What happens when that in love feeling starts waning? Can you get it back, or is there another way?
Love: a feeling or a verb?
I believe that it depends on how strong that "love feeling" is. If you talks much with that person the feeling will probably grow stronger but if you ignores it in a early stadium and don`t talks to that person you can probably stop it at a early stadium even if I don`t know what that should be good for.
But when the "real love" have come over you it is no way back.
Believe me, it is easier to go through it and let it fade with time that trying to hide it from yourself. I know from own experience, I tried to hide the feelings from myself a long time but that only bringed me sorrow and stretched the whole thing over a longer time. Now does she now and that brought me other problems but it is better than trying to get the feelings back.
They will sooner or later come up to the surface.
But when the "real love" have come over you it is no way back.
Believe me, it is easier to go through it and let it fade with time that trying to hide it from yourself. I know from own experience, I tried to hide the feelings from myself a long time but that only bringed me sorrow and stretched the whole thing over a longer time. Now does she now and that brought me other problems but it is better than trying to get the feelings back.
They will sooner or later come up to the surface.
Short answer: In a new relationship, love is a feeling. In an old relationship, it's a verb.
Long answer:
If you're lucky and work hard to stay emotionally intimate with each other, there are still moments in an old relationship that you still feel the same fresh-in-love feelings that you got in the beginning.
But, for the most part, no. When a relationship starts to age, it changes. The endorphin rushes that give you those feelings when you start a new relationship go back to normal. That "high" feeling we get in a new romance are more about brain chemicals than most people think. What's left when they've settled down is something even more special and longlasting...real love, real commitment.
This is typically the point where a lot of people "fall out of love" with their partner and move on to somebody else. Because all of a sudden, the relationship takes more work to keep going, without the immediate gratification of the endorphins that used to make them feel crazy in love. There's even a theory that the ones who jump from new relationship to new relationship are actually addicted to the high they get from the endorphins...addicted to the emotional state of falling in love. So when that period in the relationship is over, they jump to the next, not realizing completely that they're giving up something that could be better.
And it IS better. Sure, you miss the rush, but you can get it back occasionally for short spells. For long-term, everday life shared together, the comfort of an old, worn-out pair of jeans works better...even if it doesn't sound quite as exciting.
Ask any couples who've been together for 50+ years. 9/10 will tell you the same thing.
Long answer:
If you're lucky and work hard to stay emotionally intimate with each other, there are still moments in an old relationship that you still feel the same fresh-in-love feelings that you got in the beginning.
But, for the most part, no. When a relationship starts to age, it changes. The endorphin rushes that give you those feelings when you start a new relationship go back to normal. That "high" feeling we get in a new romance are more about brain chemicals than most people think. What's left when they've settled down is something even more special and longlasting...real love, real commitment.
This is typically the point where a lot of people "fall out of love" with their partner and move on to somebody else. Because all of a sudden, the relationship takes more work to keep going, without the immediate gratification of the endorphins that used to make them feel crazy in love. There's even a theory that the ones who jump from new relationship to new relationship are actually addicted to the high they get from the endorphins...addicted to the emotional state of falling in love. So when that period in the relationship is over, they jump to the next, not realizing completely that they're giving up something that could be better.
And it IS better. Sure, you miss the rush, but you can get it back occasionally for short spells. For long-term, everday life shared together, the comfort of an old, worn-out pair of jeans works better...even if it doesn't sound quite as exciting.
Ask any couples who've been together for 50+ years. 9/10 will tell you the same thing.
You can stop seeing each other for a while, like more than 2 weeks. But for most people this isn't an option. If this isn't an option for you than you can wave the feeling gooooodbye after a while.
as tylergram very eloquently put it, it all depends on how hard you work on making it live. And i am sad to realise how right that sentence is 
I think that it can be intimidating the whole love thing, simply because it leaves you so vulnerable.
Am i the only one who thinks loving leaves you rather vulnerable?
Response anyone?
DJ Santos you asked about different cultures working... I'm not too sure about that.
I don't think they can.
Response anyone?
DJ Santos you asked about different cultures working... I'm not too sure about that.
I don't think they can.
Once the "in love" feeling starts waning, there is a variable chance of getting it back. Actually, it's probably all entirely dependent on your personality, and the quality of the relationship in the first place.
I believe there is no way to bring back the "in love" feeling that you first felt, but a similar "love" feeling can be brought back. Otherwise you would just get bored of someone very quickly and divorce or feel obligated to stay with someone.
I believe there is no way to bring back the "in love" feeling that you first felt, but a similar "love" feeling can be brought back. Otherwise you would just get bored of someone very quickly and divorce or feel obligated to stay with someone.
So true so true....
Should you then not depend on how you feel to stay in a relationship?
Should you then not depend on how you feel to stay in a relationship?
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| Short answer: In a new relationship, love is a feeling. In an old relationship, it's a verb.... |
You might find this interesting, it gave me so much hope in relationships:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Alho5rFA.LV1dMvpojM67TDsy6IX?qid=1006060301089
in my opinion:
Love means man and woman will live together for a long time.
Like means man and woman will play together for a while.
Love means man and woman will live together for a long time.
Like means man and woman will play together for a while.
how do you know wether you are in luv??? 
how do you differentiate luv, like, infatuation, crush etc etc
? i/m sure i have one of these 
how do you differentiate luv, like, infatuation, crush etc etc
? i/m sure i have one of these I absolutly agree with tylergram and I want to send a big kiss to my girlfriend Tea.. Love you <3 
hmm that feeling you are talking about is nothing more than "Boring"
You get bored and you have to try new things ... but together ... try enjoying your time together and maybe you will get "love" back
You get bored and you have to try new things ... but together ... try enjoying your time together and maybe you will get "love" back
how do you differentiate what you're feeling love, like, infatuation, crush?
Now that's a question that defines your coming of age.
Nobody can tell you what you're feeling, you will have to define it and what it means to you.
Now that's a question that defines your coming of age.
Nobody can tell you what you're feeling, you will have to define it and what it means to you.
Love is definatly a little bit of both a feeling and also alot of hard work. I believe love is putting a person before yourself.
love is the beat of your heart....
it is the smile on your face whenever you see your beloved one...
its the pleasure of talking n spending time with ur loved one....
love is verb for bookworms....
but its the language of your heart for a normal person...
its a reason to survive in this earth....
love is feeling n feeling love is natural....its types varies...
it is the smile on your face whenever you see your beloved one...
its the pleasure of talking n spending time with ur loved one....
love is verb for bookworms....
but its the language of your heart for a normal person...
its a reason to survive in this earth....
love is feeling n feeling love is natural....its types varies...
When you truly, madly, deeply love someone, you should show that person, respect and faithfulness
Too many people are far too spontaneous (maybe they should be thinking more) in their love acts before saying the romantic expression "I love you", "Je t'aime" (in French) leading up to commitments that most people cannot make last for a long time
Thus, I consider love words as being the result of trying to capture the very moment and make it as wonderful as possible
I barely used that strategy in my relationships for I believe, "feeling" is much better than "saying".
Furthermore, there are other ways of expressing your feelings, like, writing poetry, playing romantic songs, designing romantic websites (lol), making beautiful drawings, sculptures or any kind of art
Utopia.
Too many people are far too spontaneous (maybe they should be thinking more) in their love acts before saying the romantic expression "I love you", "Je t'aime" (in French) leading up to commitments that most people cannot make last for a long time
Thus, I consider love words as being the result of trying to capture the very moment and make it as wonderful as possible
I barely used that strategy in my relationships for I believe, "feeling" is much better than "saying".
Furthermore, there are other ways of expressing your feelings, like, writing poetry, playing romantic songs, designing romantic websites (lol), making beautiful drawings, sculptures or any kind of art
Utopia.
If you think your love for someone is fading, then you should leave the relationship as soon as possible. Before someone gets hurt. When you and your partner are meant to be together your love won't fade. You will only love him or her more everytime you see them. And you will always want to love them more....
If you feel that your love is fading leave them as soon as possible because if you keep dating them someones gonna get hurt.
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