! 
haha im one of those people who cant help but say what they feel
so of course i told my best friend i was in love with him
and, being my best friend, he explained he didnt feel the same way and we went on as usual
only i reminded him from every time we were together how i felt and he always reacted the same
it wasnt unpleasant at all, ...until he took advantage of my feelings when i was drunk
...but besides that! haha we're still good friends except i hit him whenever he starts telling me about some girl he likes i have best friend and she doesnt know what feeling i have for her... but someday i propose a courtship for her then she decline me its hurt for me but in couples of months she called me and asking some date so as friend so i accept her invitation.. then after dinner she ask me if i love her so definitely i answered her question YES!! then she said sorry for my silly attitude... shae love me too... i really happy right now...
the reason why is that you think you'll be more compatible wid her...its not a valid reason for loving someone...even I had fallen before wid my best friend....but we know we love each..but try to choose which one would be better, if to be more than friends or stay the same...
hum in fact i don't think you decide to love your best friend, it just happens. But yeah, you do have a lot in common normally when you're best friends. or then you just understand the other really easily, which is not given to everybody in some cases. and being with this person all the time and having fun are two things that can lead to loving the other. but i still do not think you "decide" to fall for the other! as this is the unforgetable memories in my mind but now our relation is weak gue to some misunderstanding
Well I finally took some advice from the forum. There are 2 of my best friends i really like, well i told them both how i felt, now they both trust me more than they do themselves, they told me they have never had someone accually comeout and tell them that kind if thing, they said if i was brave enough to do it i must good either really in love or crazy for them!! So now i when and told them and now the one girls sister who is a year younger than her said she wants a man like me!! so now i have three girls that wont leave me allown now and really badly want me, they tell me this!!!!!! If thats not good enough now people are really starting to notice me and there are a bunch of people that are starting to get togeather with me and hang out. Last night i invited my one friend over and someone found out and thought i was having a prty or something so last night i had 7 girls that really like me over to my place!! um i dont know about what you think but i think this is the best decision of my life!!! Some advice to anyone who has a friend that you really like, TELL HER!!!!! either she will date you, or she will be better friends with you! If you teller her and she just tells you to get away or something along them line she really is not your friend!! If she is your TRUE friend she will understand you and get a gigle out of it and either become closer friends or it will just be over looked and it will continue as if nothing ever happend. Take the advice from the forum TELL HER!!!!!!!!!!
I fall in love with one of my guy friend, and I don't even realize it until he is left for study..
I feel so depressed for this, I've been so cold hearted to guys (had bad experienced with guy before), and he know about that very well, we are friends after all.. now I confused, should i tell him? I can guess the consequence, example he would laugh at me, arh! it's scared me everytime I imagined it..
Maybe what Guelila is correct,
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but it's really painful to hide this feelings, especially when I hate guys the most. I think he is the only guys i get okay with.. Never hide your feelings as they will get out eventually, one way or the other. As you cannot control how they'll eventually come out I reccommend to simply tell him how you feel. You might have been cold to him, appologize if you feel you should. If he is your friend (and maybe loves you too) he'll understand for sure. I fell in love with my best friend too. I told her and she told me no but we're still close friends.
Simply tell him how you feel, prevent it from coming out on a moment that you cannot control. Make sure you are in control of when you tell it so you've got a good chance of succes.
For me, I believe that friendship is the best foundation of LOVE! True Love is freeing. One can love truly if he truly knows the person he is loving.
I feel in love with my friend. She is my coursemate and even we rent the same hostel near our university. I have told her that I have fallen in love with her but now it turns out to be.... I losing her as my friend.
She don`t want to talk with me anymore. She treats others just as normal but she just ignore me, don`t want to talk even a single work to me. I feel like, I have losing friendship just for love.
Why this can happen, I don`t understand. I am very sad on this and very dissapointed. Friend and lover, does it really possible. I don`t know.
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I feel in love with my friend. She is my coursemate and even we rent the same hostel near our university. I have told her that I have fallen in love with her but now it turns out to be.... I losing her as my friend.
She don`t want to talk with me anymore. She treats others just as normal but she just ignore me, don`t want to talk even a single work to me. I feel like, I have losing friendship just for love.
Why this can happen, I don`t understand. I am very sad on this and very dissapointed. Friend and lover, does it really possible. I don`t know. |
Erm, I guess she doesn't want to hurt you that she don't know how to reject you, maybe that's the reason why she stop talking to you. Now that I think of it, one of my male classmate ever fall for me too, he confessed to me, then I did what your friend did to you. I stopped talking him, in fact I was actually avoid and ignored him.
The reason is not because I hate him, I don't want to hurt him but I'm afraid to reject him, and I guess that is why we girls acted like that o.OI found that the worst thing you can do is to hide your feelings. If you tell her your true feelings than she will know and there will be complete honesty straight up!! She will respect you telling her because than she will know your not trying to hide something.. Most girls can tell if you like them so if you dont tell them i find it makes the friendship ALOT harder because she knows you like her but dont want to tell her. If you tell her than she will respect that you wanted her to know and if she likes you than your all set. If she doesnt like you in that way she will tell you to protend that it never happend. So no matter how it goes it will be better if you tell her!!
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I feel in love with my friend. She is my coursemate and even we rent the same hostel near our university. I have told her that I have fallen in love with her but now it turns out to be.... I losing her as my friend.
She don`t want to talk with me anymore. She treats others just as normal but she just ignore me, don`t want to talk even a single work to me. I feel like, I have losing friendship just for love.
Why this can happen, I don`t understand. I am very sad on this and very dissapointed. Friend and lover, does it really possible. I don`t know. |
I think what karrupin said made sense. If I were you I'd wait for a moment if she starts acting normal towards you again. If she doesn't I'd look her up and ask her why she's ignoring you. As she probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings, don't hurt hers while asking. Stay nice and polite and simply tell her it's OK if she doesn't love you but that you do want to stay friends.
I'm not a girl so I can't tell you how she might react but that's what I'd do.This happens to everybody man, I know of hundres of people that experienced such a thing. And quite honestly, I don't think there is any rule about whether it should be good or not. I guess it just depends on whether such a relationship if everything goes wrong can destroy a group of best friends or if if one of the lovers can get over the separation that it makes both suffer ver much, because they would stiill wanna be best friends and see each other very often. so that's it, it's like life, no answers to nothing Unfortunately she was first my best friend girlfriend and then after they've separated we became very close but not to close perhaps because of that matter.
She is so beautiful and she is still my best friend but she has another guy now and I am still looking.
My time will come.
The thing is in my case the girls that I meet turn out to be best friends and I don't know what is about me?
You probably have a talent for becoming friends with girls. Nothing to worry about, most of my friends are girls too. Like you said yourself: Your time will come. Just stay calm and see when it comes.
im planning 2 tell my bestfren dat im falling in love wit her..i've been her bestfren for 5 years now and im accidently noticed im falling 4 her 2 weeks ago when i got jealous..if im her bestfren im not supposed 2 feel dis way,if im her bestfren i shud support her if he find sumbody else dat can take a gud care of her like i always support her in dis past few years..but now what i feel is different than b4..i want to make her smile,happy with me not with sumone else..i tried avoiding her coz i cant stand the way she talk bout sum other guys..i break the rules of our frenship when i fall in love wit her..i became sumbody else,not her fren anymore..so i guess if i dun tell her im gonna lose her coz i cant stand to be near her but yet so far..i cant stand to look at her and feel really hurt deep down under when she talks bout other things..so ihave 2 explain 2 her why acted weird lately n clear things up..wish me luck 
From what I've seen and read it can simply go two ways. Or you will get a perfectly happy relationship or it'll create quite a mess. Although I have a feeling that last thing doesn't happen very often.
I know that feeling… I felt several times that I fell in love with a friend but after some time I realized that it was not love. Not the kind of love I think it should be.
I think it’s not good to show how you feel unless you are thinking that there is possibility that your friend will feel the same… One of my best friends told me that love me, I wasn’t feeling the same and I felt that I could never think about our relationship being other then friendship… We are still friends but there is a distance…
never ever jump to the situation easily. it will tend to destroy your friendship. examine your feelings first before running around and telling her/him that you've fallen inlove with him/her. In my cases, my friends dominantly are girls. Guys told me that its better to court my friends because i know them thouroughly, but in my point your just abusing the situation. It does not mean that you are close to your friends can already be love. Its dangerous to paddle around in situation like this. In my experience, i tried to court my friend during our high school days and turn up so badly that even our friendship is affected. If you feel that its really love and your friend feels the same, then you can make your move or maybe the your friend will make a way.
I am in love with all my friends.
Wow. There are all amazing now I really think about it...
But going back to the topic in context.. aha...
The person I've chosen to be with has always been a friend. I think that if your partner is your best friend, then it is always easier to talk with them about issues, whereas a lot of people in relationships tend to have a friend outside their relationship who they talk to about what's bugging them about their other half.
However, if you are not in a relationship yet, then telling the person your feelings can be incredibly hard. So it is a tricky topic to be honest...
I was dating my best friend.
Until she began to use me for physical things.
Now we aren't dating and we moved on to people we actually care about.
Well i cared about her but she didn't really care about me.
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I was dating my best friend.
Until she began to use me for physical things.
Now we aren't dating and we moved on to people we actually care about.
Well i cared about her but she didn't really care about me. |
I know how that feels!! It has happened to me once. I'm happy i found out early tho because i found out she was just using be too get what she wanted. After i found that out we had a very long discussion about it! After i talked to her about it she seen what she was doing after the fact. After the situation we only became closer too me. Still too this day she wants me more and more, she is trying too prove to me she is sorry and it wont happen again, but i tell her if it happened once (even if they say it wont) it will more than likely happen again! She is trying to prove to me we are perfect for each other, and other than that incident there is nothing wrong with her!! Personally i think she is the most amazing person i have met! I cant seem to get over that one time tho! Personally she is everything i ever wanted but like i said just that one thing set me right off her. I dont know what i should do about it! I really want to be with her soo bad and she wants too be with me, but only that one thing!! So i don't know... This kinda thing is never easy!!Have I ever fallen in love with a best friend?
I have developed these sorts of problems for as long as I can remember! I always fall for my friends, at least temporarily. Its happened on a fairly consistent basis, actually. 
I think it might be partially due to the fact that I am attracted to people who also meet my best friends requirements (they seem to be inextricably intertwined). And the fact that my best friends are all guys.
When I got to college, I had a crush on this guy from the moment I met him and found out he was a Joss Whedon fan. We even planned on going out on a date (I asked him). Sadness and rejection and ridiculous self-drama aside, we eventually became best friends! Luckily he has just enough personalities traits that really bother me to keep me from ever wanting to actually date him! We're actually going to be sharing an apartment with another friend this coming year...
...I'm holding out hope that this won't rekindle anything irritating like interest again. i always wanted to have my best friend as my girl friend. because we like each other, then only we can become best friend. but i'm not sure if we love each other, cause i'll scared she will reject because we use to be friend, and so i think maybe she would have the same feeling. and that make us, and most of the best friend maintain to be friend.
Personally, I think this can swing both ways...
If both parties (you and her/ or you and him) feel the same way, I think it would be awesome. You guys already know each other's quirks and bad habits, so you don't really have to learn much about him/her. However, in the slight chance that things don't go right, and things don't turn up ok, you have the potential to mess everything up and lose a best friend...
I guess its hard... its a hard call.. but lately I've been thinking about the fact that life is too short to worry about such things.. you just have to do what you feel is right, or what you feel is best, and go for it. Sometimes whats right and whats best arent the same... and sometimes they are..
he's two years older than me and we were introduced as friends and team mates for this lame ocean competition. then after we started to get closer and hung out more often. so we were best friends and loved each other as friends. however, we never saw it coming that we would like each other. but now that we are together, we finish each others sentences, share clothes (well i just take them...), and drive around LA together. i couldn't have found anyone so perfect and cute... hes so cute.
