Self esteem in relation to relationships
Definition:
In psychology, self-esteem or self-worth includes a person's subjective appraisal of himself or herself as intrinsically positive or negative to some degree.
I have done some reading on how your self esteem affects your relationships and happiness.
Self-esteem involves both self-relevant beliefs (e.g., "I am competent/incompetent", "I am liked/disliked") and associated self-relevant emotions (e.g., triumph/despair, pride/shame). It also finds expression in behaviour (e.g., assertiveness/timorousness, confidence/caution). In addition, self-esteem can be construed as an enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem) or as a temporary psychological condition (state self-esteem). Finally, self-esteem can be specific to a particular dimension (e.g., "I believe I am a good writer, and feel proud of that in particular") or global in extent (e.g., "I believe I am a good person, and feel proud of myself in general").
As you can see there are many dimensions of self esteem. I think the most important aspect of self esteem that affects your relationships is what you think of yourself. Am I good enough or not.
What makes good relationships? Simply: I am good enough. I am good enough to get this kind of attention. I am good enough to not let you handle me in this way. I am good enough to show you the respect that you deserve and to get the respect that I reserve.
See this is all to it. If you are not good enough – low self esteem, not any of your relationships will be of any good. So start working on that self esteem to get more out of your relationships and life.
Definition:
In psychology, self-esteem or self-worth includes a person's subjective appraisal of himself or herself as intrinsically positive or negative to some degree.
I have done some reading on how your self esteem affects your relationships and happiness.
Self-esteem involves both self-relevant beliefs (e.g., "I am competent/incompetent", "I am liked/disliked") and associated self-relevant emotions (e.g., triumph/despair, pride/shame). It also finds expression in behaviour (e.g., assertiveness/timorousness, confidence/caution). In addition, self-esteem can be construed as an enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem) or as a temporary psychological condition (state self-esteem). Finally, self-esteem can be specific to a particular dimension (e.g., "I believe I am a good writer, and feel proud of that in particular") or global in extent (e.g., "I believe I am a good person, and feel proud of myself in general").
As you can see there are many dimensions of self esteem. I think the most important aspect of self esteem that affects your relationships is what you think of yourself. Am I good enough or not.
What makes good relationships? Simply: I am good enough. I am good enough to get this kind of attention. I am good enough to not let you handle me in this way. I am good enough to show you the respect that you deserve and to get the respect that I reserve.
See this is all to it. If you are not good enough – low self esteem, not any of your relationships will be of any good. So start working on that self esteem to get more out of your relationships and life.
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