A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment.
| Jaiye wrote: |
A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment. |
Hmmmm...
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| at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something |
Does this mean she wanted you to hold her hand and you did not or what?
Because the grammar of that part of the sentence seems to imply something different
Clarify PleaseYou know the saying "Woman is as a flower, sensitive man is afraid to touch her whilst jackass will come and devour her." 
Its problem on both sides we girls sometimes have an expectations that you know what we want while you have no clue and vice versa, its simply a hitch in communication. Dont be harsh on yourself, you know men are from Mars whereas women are from Venus 
Same thing happened to me once.
Dont worry about it, girls will come and go...
| Jaiye wrote: |
A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment. |
And what did you say before she said that?
If you say "I really want to f*** you" it's normal Yes, you can't win in these situations. If you had tried, she would have told you that you were a bastard because you want that and don't want to really know her...
For example, Granard's solution is pretty straightforward and clear, and most of the girs would take it as an offence. But if they don't feel the same, a simple "no" would do.
that's why you should just let it be. girls come and go, don't bother
to be honest this has me confused....if she thought you so unromantic...why was she concerned that you didn't try to hold her hand....or even mention it for that matter.
I'm glad I'm married and out of the dating scene...things are a bit too confusing for me at times 
Definition of a wife: A woman who knows you inside and out, and loves you anyway. | Vrythramax wrote: |
to be honest this has me confused....if she thought you so unromantic...why was she concerned that you didn't try to hold her hand....or even mention it for that matter.
I'm glad I'm married and out of the dating scene...things are a bit too confusing for me at times
Definition of a wife: A woman who knows you inside and out, and loves you anyway. |
I think it is like this:
She is of the opinion that he should have held her hand
Since he did not even do that, she considers him unromanticit's sound familiar XD it hapened to me as well but we still be together till now (3yrs) anyway sometime you should try to do some romantic thing to surprise her like buying flowers (even 1 rose is count) or those sort of stuffs. she will be happy for a while. ^O^
Isn't communication fun 
Not being there, it's hard to tell what she meant, but it almost sounds like she liked you and that she is not the kind of girl that likes the romantic stuff all the time.
@Sappho - Not all girls are from Venus | HoboPelican wrote: |
| @Sappho - Not all girls are from Venus |
Yep that may be true, actually i have a feeling i came from some very different and very distant planet most of the time | Sappho wrote: |
| HoboPelican wrote: | | @Sappho - Not all girls are from Venus |
Yep that may be true, actually i have a feeling i came from some very different and very distant planet most of the time |
I thought you looked familiar
I like girls from other planets, much more interesting. Except Saturn, Saturn must be destroyed! (20 Fhri$ if you are old enough and twisted enough to recognize THAT reference)
@Jaiye - what ever happened to the Swiss Miss? | HoboPelican wrote: |
I like girls from other planets, much more interesting. Except Saturn, Saturn must be destroyed! (20 Fhri$ if you are old enough and twisted enough to recognize THAT reference) |
Nope, dont know. But now i am rather puzzled if its couse i am not old enough or not twisted enough, or yet possibly both ) | Jaiye wrote: |
A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment. |
Unromantic? Isn't the beach enough? I think she got a little greedy, But I also think that you are a bit shy when it comes to doing things kind of things.
Not all girls are like that, Maybe she isnt right for you. Or perhaps the solution is to leave your heart do the deciding.
If you where dating, She certainly wouldnt have got offended if you held her hand. If your shy a bit, All you had to do is say, Come dear, Lets go to that certain area and hold her hand and run there and then try to keep a grip on it while walking. Problem solved no?no, we weren't dating. we had only known each other for about 2 weeks and this was the first time i had been alone with her.
I wouldn't call myself shy, but she definetly wasn't putting out 'hold my hand' vibes. I just stood there and was like, holy crap, did those words actually just get said to my face.
Actually I started laughing at her when she said that.
Well then she sounds like a real bitch then. You would think she would atleast give you some kind of hint. Its always hard to tell though. Women are like that. You don't want to scare them off but you also don't want them to think your arn't romantic.
There's one thing I learned to do in this situation. Step 1. Don't say anything. Step 2. Stare into her eyes. Step 3. After awhile of silent staring, give her the biggest kiss you've ever given a girl. It works, trust me!
Also, Pelican, was that a Vonnegut reference or am I just going crazy? Because that's what people say.
Sappho, the planet thing can probably be best described through Astrology, even though this is all just a gigantic joke! Every person is from a different planet, depending on date of birth, however, I still don't know if a Cancer is compatible with a Gemini, but it's not stopping me from loving my girlfriend more than anything else in the entire world.
so how she reacts you lanughing?
Maybe she was a bit like you...or, she was just a bitXX who just urge for everything from men. No offense, but why don't you hold her hand? I understand relationships can be a bit shy at first, but holding hands is nothing. Just wait till....[edited].
| Hobbit wrote: |
| No offense, but why don't you hold her hand? I understand relationships can be a bit shy at first, but holding hands is nothing. Just wait till....[edited]. |
cause there's no relationship between us, it was just out of random. this was a while back and I don't have any interest in her now.
and she didn't seem to understand why I was laughing at first, cultural differences I think, but she got it eventually. don't remember what she said after that though.generally gurls are stupid | mafia3 wrote: |
| generally gurls are stupid |
Well, THAT attitude won't even get you TOO the beach
@RightClickScott - No, but it sounds a bit like him, doesn't it...
BTW - I like your idea about the the staring. It will either go over in a big way or she will tear you apart Either way, not more confusion! | mafia3 wrote: |
| generally gurls are stupid |
Now the master of oneliners speaks out for himself Enlighten us, we are so out of the image... I mean come on you can do better, i just did search for your posts and it seems your longest was actually 5 words, so i am sure you can do better | Jaiye wrote: |
A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment. |
You should have told her that she didn't try to hold yours either.Ha ha.
That damn swiss girl.
Very stupid.I know of a few of those female species.Move on.Life's a b**ch! | Jaiye wrote: |
A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment. |
um if u were interested do what rightclickscott said, and if u werent raise and eyebrow and laugh and pretend it was a joke.The fifth word in mafia's post is the emoticon.
Seriously though, girls have double standards. They want you to give them your attention, and once you do, they no longer want it. (as well as the inverse)
My best advise to you would be to not let it get to you. And rightclickscott has the right idea.
I've been in your situation, the awkwardness of two shy people and as the guy I was expected to make the first move, but I decided not to risk it then, my lack of action, cost me. You'll know when to make the right move, just listen to yourself (and holding hands in never a bad thing 
) I guess whe wanted you to hold her hand but you didn't. Sometimes men tend to be so respectful and conservative that they don't want to do anything stupid but sometimes women also wants men to take advantage of them
Bottomline is women is the hardest puzzle to understand and solve. | pjv wrote: |
Bottomline is women is the hardest puzzle to understand and solve. |
Only for men
I hear from my female buds that men are the ones that are hard to figure out. actually men are more complicated than girls when you want to know what they really feels. many girls are difficult to understand though.
Guys, before you start bemoaning the female race you should try dating a Thai girl, who's definition of romance and the real leg opener for them is offering to send their parents 2000baht (£32) or buy them some shoes....
Romance here seems dead, the wallet is king, you see old guys walking around with 18 year old hotties and know that it isn't the romance keeping them together, well not for her anyway; its the cash... and we're not talking an escort or anything here, well not for the majority; this is how ALL women seem to act out here....
I'm waiting to find out if there is a women out here that doesn't expect me to support her parents as well as myself, but it might be a long wait... but at least I'll have some "fun" along the way....
Moved to "Relationships" section.
I don't know...that kinda sounds like a contradiction to me, lol. 
First she's like "hmph you're not romantic" and in the same sentence she's like "thank goodness for that". LOL...maybe she was being sarcastic or something. 
I guess the girl like you or something like that. You know, girls sometimes are unpredictable.
| Jaiye wrote: |
A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment. |
Didn't read the other posts or anything else, but, from the single fact that she walked by your side the entire shore, she may have thought that this behaviour itself was a... warning. She made it because she WANTED you to start the... approximations.
I may have said nonsense things, but this is according to the details you provided. | Jaiye wrote: |
A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment. |
even she crushed you, should you self-reflex ?? if you are romantic enough, she did not say such thing, right ? will you have another chance ? improve yourself, and do a good job next time~~ | Jaiye wrote: |
A while back after a long walk on the beach, a girl told me:
"You're the most unromantic person I've ever met, at least you didn't try to hold my hand or something"
Damn swiss girl, crushed me in that moment. |
have you ever heard of the birds and the bees? It's all about girls.
Bees will sting you, and birds will cr$p on your head.That just goes to show that she is a demanding person. How come that she will demand you to do the things that she expects you to do? Well, there is always a second time, a third, a fouth, a fifth, etc.. but the point is, if you just showed her the true you (that is not being romantic to her, if that's true) then, i believe that you don't have any problems with regards to that. Let's just say, letting her know the true you and if she accepts you just the way you are, then, you could be the most romantic person that she ever met, or will ever meet.
Stay honest to yourself. I'm just like you. hehe. have a nice day!
| Andrew426 wrote: |
| girls will come and go... |
| Sappho wrote: |
You know the saying "Woman is as a flower, sensitive man is afraid to touch her whilst jackass will come and devour her."
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I've never heard of that saying but i like it ahhhh, "women...you can't live with them, you can't live with them"
[quote: Al Bundy in Married With Children]
Women are the toughest animals on the planet dude...
They want that you know what they think, if not, you're the bad guy...and the toughest part...no one can understand women, they think weird...so we men always lose...
Like it's been said before, if you took the hand, she would have looked at you like...what the f... are doing, now you are unromantic. Just move on...find another one. I always need to find women that have at least a little bit of initiative, because then you know when you can do something as a man...
goodluck
