I get it al the time at school 
. just because i'm different and i have long hair and stuff. I'm just one of them people you either like or you hate. There's no inbetween. When walking down the corridor, people notice me, im not like any other people you dont notice. I wish i was, but i guess everyone in my school knowing my cn have it's advantages. Cnt think of any right now lol. but it probably does.
Hammy Hi,
That was a sorry post bullying just do not spring up from middle of nowhere. If you being bullied, then its not because of your looks, but because of your composure. Its because of the way you carry yourself.
If you air more confidence in the way you talk, commit yorself and carry yourself around then you might as well do yourself a world of good by getting more people towards you.
I can give you an advice (most ppl do not like to take it). Normally most people need a shoulder to lean on, or a strong person to defend them or be with them whenever they need it. Being that person gets more people toward which in turn boosts your confidence a lot. Do not ever talk to people about your short comings and ailments. Then people relate you with these only.
And please do not consider this as an advice.
Rgds,
Satheesh
I used to be bullied waaaaay back (like 8 years ago), because I was being a pathetic weakling. I was always afraid to talk loud and stuff during class and I didn't feel comfortable at all... not cool.
I've changed now though, thank god. I don't bully myself, because that's lame too. Let others be the way they want and leave them.
I used to be bullied. Now I am strong enough to bully them back with my mind games.
i have never been bullied at school, though i am quite small.
I got bullied the that start of high school.
I told my mum about and the following year i changed school and never got bothered ever since.
Some school just have d*ck Heads in them.
The one suggestion I'd give about bullying is never take any of their crap. Who are they that they get to treat you subhumanly? If they toss shite at you, they'd better be ready to catch it in return. Never allow someone to make you feel subordinate.
People have made attempts to bully me, however they never succeeded. I'm able to stop them mentally, somehow.
No, I haven't really ever been bullied at all. Not in elementary school and not in middle school as of yet.
I've been bullied once. There was this kid who was a year older than me because he failed a class. I don't know how he ever got the stupid thought but he tried to force into doing something for him. I told him I am not his errand boy. Then he threatened to get violent. I told him he wouldn't make a chance. He got violent and he never made a chance. I may look a little odd but that doesn't mean I can be messed around with. After that he never tried to lay a finger on me or anyone who was near me. Today he still stares down at his feet when he greets me. The few people who were beginning to profile themselves as bullies always stayed clear of me. Just show them you are not a push-over and that doesn't necessarily mean using violence.
The only person who can really bully you is yourself. They can say all the crap they want about you, but in the end, it's all down to whether you choose to believe them or not.
These bullies are the people who will end up with a crap job for the rest of their lives.
Used to get bullied during school when I am small But not anymore. Some kids are just too playful. I got bullied when i was in Jr.High. I think i was about 13 and the kid bullying me was 15 or 16. I don't know how you define bullying. I was being beaten or anything but it was mainly mentally hurt. He made fun of me in front of alot of other kids. He was a big guy so i didn't really mess with him.
No, just totally ignored by the people I lived with (boarding school).
Looking back, though, a lot of it was my own fault. If someone tried to be nice to me then I just assumed they were being sarcastic, and that really didn't help, haha.
(Don't get me wrong--I'm not suggesting that people who are bullied are at fault--I'm just saying that a lot of it is often in your own head.)
yeah been there, been bullied, but after a while i just started to ignore it... most the stuff anyone said got old and lame.
im the same... u love me or u hate me...
but i dont get bullied... cos i dont take no ISH from anyone - i hav my hair short... i can even grow it... people dont care, u just gotta keep ya head up... and take on these bullies...
Thanks for the great responce guys.. I hate chav's because they hate me, first impressions from chav's are never good. They always shout something and me or my mates, mainly because all of my close friends have long hair except one. lol.
This wasnt at school, but i was once walking though a small village with 3 of my mates when some chavs started shouting at me. And me.. being as i am turn around and shouted bak, i wouldnt normaly do this in my own home town, because i know them all in my town, and know who's got connections and stuff, and i most likely to meet them again. but anyways, we start shouting random abuse at each other, it's not really my thing, but i was in one of those moods.
Admittedly my friends werent saying anything and there was about 8 of them. They pushed there look and i start walking towards them, they all immediately turned and ran away thru some houses behind a fence.
I got to the curbe and stood there when suddely they all came back out with spades and pitchforks and other random gardening tools.
They decided to run at me with them and my friends were kinda shitting themselves and started to back off behind me. So they started shouting, running at me with thier garden tools and i just stood there n didnt say anything. As they got closer to me, they realised i wasnt going to run away or anything and began to slow down and eventually stopped infront of me not knowing what to do.
They were kinda pethetic really. I hate it when people underestimate me. Ive begun to walk standing up straight, instead of slouched. I find less people have shouted random abuse at me 
Heh.
Anyways. Sorry if u cldnt be bothered to read all that :p
Hammy. good 2 hear u standin up 2 em...
i also... dislike chavs... how would i class myself... i dont, im just myself... i listen 2 hip hop/rap but from the 90's... u cannot put a label on me...
chavs abuse everyone and anyone... so jus stand up 2 em, they r all bitches at heart
I was never really bullied, I just gave off that I don't give a crap attittude, so people just left it at that, lol... I think if people know they can get to you, they will, and if they know you won't give them or their comments the time of day, they won't waste their time! been bullied once... that's right... most people are bullied because of their looks and the they behave and bring themselves in front of other people... but sometimes, some people gets bullied because a certain group of people make fun with them...
I have never been bullied at school, as long as you are not minding other business, you should be safe at school.
I haven't been bullied.Anyway, it would be difficult, cause there actually are no bullies here, except for very few exceptions(at least at my school).
| amusic wrote: |
| I have never been bullied at school, as long as you are not minding other business, you should be safe at school. |
You truly believe that the people that are beeing bullied, they are, because they are minding other peoples buseiness???I don't think so, maybe you should reconsider-i hope that you are joking, cause, you can't serioulsy believe this. I actually was a bully at school. I don't think I ever took anyones lunch money tho.
| satheesh wrote: |
Hi,
That was a sorry post bullying just do not spring up from middle of nowhere. If you being bullied, then its not because of your looks, but because of your composure. Its because of the way you carry yourself.
If you air more confidence in the way you talk, commit yorself and carry yourself around then you might as well do yourself a world of good by getting more people towards you.
I can give you an advice (most ppl do not like to take it). Normally most people need a shoulder to lean on, or a strong person to defend them or be with them whenever they need it. Being that person gets more people toward which in turn boosts your confidence a lot. Do not ever talk to people about your short comings and ailments. Then people relate you with these only.
And please do not consider this as an advice.
Rgds,
Satheesh |
However, at times, it may be how he looks mostly, but you're right, it's how you act or what stuff you do that really makes you stand out. If you do something weird and different, then you'll probably get bullied. But remember that bullies got nothing better to do and bad karma is going to come around someday.Finnaly!, someone on the oher end of bullying.
What sort of bullying did u do SkullPizza? .. Did u pick on them smaller, less popular, weaker, shyer than you?
I guess i could be called a bully, because i bully the bully's lol. I want them to feel how i used to. People in my year darnt say anything to me anymore . but i used to get pushed around.
Same on my school bus, with any bus anyways, i always sit at the back because i hate it when people sit behind me and the annoying people throw paper at you . But anyways, this happened on the school bus until one time someone pushed me too far and i stood up and just smacked him in the chest hard as i cld (and im not exactly weak or small) and he flew over the back of the chair and ended upside down on the chair behind, he just laid there and cried lol.
Does no one else got any storys to share? lol.
Hammy. i do agree with satheesh, it depends on how you carry yourself. Its the first impression that gets the attraction of those bullies. If they think you cant protect yourself, or you just let them bully you and just laugh at it then i pity you. You must at least leave an impression of defensive mechanism from the start.
Good topic.
I was bullied from Jr High and most of high school. I didn't think I would ever get past the loser part of life.
Since then, I joined the Navy, retired, became a drug/alcohol counselor and retired from that. Most of my counseling career, I worked with high risk teens and took special interrest in those teased or bullied.
I hated my teen years, but now I see it has given me wisodom to help and be compassionate to others.
I never let anyone bully me, I always stood up for myself.
First couple of years of secondary school yes, every day basically. Some popular guy who thought it was funny to throw insults at people with 50 or less friends 
. He eventually got less popular and people got more mature around me, it ended but it was practically a living hell for a good couple of years. It totally messed up my self-confidence and social abilities. Some people will do anything for a laugh I suppose. i was never bullied in school....stand up for youtrself. take karate lessons, take boxing, or do a sport to build ur confidence up, dont go postal though. keep ya head up....
I get a lot of mixed messages about bullies at school. For example, all this while I was told that bullies lacked self esteem and were just beating kids up to feel better about themselves. Then one homeroom, they tell me this isn't true. What up with that?
I would definately get bullied if I went to a large school, but where I go, the most popular people are also very smart, so they have better things (and higher morals) than bullying. I guess maybe being in all their classes and doing as well/better (mostly better >_>) helps too, but I do talk to most of them often so I'm fine. In middle school some people spread some nasty rumors about me and that got to me, but no one seriously does that now.
I have only been bullied once, and that was in the eighth grade. It was the most fustrating and surreal experience I've had so far and it couldn't have happened at a worst time. The thing was that I had just moved back from California, and I was really sad about leaving all my friends and then I found out I wasn't able to return to the school I had went to before I left Georgia, and so I had to make new friends again.
I've never had a problem making friends, but for some reason there was a group of girls at the school I went to that just HATED me and for absolutely no reason. Funny thing was we were orginally friends, and then one day the just acted weird and all this other stuff started to happen, and yea it got to the point to where I would skip school by missing the bus on purpose (knowing that my mom would have left the house already) and just go back home with my key. I did get caught, eventually, and my mom had a conference call with the school counseler and the girls. After that I was kind of fed up so I just ignored them and avoided them as best I could.
They did stop bothering me, or if they did still make fun I never heard about it, and luckily I only had to go there for about 6 months and then summer came.
All in all, a horrible experience, but I've since learned that some people will just dislike because they can. It's not always a personal thing, just ignorance..
Yeah I really was bullied, ppl thinking of me as a teachers pet. Only the close friends new the truth and respected me a lot. Well, schools over and so has that thing, but it seems that its stuck with my destiny. That figure of mine makes ppl think of me like that only. Am fedup with it, dunno really how people have so much time to spend on such activities.
They wont bother tho, whats the use even talking about it.
Warm Regards,
ABdul Basit
nah, im from a small community where everyone knows everyone else and though there are cliques and not everyone like everyone else, nobody is bullied. the only time anyone would be even close to bullying someone else would be if they were buddies and just screwing around. we always try to stay away from the people we dont know well or arent good friends with
I was bullied for a while just before i did my exams, but they didnt do it because of my looks or the way i acted, they did it because i was ill. I took my exams and passed them all, but they moulded my life for the next few years, i was a pushover and let people do and say what they liked. Eventually i changed and became the person i am now, i dont let anyone bully me now and i will make sure that my daughter wont let anyone bully her.
Basically you are only a victim if you choose to be. As soon as you stand up to a bully, they back down because they are cowards and only want people who are weak.
Also, for those of you who bully people, remember that when someone bigger and better comes along and you need a friend, you wont have any. So think about what you are doing to someone before you do it, and put yourself in their shoes.
Yeah i use to get bullied in grade 5 wasnt fun at all to. I had no friends been bulied everyday made me cry it wasnt fun at all horrible even my own best friend hanged around with them. But now that i look at it i dont care because those same people want to be my friends now and i dont get bullied no more i have lots of frineds so im happy now
| PatTheGreat42 wrote: |
| I get a lot of mixed messages about bullies at school. For example, all this while I was told that bullies lacked self esteem and were just beating kids up to feel better about themselves. Then one homeroom, they tell me this isn't true. What up with that? |
It depends on the bully. There are some that bully because they have a lack of self esteem. Then there are just bullies who do so because they think they're hot if they beat up kids.I was never been bullied my entire life. Maybe because bullies are not that numerous here in the Philippines. hehe. Actually, back in high school, I have 3 bully classmates but they are not bullying me. in fact they are trying to befriend me. It's just I don't want to make friends with those guys.
A poster here said that its on the way you carry yourself. I believe she/he's right. bullies are often bullying(is it the right term?) people who they know lack of self confidence.
One more thing. Don't be intimidated by bullies. They just love people to be intimidated by them. if you get to pss by them in a corridor, don't look down. Try to feel more relaxed. Just be afraid if the bully is someone different than the regular one. (like a cow, a snake) Hehe..
I always had a bad problem with anger so i got into a lot of fights and pretty much beat the breaks off a few people, you know just being a dumb kid So no, no one really messed with me in school i was cool with everyone really. Awww .. i hate to see it that people have cried because of bullying. No one should make someone else feel like that!
| jcvincent wrote: |
| One more thing. Don't be intimidated by bullies. They just love people to be intimidated by them. if you get to pss by them in a corridor, don't look down. Try to feel more relaxed. Just be afraid if the bully is someone different than the regular one. (like a cow, a snake) Hehe.. |
I found that people who walk along at school looking down who lack self confidence are those that get bullyed most often. Thats why i dont walk with my head down anymore And it really works lol.
Hammy. Well, I'm never bullied in the normal sense of the word. I have always been a confident person, sometimes, too mcuh. Yes I've been insulted, but I'm not a particulary nice person either so I usually insult them right back. But I don't go out trying to make enemies either of course, that's just stupid. I was the bully I guess in my childhood days at school 
. But i'm nice. Now i'm a grown-up and matured, so that's a thing of my past. 
I have very often got bullied in the school because I have been very at school. Nowadays I'm starting to open site/forum that give information how to get out of that. And that's why I'm here and wanna get host for my site/forum with MySQL database because I have some backups to put inside and free forum hosters don't support backups.
| kazikame wrote: |
The only person who can really bully you is yourself. They can say all the crap they want about you, but in the end, it's all down to whether you choose to believe them or not.
These bullies are the people who will end up with a crap job for the rest of their lives. |
i totally agree with him.
if you are strong enough from heart no one can dare bully you.
when someone tried to bully me in my school days, only a stern look from me stopped them from doing so. i never had to say a word just my body and
mind control did all the work for me.
i had always been silent when someone tried to do that to me , but every one knew if that silence i broken that will be as bad as visitng hell.
I've been bullied ever since I learned to speak :p yeh, toddlers are MEAN!!! I'm not laughing really, I'm serious, I had a hard time when I was little. It continued throughout secondary school. Only my last two years there were uhmm.... nice and peaceful. I used to be a bit of a geek, didn't know what to wear or how to wear the clothes I had... luckily that has changed (well, I hope so!).
I hope you have a circle of friends, because that's what's saved me in my fifth year. Before them, I was on my own all the time. Not that I liked that, not at all, but they just didn't accept me. Ach... I'm happy at uni now Also i have noticed that a lot of kids back when i went to school, would mistake kindness for weakness, so if you are a nice hearted person who likes to help others out make sure you especially watch your back. If you notice anyone taking advantage of you in any way or asking for too much you have to take action and show them you are a punk otherwise its going to demean your character to the other person and they might just try to push you around even more. Got to always stand up for yourself no matter the consequences!!
Not so much in my school. Most of my classmates are really nice and they won't screw around with me. Though there're some not so nice classmates, but I'm not bothered by them so much
yeah i was bullied for about an year in high school.... terrible terrible year... then one day i just lost it... so me and another chap (who was suffering the same as me) caught hold of 2 guys from the "bully" group and thrashed them .. not majorly but just enough... the next day these 'bullies' were asking us to hang out with their gang!
all bullies are loosers... and kids who are scared are generally more scared of the 'bully' reputation than anything else... stand up for yourself and everybody will HAVE to respect you...
PS: i am not sayin that physically messing up anybody is a good idea... we had no other way out.. were gettin slapped/smacked almost everyday.. and we knew that we could take 2 of those guys... so as a last resort... we did!
Heh, just out of curiosity, did u end up joining them? cuz if u did, you not much better than they were.
^^^ joined them??? NO! why would we do that? 
they were a bunch of loosers !!! luckily I avoided being bullied. The fact that everyone knew I was taking martial arts helped.
To be honest, I have never been 'really' bullied, only just some sick jokes. I've had the usual old fight when I try stop some people from bullying my mates, so I just click them into shape. I always get let off since there were teachers seeing me stop the bullying.
I used to bully a kid, and I seriously regret it. Bullying people smaller, or less fortunate than you is just cowardness, if they were really cool, why not go bully the principal, or a hardcore fighter or something?
Bullys suck, and they need help, which is what I got.
