I met a girl this weekend at a party. I have known her from before from another party I saw her at this fall and I kinda picked up some vibes from her. I've only seen her once between last fall and this past weekend and I don't really know who she is. We were all sitting around the room and someone was passing out coushins because most of us were on the floor, she invited me to sit next to her. We had a couple beers, grabbed a blanket and started makingout. Didn't get much past second base because people were all around. She seems nice and it seemed like that all she was interested in was that one night. Seeing her isn't really feesible because she goes to a different school about an hour away. It's always okay just to havea little fun, right?
Are one night stand's wrong?
Well, according to my morals and values, no, it is not "right." But the term "right" is highly subjective. What's right to me might be wrong to someone else. You won't get far asking other people, because it's your morals and your choices.
Maybe ,maybe not. It is highly selective .
In my opinion it is not very right, but all of us do get excited, right?
Sometimes we may not be able to express restraint but we must try our best.
It is just one nite of fun they say.
Its alright to have fun but not at other people's expense, for example say, she has a BF, and she may be cheating on him, even if it is for a night.
In my opinion it is not very right, but all of us do get excited, right?
Sometimes we may not be able to express restraint but we must try our best.
It is just one nite of fun they say.
Its alright to have fun but not at other people's expense, for example say, she has a BF, and she may be cheating on him, even if it is for a night.
I think it's fine provided you both know what's going on. If she gets that that's all it is, and it's safe and all that, go for it.
Garnet, scorpio and Soulfire in combination pretty much said it all. It's for your own morals to judge. As for me, I see nothing wrong with it (or I'd be a hypocrite), as long as you both know what it's about, and as long as neither of you have a boy/girlfriend/is married/worse 
(and - when we're talking more than "just" making out - as long as the other things that apply to sex in all situations are in order).
(and - when we're talking more than "just" making out - as long as the other things that apply to sex in all situations are in order).Well there is always a problem with right and wrong...
From my point of view 1night stands are oki as long as both us us know it is going to be like that and do not give false hopes just to get to bed.
I believe in love but i also believe in sexual needs. True that not all of us have this sexual needs, but somedo. So as long as things are clear from the begining then i thik it is oki:)
Al
From my point of view 1night stands are oki as long as both us us know it is going to be like that and do not give false hopes just to get to bed.
I believe in love but i also believe in sexual needs. True that not all of us have this sexual needs, but somedo. So as long as things are clear from the begining then i thik it is oki:)
Al
exactly, if both parties understand what is happening and dont get false hope, but there is always one which hopes it might lead to more. And i dont see anything wrong with two single people making out....at least i dont see it as a one night stand by any means....i thought we were talking about something more serious
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| I met a girl this weekend at a party. I have known her from before from another party I saw her at this fall and I kinda picked up some vibes from her. I've only seen her once between last fall and this past weekend and I don't really know who she is. We were all sitting around the room and someone was passing out coushins because most of us were on the floor, she invited me to sit next to her. We had a couple beers, grabbed a blanket and started makingout. Didn't get much past second base because people were all around. She seems nice and it seemed like that all she was interested in was that one night. Seeing her isn't really feesible because she goes to a different school about an hour away. It's always okay just to havea little fun, right? |
asking for an answer to a morality question on a message board is a crapshoot, regardless of what you want to hear, you won't hear it, or you only will with other stuff. Don't even bother honestly. If you feel that it is right, then I think that's enough. Noone was hurt, so I would say it's fine, but that's my morals, so who knows.
Right and wrong are relative to the person's beliefs. I personally think that it's wrong, but if you think it's not, I really can't stop you.
As a girl, whose friends, depending on which one, have both been drawn into serious depression to the point of emo poetry and to those who love a bit of fun, I must say the latter for me. Now, while I am in no way attempting to guide your morals, I think its personally fine.
Everyone, including females, enjoys fun with no strings attached so long as they are PERFECTLY clear on teh "no strings attached" part
HEnce, make sure before having your fun, that you both know that you may never see each other again. Then, make sure you have protection.
Everyone, including females, enjoys fun with no strings attached so long as they are PERFECTLY clear on teh "no strings attached" part
HEnce, make sure before having your fun, that you both know that you may never see each other again. Then, make sure you have protection.
don't think it's bad... It's good if you don't want nothing serious, no compromises...
take your precautions too...
take your precautions too...
i personally feel that it is wrong.. it does seem immoral.. however though, if both parties are willing, there is nothing wrong.. it all depends on what you believe in..
however, you must do the necessary precautions.. if you engage in it with multiple partners, you are susceptible to sexually-transmitted diseases.. better be safe than sorry..
however, you must do the necessary precautions.. if you engage in it with multiple partners, you are susceptible to sexually-transmitted diseases.. better be safe than sorry..
I can have no sense !
Lucky you, I've always believed such girls are hard to come by
Anyway as long as you both don't mind, who else matters? Just make sure you play it safe!
Don't ask about RIGHT or WRONG. What sort of answer would you expect anyway? Go on with it if your mind (or whatever) takes you, or run away if it stops you. Why fuss
Enjoy,
Sushant
Anyway as long as you both don't mind, who else matters? Just make sure you play it safe!
Don't ask about RIGHT or WRONG. What sort of answer would you expect anyway? Go on with it if your mind (or whatever) takes you, or run away if it stops you. Why fuss
Enjoy,
Sushant
It's relativity =) No one can say whether 'one night stands' are 'right' or 'wrong'. It can be both true.
Like a person with Christian values might say it is wrong but also on the other hand, a person with the values given by our modern contemporary Western society might say it is 'right'. It depends on your religious values, culture, and society.
But in my opionion, I would say it's wrong.
Like a person with Christian values might say it is wrong but also on the other hand, a person with the values given by our modern contemporary Western society might say it is 'right'. It depends on your religious values, culture, and society.
But in my opionion, I would say it's wrong.
I used to think they are, but now i'm not so sure.
if everything is safe (HIV, pregnancy), both sides want the same thing, and the expectations are clear so it's ok to experience. time can't be rolled back, we need to live life now...
if everything is safe (HIV, pregnancy), both sides want the same thing, and the expectations are clear so it's ok to experience. time can't be rolled back, we need to live life now...
i think its not right
I think it is totally right. But like said before, when you both know what is going on. It will be a different story if one of the two has more feelings and the other is using that. But if both have the intention to have some "fun", yeah go ahead, you have my blessing...
I would say as long as both people are consenting adults, there's very little that's actually wrong. Just so long as you're both aware that a one-night stand is all it is.
That said - even believing that, one-night stands don't interest me. I want emotional context. I prefer relationships. Much more happiness, in the long run.
That said - even believing that, one-night stands don't interest me. I want emotional context. I prefer relationships. Much more happiness, in the long run.
With the moral I have I wouldn't do that even she wants. I am no holy but I think it is disgusting to have a one night stand..
it depends... one night stand doesn't always have to end with sex... but it is like a fun activity... without feelings or anything... just pleasure... it might be wrong to some people... to some people is not... depends how you think about it... sometimes it happens you want a one night stand and you get stuck with the person you are doing it... but that happens rarely...
but that happens rarely... |