To totally understand all that i am about to ask/confirm my fears you need to hear our 'history'.
I'd been in a long, but rather unhappy relationship with a boy that i never thought i could live without. He's still one of my best friends today even though he's pretty much an a***.
I never thought i' find a guy i liked as much.
Only a month later i was invited to a guys party. This guy that invited me pretty much hated me, i dont even know why he invited me. But i went anyway.
The party was going well until it was broken up by the neighbours complaints. there were 7 of us left at the house and we decided to go into town instead. However we only had one 5 seater car. So this meant 2 of us got left back at the house. I, and this incredibly cute guy was nominated to be the ones that stayed behind.
The next day, the guy who had invited me to his party started texting me saying how much he liked me and he was sorry he'd ever misjudged me. I went round to his house, but at the same time i was at his place his friend (the one i got left at home with) was texting me saying the same thing.
Over the next week or so i was torn between these two guys. I ended up starting to date the boy i'd been left at home with. The boy whos party it was resented me and started being nasty. So i said a few things to my new man that i probably shouldnt. Before too long he'd told his mates what i'd said.
Me and the boy lasted the hole of 3 weeks before i broke it off with him.
After we broke up from what i dont even consider a relationship he started making up lies about me and why we broke up. He told me his mother (who i've never met) didnt like my 'bad rep' (that to my knowledge i dont have) which is why he stopped wanting to see me. Then it changed and he just plain didnt like me, he didnt like me because i was shy, the way i dressed etc etc. Some of the things he said got pretty nasty and i got to the point i couldnt stand him. To make matters worse everytime i saw him, which was pretty often unfortunately, he'd make a big exagerated wave and yell 'Hi Hannah!' at the top of his lungs and then start laughing. Which i thought was highly immature, and i was actually embarassed by it.
He then started going out with a girl i wasnt really friends with but i new rather well. before they got together she asked me what i thought of him. I gave her the blunt honest truth, which caused him to rebut, mostly with lies. There was huge friction between them and me and it got pretty ridiculous.
Anyway, she did what we all new she'd do and what we all thought he'd deserve. She cheated on him. She's never stayed faithful to a boy in her life.
He then started hinting he'd like to try something out with my best friend. And well this kinda caused chaos. All my friends practically pinned her down and begged her never to get into a relationship with him because he was such an absolute a***.
Now this comes to the tricky part. The above takes place over a matter of 6-7 months. He's started talking to me again. He texts me every day and sometimes makes not so subtle hints about the kind of relationship he'd like us to have. At first i thought he was trying to befriend me so he could get into my friend, but he's stopped talking to her and only texting me.
He's apologised and is being very understanding about why i dont really want much to do with him.
But he's so incredibly sweet and i feel myself falling for him again.
My rational brain tells me that a leopard never changes his spots, but my irrational brain tells me that if you let some one go and he comes back he's yours for keeps.
I dont want my friend to think i turned her off him because i wanted him. Because really that wasnt how it was.
I also dont want to get hurt and i'm petrified he's playing games with me.
So please. Put me out of my missery and tell me he's horrible, i'm crazy. And any ideas on what you would do would make me feel 90% more secure about the situation.
I'd been in a long, but rather unhappy relationship with a boy that i never thought i could live without. He's still one of my best friends today even though he's pretty much an a***.
I never thought i' find a guy i liked as much.
Only a month later i was invited to a guys party. This guy that invited me pretty much hated me, i dont even know why he invited me. But i went anyway.
The party was going well until it was broken up by the neighbours complaints. there were 7 of us left at the house and we decided to go into town instead. However we only had one 5 seater car. So this meant 2 of us got left back at the house. I, and this incredibly cute guy was nominated to be the ones that stayed behind.
The next day, the guy who had invited me to his party started texting me saying how much he liked me and he was sorry he'd ever misjudged me. I went round to his house, but at the same time i was at his place his friend (the one i got left at home with) was texting me saying the same thing.
Over the next week or so i was torn between these two guys. I ended up starting to date the boy i'd been left at home with. The boy whos party it was resented me and started being nasty. So i said a few things to my new man that i probably shouldnt. Before too long he'd told his mates what i'd said.
Me and the boy lasted the hole of 3 weeks before i broke it off with him.
After we broke up from what i dont even consider a relationship he started making up lies about me and why we broke up. He told me his mother (who i've never met) didnt like my 'bad rep' (that to my knowledge i dont have) which is why he stopped wanting to see me. Then it changed and he just plain didnt like me, he didnt like me because i was shy, the way i dressed etc etc. Some of the things he said got pretty nasty and i got to the point i couldnt stand him. To make matters worse everytime i saw him, which was pretty often unfortunately, he'd make a big exagerated wave and yell 'Hi Hannah!' at the top of his lungs and then start laughing. Which i thought was highly immature, and i was actually embarassed by it.
He then started going out with a girl i wasnt really friends with but i new rather well. before they got together she asked me what i thought of him. I gave her the blunt honest truth, which caused him to rebut, mostly with lies. There was huge friction between them and me and it got pretty ridiculous.
Anyway, she did what we all new she'd do and what we all thought he'd deserve. She cheated on him. She's never stayed faithful to a boy in her life.
He then started hinting he'd like to try something out with my best friend. And well this kinda caused chaos. All my friends practically pinned her down and begged her never to get into a relationship with him because he was such an absolute a***.
Now this comes to the tricky part. The above takes place over a matter of 6-7 months. He's started talking to me again. He texts me every day and sometimes makes not so subtle hints about the kind of relationship he'd like us to have. At first i thought he was trying to befriend me so he could get into my friend, but he's stopped talking to her and only texting me.
He's apologised and is being very understanding about why i dont really want much to do with him.
But he's so incredibly sweet and i feel myself falling for him again.
My rational brain tells me that a leopard never changes his spots, but my irrational brain tells me that if you let some one go and he comes back he's yours for keeps.
I dont want my friend to think i turned her off him because i wanted him. Because really that wasnt how it was.
I also dont want to get hurt and i'm petrified he's playing games with me.
So please. Put me out of my missery and tell me he's horrible, i'm crazy. And any ideas on what you would do would make me feel 90% more secure about the situation.
