this guy asked me out a few times ...
like 5 ? and i just tried changing the topic ...
i really dont even kno him tht much i met him in 3rd grade
and now im like in hs and hes askin me out ... its just weird
so whats your thoughts / opinions guys 
If you don't want to be with the guy, tell him so. You don't mean to string it out, I'm sure, but it sounds like he's going to keep on asking until he knows for sure.
No need to be harsh about it, just instead of changing the topic... say no.
Ok say to him, that you care to much about your friendship, to sacrifice that by going out. it does work.
I know this sounds lame, but it lets him down, he still thinks you care about him & makes him feel somewhat special, I know that was one of my concerns when going out with a mate.
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Ok say to him, that you care to much about your friendship, to sacrifice that by going out. it does work.
I know this sounds lame, but it lets him down, he still thinks you care about him & makes him feel somewhat special, I know that was one of my concerns when going out with a mate. |
remember, she said that she didn't even know him that well. I vote for the straight forward, "no, I'd rather not. thanks anyway" and let it go at that. It hurts, but it's like pulling a tooth. Hurts more the longer it takes. Just my opinion.Be like sorry but no. I want to become friends first. And when he askes to do something do it. Like really be his friend. Don't say it and never do it.
Hobopelican, you remember what its like to pull out a tooth? ...I don't 
Sounds like someone is in the "friend zone". I've been put in there, getting "pre-rejected" by a friend of mine, but I saw it coming due to the rumors of us spending a lot of time together. So for my rebuttal, I just said she is like a sister to me and that works. Although from time to time, when we get close my emotions get stirred up.
From what I have seen this point of no return is always created by the girls. The only girls, I haven't given a second thought to are those that I know treat their guys like crap; I am often told EVERYTHING or over-hear it, so I know how to learn from others' mistakes and avoid traps.
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Blaster only joined in Jan. and already he is a "Frihost Freak?", I wonder how many posts Gonzo had...
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Be straight forward in your approach.
Tell him how you feel about him
Thank him for offering to take you out, but tell him that you are not interested.
Dont postpone this or avoid confronting it.
He will get disillusioned and go away
Definitely be straight forward about it. Makes it easier for both of you. Dragging it out makes him think he has a chance and you will have to put up with it.
| angelkiss wrote: |
this guy asked me out a few times ...
like 5 ? and i just tried changing the topic ...
i really dont even kno him tht much i met him in 3rd grade
and now im like in hs and hes askin me out ... its just weird
so whats your thoughts / opinions guys |
if you don't know him, how comes he knows you ??!? it's just like the plot in movie..... "last year in marienbad"...
but if you do not liek him, do not give him any replys... | angelkiss wrote: |
this guy asked me out a few times ...
like 5 ? and i just tried changing the topic ...
i really dont even kno him tht much i met him in 3rd grade
and now im like in hs and hes askin me out ... its just weird
so whats your thoughts / opinions guys |
Probaly he's asking you out because he want to know you!
It doesn't mean that he like you or something(maybe).
Go out with him once, if you'll enjoy it, go again 
sorry for my englishYou should accept and maybe know him better. Who knows? You two may make a great couple!
