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Can you love two people at once?
I was just curious about what everyone thought. Can one person really love two people at once? this includes any type of preference: homo, bi, hetero, etc....
Explain your answers too. I want to know what reasoning you have behind it.
Explain your answers too. I want to know what reasoning you have behind it.
| Winterborne wrote: |
| I was just curious about what everyone thought. Can one person really love two people at once? this includes any type of preference: homo, bi, hetero, etc....
Explain your answers too. I want to know what reasoning you have behind it. |
I love several. My wife, my kids, my family, some friends.
If you're talking strictly sexual, I would also venture to say yes.
I will say now that I have never been in love, and so I may entirely miss the point, but here we go.
Yes, I think so. Just as you can be really great friends with two people; just as you can hate two people; just as you can adore two children equally, I believe you can be in love with two people. Not to say that you wouldn't feel guilty about being with one and not the other, and not to say that I think it's a good idea to love two people, but I certainly think it's possible.
Yes, I think so. Just as you can be really great friends with two people; just as you can hate two people; just as you can adore two children equally, I believe you can be in love with two people. Not to say that you wouldn't feel guilty about being with one and not the other, and not to say that I think it's a good idea to love two people, but I certainly think it's possible.
I think I can, but it's not right. I will be confused. I wish I have two hearts!
Yeah, I'm pretty sure that you can love (romantically) two people. I'm not saying it is a good situation in most cultures, but it happens.
Speaking from personal experience, it can be pretty amazing if all three people feel the same way towards each other. Arguments almost always had an automatic mediator, less housework per person, and there was almost always someone to hang with. I used to think about how they say a three legged stool is the most stable. Might be true if it wasn't so frowned upon by society.
Speaking from personal experience, it can be pretty amazing if all three people feel the same way towards each other. Arguments almost always had an automatic mediator, less housework per person, and there was almost always someone to hang with. I used to think about how they say a three legged stool is the most stable. Might be true if it wasn't so frowned upon by society.
If three people love eachother equally in a relationship, there can't be anything wrong with it, can there?
But I guess it starts getting a bit wrong when one person loves two people and the others don't love in union...
But I guess it starts getting a bit wrong when one person loves two people and the others don't love in union...
I think you can.
No one's the same, so they're gonna appeal to you in different ways. It's just kinda bad lucky to meet them and fall in love with them at the same time.
But that's romance. You can love like your family and all at the same time.
No one's the same, so they're gonna appeal to you in different ways. It's just kinda bad lucky to meet them and fall in love with them at the same time.
But that's romance. You can love like your family and all at the same time.
I believe that as some before me have said, that you can love more than one but it would be very confusing.
I think that I actually have loved two persons at once but then one was a fading love and the other one was a new one becoming stronger.
I think that I actually have loved two persons at once but then one was a fading love and the other one was a new one becoming stronger.
I believe its possible.
In my case it was getting feelings for someone who treated me good, but still having feelings for someone I loved prior, and honestly I still do.
In my case it was getting feelings for someone who treated me good, but still having feelings for someone I loved prior, and honestly I still do.
| Winterborne wrote: |
| I was just curious about what everyone thought. Can one person really love two people at once? this includes any type of preference: homo, bi, hetero, etc....
Explain your answers too. I want to know what reasoning you have behind it. |
No u cant love 2 ppl at once, it's more like love one and lust for the other!!! True equilibrium of a relationship cant' be shared with another party...
Your question doesn't do us much good, as the first responder pointed out, without knowing what you mean by love.
Based on what I think you're referring to...
I think love is wanting nothing but good and happiness for someone and finding oneself, through empathy, tied up in that outcome.
When you extend that to romantic love, the shared hopes for each other develop aspects of both physical and emotional intimacy.
I think the individuality of the emotional and physical intimacy in romantic love, that is to say, the depth of a one-to-one interaction in this way, is unparalleled.
To love two people at one time romantically is to deny both the full depth of intimacy possible in a relationship. "I could never love anyone more than you" or "You are more beautiful than any woman that has ever lived" are examples of things you can't say to a woman who is but one of two partners.
To willfully deny them the full depth of possible intimacy, I think, is a deficit of love. So no, you can't *really* love two people at a time.
Based on what I think you're referring to...
I think love is wanting nothing but good and happiness for someone and finding oneself, through empathy, tied up in that outcome.
When you extend that to romantic love, the shared hopes for each other develop aspects of both physical and emotional intimacy.
I think the individuality of the emotional and physical intimacy in romantic love, that is to say, the depth of a one-to-one interaction in this way, is unparalleled.
To love two people at one time romantically is to deny both the full depth of intimacy possible in a relationship. "I could never love anyone more than you" or "You are more beautiful than any woman that has ever lived" are examples of things you can't say to a woman who is but one of two partners.
To willfully deny them the full depth of possible intimacy, I think, is a deficit of love. So no, you can't *really* love two people at a time.
No you cant love 2at once, as the way in which I understand love, I think you can love them but it would be unfair to the both of them as both would think you truely deeply madly love them but you would only feel that way for one of them for the other You will have a strong Bond/freind/ lover but not truely madly deeply and therefore for the one you truely love it would be unfair as somewhere deep inside her/his personaly he/she would feel as if he/she where sharing you.
I would say this type of true 3 way equilibrium is imposible when you try to parallel it with human nature, the 3 of you might imagine it while its happening but as soon as the fase passes the group will break up. Even if we try to search for evidence of this in human history its never ever happened that three people meet in their 20s then get maried and live happy ever after, not even close to it as it is not in human emotional nature from a emotional prespective but from a sexual prespective it is evident in more poeple the you might imagine but only from a lust/sexual prespective.
just my thoughts but if it works for you dont let society look down on you as who ever says anything is just jealous of the harmony the tree of you might be experiencing and such close bonds between three entities so just proceed and enjoy
cheers
Mic
I would say this type of true 3 way equilibrium is imposible when you try to parallel it with human nature, the 3 of you might imagine it while its happening but as soon as the fase passes the group will break up. Even if we try to search for evidence of this in human history its never ever happened that three people meet in their 20s then get maried and live happy ever after, not even close to it as it is not in human emotional nature from a emotional prespective but from a sexual prespective it is evident in more poeple the you might imagine but only from a lust/sexual prespective.
just my thoughts but if it works for you dont let society look down on you as who ever says anything is just jealous of the harmony the tree of you might be experiencing and such close bonds between three entities so just proceed and enjoy
cheers
Mic
Yes, of course you can love several people at the same time.You can love each person in a different way.It depends on you and the kind of people that you have a relationship.
I think loving two people will lead to a seveir headache 
. make up ur own mind and enjoy the greatest moment with the one u choose..
. make up ur own mind and enjoy the greatest moment with the one u choose..If you fall in love with two people at once, try to choose only one and it won't make any problems to you!
| Winterborne wrote: |
| I was just curious about what everyone thought. Can one person really love two people at once? this includes any type of preference: homo, bi, hetero, etc....
Explain your answers too. I want to know what reasoning you have behind it. |
If it was about just love, my answer is simply YES. However, I guess you are talking about being engaged in a serious love affair with another partner that may end in a long lasting relationship such as marriage. In such case, my answer is NO. You cannot be faithful iand connected n such relationships to more than one person at the same time.
I'm not sure, but I'm not too keen on polyamory.
Love as in friend/family love, of course. If you're talking about that, then I love lots of people! But, loving someone and being *in* love with someone are different things, I think.
But romantically, I don't think I can be in love with more than one person.
Love as in friend/family love, of course. If you're talking about that, then I love lots of people! But, loving someone and being *in* love with someone are different things, I think.
But romantically, I don't think I can be in love with more than one person.
Before I reply, I think you all should take a look at here
I hope you all looked at it, and maybe posted your comments too. Well I kind of love this girl P, and even though i say I don't like J, when my friends try out their stupid tricks(try to make me and her talk, try to make us meet, etc,etc), I kind of like that. I mean does that mean I like J? I am confused! That is why I voted 'maybe'(wasn't 'maybe' one of the options?)
Well, i was supposed to answer your question, but what I just did was overload you all with all my problems. So, my answer is, maybe. If I got OK with one of them, I could vote no. But I can't make up my mind. But as all of you said here, I am only 13!
I hope you all looked at it, and maybe posted your comments too. Well I kind of love this girl P, and even though i say I don't like J, when my friends try out their stupid tricks(try to make me and her talk, try to make us meet, etc,etc), I kind of like that. I mean does that mean I like J? I am confused! That is why I voted 'maybe'(wasn't 'maybe' one of the options?)
Well, i was supposed to answer your question, but what I just did was overload you all with all my problems. So, my answer is, maybe. If I got OK with one of them, I could vote no. But I can't make up my mind. But as all of you said here, I am only 13!
You can love as many people as you love at one time. It is very possible. However, you cannot have more than one romantic relationship at one time. If you are facing this problem, I suggest being honest with both of them, and if you lose them both, at least you haven't lost your dignity. If you do not lose the one you choose to be with, then you have to earn back the trust by always being honest about everything.
Hmm... "here I am the deer in the headlights again"
I am gonna go with "no" on this one. When you truly love someone you give of yourself to them. I do not mean sex nor do I mean love with a family member or a child. I mean love in the way you love a girlfriend or a spouse. That love you give your partner, more so your equal.
I see alot of faiths that say yes to this question, though some form of jealousy always spawns from it. The old attadge of "one man one woman" seem to ring true here.
How can you being in "love" with more than one person, you would be in less that "love" with the other, if that makes any sense.
not unlike how if you have 2 children you can love both at once or love both your parents at the same time, etc. Love is not limited by societally imposed boundaries.
all love should be unconditional, whether it is for your children or your spouse - why can't you develop a loving, trusting relationship with more than one person?
I know you want us all to say it is impossible and wrong, but it happens. There isn't enough love in the world anyway, why impose unnecessary limits?
all love should be unconditional, whether it is for your children or your spouse - why can't you develop a loving, trusting relationship with more than one person?
I know you want us all to say it is impossible and wrong, but it happens. There isn't enough love in the world anyway, why impose unnecessary limits?
I really don't know for sure about this but I'm in a similar fix. 
I love my gf but haven't seen/heard from her for quite a while since she's home now. On the other hand I've gotten real close to this other girl whom I really like and we got the world in common between us. I just don't know what/how i feel about either of them anymore. All I know is that it might end up in a real mess and I don't want to hurt either of them. 
Btw, the second girl knows about my gf.
I love my gf but haven't seen/heard from her for quite a while since she's home now. On the other hand I've gotten real close to this other girl whom I really like and we got the world in common between us. I just don't know what/how i feel about either of them anymore. All I know is that it might end up in a real mess and I don't want to hurt either of them. Btw, the second girl knows about my gf.| ainieas wrote: |
| I really don't know for sure about this but I'm in a similar fix. I love my gf but haven't seen/heard from her for quite a while since she's home now. On the other hand I've gotten real close to this other girl whom I really like and we got the world in common between us. I just don't know what/how i feel about either of them anymore. All I know is that it might end up in a real mess and I don't want to hurt either of them. Btw, the second girl knows about my gf. |
If she knows about your girlfriend then I wouldn't worry to much at first. She'll respect the fact that you've got a girlfriend. For yourself, however, you'd need to figure out how you feel. Talk about it with people you really trust if you think that'll help and just think about it. That'll probably help.
It's possible love many people.
And it's possible to be sexullay attracted to more than one.
But I think it's quite tough to feel an equal "connection", the kind that perfect partners have, with more than one person...
Different people satisfy different needs in our life.
But if you've found the right life partner, you'll find almost all your needs fulfilled by them...
So to answer your question, yes. And no.
And it's possible to be sexullay attracted to more than one.
But I think it's quite tough to feel an equal "connection", the kind that perfect partners have, with more than one person...
Different people satisfy different needs in our life.
But if you've found the right life partner, you'll find almost all your needs fulfilled by them...
So to answer your question, yes. And no.
its true that you can love many people but i voted for no...no in the sense that the level of each love differs from one another, so in the end, you will be loving one person with the bigger and higher feelings you have felt for her/him...
I think I may be currently in love with 2 people right now.. what should i do?
I have been dating my girlfriend for nearly 6 years, but i am now finding my self falling for her best friend who i have also been friends with a while now!
:s
I have been dating my girlfriend for nearly 6 years, but i am now finding my self falling for her best friend who i have also been friends with a while now!
:s
i am in love with a lot of girls
that includes Elisha Cuthbert and Emmanuelle Chriqui
cant get my mind of 'em
that includes Elisha Cuthbert and Emmanuelle Chriqui
cant get my mind of 'em
I think that while you can have a familial love for more than one person, your parents, (siblings?) and friends, I think that it is impossible to actually be in love with two people like 2 women or 2 men at the same time. You might be attracted to or be infatuated with two or more at a time, but you cannot love more than one person. Love is a comittment, not a feeling. True love doesn't end with outer appearances, but extends to personality and other characteristics. Sure two people you love may be great people, but could you truthfully say to them that they are your one and only? If they asked you if they and the other person you 'love' were both in trouble, but you could only save one, who would you pick? Love is unconditional if it is true love. No ifs and ors or buts.
loving two people at once is very stupid because you don't have a two heart.
You don't know what is the meaning of love if u love two person at once.
Obviosly one of that person you love is true and the one is a lie....
Don't be blind and be real to yourselves...
in this generation LOVE is a simple word that you can't sure if it is emotional or nothing...
You don't know what is the meaning of love if u love two person at once.
Obviosly one of that person you love is true and the one is a lie....
Don't be blind and be real to yourselves...
in this generation LOVE is a simple word that you can't sure if it is emotional or nothing...
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If she knows about your girlfriend then I wouldn't worry to much at first. She'll respect the fact that you've got a girlfriend. For yourself, however, you'd need to figure out how you feel. Talk about it with people you really trust if you think that'll help and just think about it. That'll probably help. |
Hmm...I'm still pretty lost. Actuallylot of things have taken place this last week. My gf did come back but not she wants a three year gap, with her concentrating on her studies and all. I haven't told my gf about the other girlin my life but i feel i need to soon. I'm in quite a mess thinking about it all
anyone who says their IN LOVE with two people at once is only LYING to themself. In my opinion, they are IN love with only one; they just can't break-up with the other for one reason or another (comfort, house, children, money, image...). Now...don't get me wrong, you can LOVE two or more people at once, but you can't be IN love with two people at once. I always say there is a difference when it comes to love and IN LOVE.
my quote: many say that love is a choice and it can be if you choose to force it, but falling in love never is ~sherry ann
my quote: many say that love is a choice and it can be if you choose to force it, but falling in love never is ~sherry ann
| ainieas wrote: |
| Hmm...I'm still pretty lost. Actuallylot of things have taken place this last week. My gf did come back but not she wants a three year gap, with her concentrating on her studies and all. I haven't told my gf about the other girlin my life but i feel i need to soon. I'm in quite a mess thinking about it all |
Again, stay true to your feelings. I understand it can be confusing so I'd reccomend to talk it over with people you really trust, your parents or best friend(s). Just think for yourself and make up your mind on what you want. Do you still love your girlfriend? Are you falling in love with the other girl? How do you feel about that 3 year gap?
If you make up your mind about those things for a start, it would become a lot easier to come up with a next step.
You can love many at the same time.. but it hurts..
if you truly love someone.. that can never fade.. even if they leave you...
i know these things from personal experience....
if you truly love someone.. that can never fade.. even if they leave you...
i know these things from personal experience....
Yes - my mother and father.
But seriously - to real emotion we don't have the influence, but to simultaneous connections with 2 persons - already this way. In this second case I regard dishonest it (without a "triangle" with the full awareness of everyone interested)
But seriously - to real emotion we don't have the influence, but to simultaneous connections with 2 persons - already this way. In this second case I regard dishonest it (without a "triangle" with the full awareness of everyone interested)
Yes.
It is quite possible to love many different people at once, at different levels and at the same level. I currently love more than 20 people, but there is one person that I hold closest to my heart - my fiance`. I would do anything for that man.
In that "more than 20" figure, I included my friends, some of my family that actually give a *flarn!* about me, and my fiance`. I am not going to get into religion here, but my God also fits into there.
The key thing to realize, is that there are all kinds of versions of love; to me, it is a shape shifter. with this person, you love them as a friend. with this person, you love him like a husband or wife. and with this person, you love them as if they were family. and with that person over there, you love them because they actually -are- family, even though they drive you crazy!
That is a definate yes. As far as sexually, there are people who do that... it's possible... but I choose not to.
It is quite possible to love many different people at once, at different levels and at the same level. I currently love more than 20 people, but there is one person that I hold closest to my heart - my fiance`. I would do anything for that man.
In that "more than 20" figure, I included my friends, some of my family that actually give a *flarn!* about me, and my fiance`. I am not going to get into religion here, but my God also fits into there.
The key thing to realize, is that there are all kinds of versions of love; to me, it is a shape shifter. with this person, you love them as a friend. with this person, you love him like a husband or wife. and with this person, you love them as if they were family. and with that person over there, you love them because they actually -are- family, even though they drive you crazy!
That is a definate yes. As far as sexually, there are people who do that... it's possible... but I choose not to.
I won't limit myself to loving only one person. I have too much to give. I love my wife but I could easily love someone else. She can't understand nor will try. She's set in her ways like most people are.
if you love two person at a time, u are in for one hell of a ride of pain and agony.. haha..
tt's all i can say.. cos high chances tt u may lose both..
tt's all i can say.. cos high chances tt u may lose both..
I think I can, but it's not right. I will be confused. I wish I have two hearts!
Yes, I think so. Just as you can be really great friends with two people; just as you can hate two people; just as you can adore two children equally, I believe you can be in love with two people. Not to say that you wouldn't feel guilty about being with one and not the other, and not to say that I think it's a good idea to love two people, but I certainly think it's possible.
Yes, I think so. Just as you can be really great friends with two people; just as you can hate two people; just as you can adore two children equally, I believe you can be in love with two people. Not to say that you wouldn't feel guilty about being with one and not the other, and not to say that I think it's a good idea to love two people, but I certainly think it's possible.
I think one can love two at once as what tjf000 has described earlier, but the idea is it won't last...
one may consider you a betrayer while the other will not accept it from the first glance.
It depends on all three of you...
one may consider you a betrayer while the other will not accept it from the first glance.
It depends on all three of you...
yes, you can love more than 1 person, but depends on what kind of love you are giving. couple love, is selfish, that only can own by one person, if not, people will still fight for that, the one, couple love is all about sex. family love, is semi-close. you only love your family, not others family and family love is all about care. friend love is selected, you'll defense your friend when they are in trouble, but only those you want them to be your friend, friend love is all about trust.
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| Hmm...I'm still pretty lost. Actuallylot of things have taken place this last week. My gf did come back but not she wants a three year gap, with her concentrating on her studies and all. I haven't told my gf about the other girlin my life but i feel i need to soon. I'm in quite a mess thinking about it all |
Well if she wants a gap, maybe you have a gap too? Best to discuss this with her. Honesty is always the best policy and will bring great relief to you.
This is probably a good example of loving two people at the same time. In this romantic context one can only be fully committed to one, otherwise it messes your head up.
I think I can, but it's not right. I will be confused. I wish I have two hearts!
It all depends on your definition of love. But in the sense of "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person" that is also romantic, yes, it's possible. Strictly sexual desire can be quite easily be directed to more than one person, and it may mean nothing more than arousal. But that romantic, deep love can also be distributed to more than one individual with a certain appreciation for humanity. However, this love needs guidelines for success if it were to become formal. If one were to be in a stable relationship with more than one person, conflict should be avoided by admitting your plans to both--that you have a polyamorous relationship. The emotion of jealousy can often disrupt these sort of relationships; that is why there requires a discussion on expectations, limits, and so forth. Those who have the characteristic to be possessive will not be successful in a polyamorous relationship.
Polyamory is growing in popularity across the United States. Not only socially but as a religous practice as well. True Mormans and many earth-based religions view polyamory in a more breoved light. While Mormonism views it at as right for men and men only many Wiccans think of love as something to be shared among many as the love of The Goddess is shared by all.
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