I talk to my friend (whos a girl and im a guy) a lot and we just talk about random things that are happening in our lives. Then at times we'll talk about nothing and the convo will be dead. Then the next day it'll be 10x better than the day before and it just keeps going. So I'm just wondering how is it different with girlfriends vs. friends?
What do you talk about with your girlfriend??
| picsite wrote: |
| I talk to my friend (whos a girl and im a guy) a lot and we just talk about random things that are happening in our lives. Then at times we'll talk about nothing and the convo will be dead. Then the next day it'll be 10x better than the day before and it just keeps going. So I'm just wondering how is it different with girlfriends vs. friends? |
After being married for almost 12 years, we usually talk about current events in our lives, or joke, or desired positions for the night's festivities.
I'm 18 and she knows all there is to know about me... =p
we talk about pretty much anything, about how the day went, about the future sometimes... it's really great.
we talk about pretty much anything, about how the day went, about the future sometimes... it's really great.
I was thinking of starting a new thread but i think this will fit in here just fine. I hope its ok with you picsite, this is your topic afterall.
To start things off she's not my girlfriend, but i am courting her for quite a while now & we mostly talk about seriously stuff, not necessarily boring, like her studies, music, painful experiences, etc & when we walk, she always "clings" to my arm or holds my wrist, but she NEVER holds my hand, nor will she let me hold hers.
And there's this other guy too. Dont know much about them but my sister once got a hold of her fone (they're close friends) & read their messages. She told me they were always exchanging jokes, or talking about everyday things, trivial things actually but that they're clearly having fun!
So, any ideas guys whether im faring better than this other guy?
To start things off she's not my girlfriend, but i am courting her for quite a while now & we mostly talk about seriously stuff, not necessarily boring, like her studies, music, painful experiences, etc & when we walk, she always "clings" to my arm or holds my wrist, but she NEVER holds my hand, nor will she let me hold hers.
And there's this other guy too. Dont know much about them but my sister once got a hold of her fone (they're close friends) & read their messages. She told me they were always exchanging jokes, or talking about everyday things, trivial things actually but that they're clearly having fun!
So, any ideas guys whether im faring better than this other guy?
I talk to my girlfriend about everything. We talked about our past, present and future. It's like a no boundries conversation everytime and I find it fun.
It shouldn't really be much different than what you talk about with your friends, just a bit more intimate.
I think the best place to be is to beyond the whole "nice-talking phase" because it's not particularly intimate or real.
I think the best place to be is to beyond the whole "nice-talking phase" because it's not particularly intimate or real.
| ColdFire wrote: |
| I was thinking of starting a new thread but i think this will fit in here just fine. I hope its ok with you picsite, this is your topic afterall.
To start things off she's not my girlfriend, but i am courting her for quite a while now & we mostly talk about seriously stuff, not necessarily boring, like her studies, music, painful experiences, etc & when we walk, she always "clings" to my arm or holds my wrist, but she NEVER holds my hand, nor will she let me hold hers. And there's this other guy too. Dont know much about them but my sister once got a hold of her fone (they're close friends) & read their messages. She told me they were always exchanging jokes, or talking about everyday things, trivial things actually but that they're clearly having fun! So, any ideas guys whether im faring better than this other guy? |
i here had the exact problem. my friendship with her is probably over now. i dunno how to cope with it. how can you?
| ColdFire wrote: |
| I was thinking of starting a new thread but i think this will fit in here just fine. I hope its ok with you picsite, this is your topic afterall.
To start things off she's not my girlfriend, but i am courting her for quite a while now & we mostly talk about seriously stuff, not necessarily boring, like her studies, music, painful experiences, etc & when we walk, she always "clings" to my arm or holds my wrist, but she NEVER holds my hand, nor will she let me hold hers. And there's this other guy too. Dont know much about them but my sister once got a hold of her fone (they're close friends) & read their messages. She told me they were always exchanging jokes, or talking about everyday things, trivial things actually but that they're clearly having fun! So, any ideas guys whether im faring better than this other guy? |
Put a cap in his arse.
Or put ur arm around her when you walk, it doesn't say as much as holding her hand but it's better than her clinging to your wrist.
Thank god that I dont have a girl friend.
No thinking, no worries.
No thinking, no worries.
Since a lot of people would say that your spouse should be your lover and your best friend, I would hope that you would talk to that person as a lover and as an intimate friend. Being boyfriend/girlfriend is just a step along the road to that point, so you should expect it as such.
Key differences:
(1) Most friends don't call each other cute little nicknames too much (sometimes, but not too much like couples tend to do)
(2) Most friends don't talk about kissing/touching the other person
Both differences are related to the role of "lover."
Key differences:
(1) Most friends don't call each other cute little nicknames too much (sometimes, but not too much like couples tend to do)
(2) Most friends don't talk about kissing/touching the other person
Both differences are related to the role of "lover."
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| I'm 18 and she knows all there is to know about me... |
No offense bro, but if you are only 18 neither of you know enough to know what you know and what you don't know.
For me conversations are generally just random topics that come to mind... I never used to be good at making conversation so I always relied on my counterpart to start it off and I would continue it. Hence I always blamed the counterpart for a dead conversation. Having gotten over myself I am currently a waterfall of words and I can't always remember what it is I was talking about, but somehow that's not even what is important.
For me, the nicest thing is lying in bed with my partner and just being able to say anything and everything and just listening to the other persons voice. It doesn't really matter what is being said at all.
Other than that, conversations will run from anything to everything. Fun, sad, gossip, anything that's happening in our lives and the world in general.
For me, the nicest thing is lying in bed with my partner and just being able to say anything and everything and just listening to the other persons voice. It doesn't really matter what is being said at all.
Other than that, conversations will run from anything to everything. Fun, sad, gossip, anything that's happening in our lives and the world in general.
Me and my girlfriend talk of most things happening around us. From our common and different interests, about our favorite sports, our dreams. I think we talk about almost everything.
| Stlstg wrote: |
| No offense bro, but if you are only 18 neither of you know enough to know what you know and what you don't know.
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I disagree.... you're definitely NEVER old enough to know everything about the world, yourself, or another person.
That being said, wisdom and knowledge are not very well associated with age. If you've been best friends with someone since the age of like 3, it's quite likely you and your friend know more about each other at 18 than most people who are 50 or 60 do about any person in their life. Those types of relationships, that type of closeness, can happen at any age. No matter how old you are, there are new experiences on the way that will teach you more about who you are and who you are becoming.
If you want more to talk about - well, try finding more to experience!
Isant it nice when you feel like you dont have to say anything all the time? Talking is good of course but its great when you can just feel comfterable sitting quietly and enjoying the moment.
"Isant it nice when you feel like you dont have to say anything all the time? Talking is good of course but its great when you can just feel comfterable sitting quietly and enjoying the moment."
IMHO, it's the most undervalued part of a relationship. There are few memories I treasure more than one of me sitting on a rock with my girlfriend, overlooking a river, and just holding hands. No talking.
Not that I don't like talking, but like you said, it is great sometimes, to just enjoy the moment.
IMHO, it's the most undervalued part of a relationship. There are few memories I treasure more than one of me sitting on a rock with my girlfriend, overlooking a river, and just holding hands. No talking.
Not that I don't like talking, but like you said, it is great sometimes, to just enjoy the moment.
When you have as much in common as me and my significant other, you never run out of things to talk about. I find half the time we don't get to sleep at a decent time because we're so busy talking about everything.
We have the many of the same hobbies, but not all the same. Our views are similar, but not always the same for everything. So we pretty much have a lot of room for discussion. We can debate, but we never argue. We don't agree on everything, but we can understand each other.
What do we actually talk about? Well, as I said, everything: Work, hobbies, friends, his drawings, my story ideas, relatives, the future, world news, etc. He's my best friend.
We have the many of the same hobbies, but not all the same. Our views are similar, but not always the same for everything. So we pretty much have a lot of room for discussion. We can debate, but we never argue. We don't agree on everything, but we can understand each other.
What do we actually talk about? Well, as I said, everything: Work, hobbies, friends, his drawings, my story ideas, relatives, the future, world news, etc. He's my best friend.
We talk about anything and everything.
Only been with my partner for about 9months, but i'm living with her - not in ideal circumstances, but all things considered, I'm happy, and I hope she is.
She's my best friend, she's the one person I could tell something, even if i couldnt tell anyone else.
Only been with my partner for about 9months, but i'm living with her - not in ideal circumstances, but all things considered, I'm happy, and I hope she is.
She's my best friend, she's the one person I could tell something, even if i couldnt tell anyone else.
When i talk with a girl i always care the most to make her laugh and to make her enjoy the conversation. Mostly topics come up themselves while in conversation. But if they dont come i talk about things we have in common or just about how great she is ;>
| Keran wrote: |
| When i talk with a girl i always care the most to make her laugh and to make her enjoy the conversation. Mostly topics come up themselves while in conversation. But if they dont come i talk about things we have in common or just about how great she is ;> |
which is fine, imo, until you're on an intimate level with that person, when laughing, and hearing how great she is, isnt exactly what she wants to hear 24/7
It's just that I like girls for talking, because you talk different things...With guys you have to more male to talk about things. Like we go mountainbiking. About how fast we go, about the mud, about how difficult it was climbing. With girls you talk about the nature being so beautiful. That there is no smog, you can hear birds singing...
It's a different world, because those soft things are not male enough to talk about. But as a man I also like to talk about useless things once in a while. So for that I love to talk to girls.
It's a different world, because those soft things are not male enough to talk about. But as a man I also like to talk about useless things once in a while. So for that I love to talk to girls.
Just about anything. I discuss everything that happens with my G.F, apart from details about school, which I discuss mostly with a friend (who's in the same class).
So pretty much everything.
So pretty much everything.
| picsite wrote: |
| I talk to my friend (whos a girl and im a guy) a lot and we just talk about random things that are happening in our lives. Then at times we'll talk about nothing and the convo will be dead. Then the next day it'll be 10x better than the day before and it just keeps going. So I'm just wondering how is it different with girlfriends vs. friends? |
I think everyone needs to approach each individual from separate angles. I might not talk to some friends in the same mannerism as others, and it's because different personalities react in different ways. I think it's best to only let out as much as you can trust in the person, if trust is absolute why not just be totally straight-up? It is the best way. I'll add that when people are around each other constantly conversations will run dry at times, not everyone can entertain others 24/7
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