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A true incident!

One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other
students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each

Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about
each of their classmates and write it down.

It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment,
and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.

That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a
separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that

On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the
entire class was smiling.. "Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that
I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so
much," were most of the comments..

No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if
they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't
matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy
with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on.

Several years later, one of the students was killed in Viet Nam and his
teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never
seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so

The church was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him
took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless
the coffin.

As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up
to her. "Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "yes."
Then he said: "Mark talked about you a lot."

After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a
luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to
speak with his teacher.

"We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out
of his pocket.. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought
you might recognize it."

Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook
paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times..
The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which
she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said
about him.

"Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can
see, Mark treasured it."

All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie
smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top
drawer of my desk at home."
Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."

"I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary."

Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out
her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. "I carry
this with me at all times," Vicki said and without batting an eyelash,
she continued: "I think we all saved our lists."

That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark
and for all his friends who would never see him again..

The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life
will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.
It sure is an incident. Sad and inspiring. Where did you heard or found it??
wow. reall?!!! Rolling Eyes
that you are spreading some message that has real meaning.

aww... what a sad story.. is it real?
Even though Mark had died at the end, I think this story is still a great story -- and even better because it really happened. Er, I mean, not that it was wonderful that Mark died, but what the teacher had done for the students. That is truly a heart warming act on her behalf that really benefited the students. And I believe this even more when I think of the kids -- teenagers these days. I've had a lot of experiences, myself and others, where there is just so much... drama around them that things become depressing for them. Especially when dealing with problems such as self-esteem and self-worth, trying to comprehend (and simply get it through their thick head at times) that there are people who actually do care about them, or when they're trying to fit into society.

Hm... that makes me think that you know... it'd be great if all teachers could do this with their students, no matter what subject the teachers may be teaching. *smile* But I suppose the teachers would have to know of this... ah, assignment first in order to carry it out. It'd be great to spread the word then. *smile*

-- scryoko
that so heart breaking its wrongsick

Sad that sure pulls the heart strings.
This is a very touching story, it really gave me goosebumps up and down my arms/legs. It does make you wonder though; about the little compliments a person gives out on a daily basis and the amount of movement it has a person's life. Obviously this little paper had a lot of importance since it showed them at such a young age what kind of nice/kind ideas there peers were thinking about.

Where did you hear about this story?
There are many, many stories of this ilk that are just made bits of saccharine, but according to Snopes, this one's actually true, or mostly so.
Oh man ... I'm so glad and so sad you told us this, even if I have no idea if it's wrong or true, It's soo beautiful, so sad, I had vibrations go along my back and my neck, mmy legs sheked just a little, I felt for a very small smoment a deep sadness, not because of that guy, this guy could be anyone of us, but because of the way many of us live sadly because they dunno how much the others love them. That's true, many people are alone and sad ...
that is awesome. i love teachers who can make such an amazing influence on their students like that. why cant all teachers be like this...
thanks for posting this. it made my day
great! we sometimes we dont even know how us important to them...
I have memories of my teachers from middle school and elementary, some are still there. I will treasure every moment of happiness I had in school. It's apart of my life that I won't ever forget. I was spoiled by everyone one of them lol!!!!

But yea, If a classmate of mine died and I found out about it, I would so attend their funeral just the fact of being close to that friend just means so much to me and I would do anything to protect them.

I treasure my friends with my life as If they would do the same for me. I do that with all my friends I know in life that I am close too!
The morale of this story is to not be critical of people continously., We should not forget to praise people.
A very touching story. I am moved.
good one

doesnot matter real or imagery
but a good heart touching inspiring story
i love it:)

@we have to die one day
An amazing story! Thanks for sharing! Smile
This thread was created in May 2006, however what a fantastic thread this is. Great story!
Very Happy
very nice story.. despite that this thread was created years ago, it still remains timeless Smile
I've heard of this before and used the story as inspiration to something similar for my students (I am a school teacher). I put a photo of them from the year and all the nice comments on one side and then a group photo on the back and laminated the lot to give them as a gift at the end of the year.

One of my class (who were aged 11 at the time) are now 17 and one of the girls sent me a message to say that she still had it and cherished it, which then got a number of other students in the class saying the same thing in response. It was nice to know that it has a similar affect to what the original story said.
I wish there are more teachers like that
I wish our teacher did that. I can only remember all the bad things my classmates have said to me. I'm very sensitive with criticisms and those stuck into my head more than the nice things.
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