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Has sex before marry???





loveying
do you think we can has sex before marry or not ??
Hobbit
Well it depends on what age you plan to marry. I plan on getting married around 25 or 27, so of course I'll do it before.

Give more detail about your age and future plans, for all we know you could be 12.
wumingsden
loveying wrote:
do you think we can has sex before marry or not ??


Do you mean is it OK to have sex before marriage occording to your believes and do/have you or not ?

Personally I think it is up to whoever is having sex, I shouldn't judge somebody elses actions if they don't involve me. I see nothing particular wrong with sex before marriage although i do see something wrong with sex to get laid especially if you sleep around alot which is very dangerous. Then again I guess that it is up to them to recieve STI's and STD's Confused
SunburnedCactus
Oops... Too late! Wink
thiamshui
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Mumpay
for me, personally (and of course not for everyone else as wumingsden said well), I think it's advisable to have sex before marriage.

my friends grandma got married before having sex, because back in the day that's all you were allowed to do. Anyway, on their honeymoon, first time they made love, turns out the guy was a total BDSM psycho, really into hard core pain, humiliation, every possible fetish out there, etc. The marriage did NOT last long, the lady had to leave, she just couldn't take it.

It's important to know if you're compatible that way. I'm not saying sex is the most important thing in a marriage, but if you can't be intimate and close with your lifelong mate, you'll eventually drift apart, and then, down the line if you become friends with a person of the opposite sex and you really just *click* sexually, like the air is charged with sexual energy, then guess what folks, you'll cheat.

It's just human instinct to seek out another humans touch, our minds are just wired like that. If you get married and find out whatever the other person enjoys, you really really hate, and vice versa, your marriage will be miserable and likely end in a mutally agreed upon divorce.
adiutrix
The more sex, the better Very Happy Of coarse safe sex that is.....

Some people have it at 12 Razz
wumingsden
One thing I would just like to add is that in my opinion everybody wants to have sex as soon as possible. I have just turned 16 years old and have not yet had sex, not because of my religions that I believe in not my looks but because of the fact that I have yet to meet the right person. I know some people that say that they have lost their virginity when i know that they haven't which I think is a little immaute. Saying it to please other people rather than themselves. Why not just say "i haven't yet met the right person" which is what I say. I also know one person that lost their virginity in a toilet which we all have to admit is not exactly classy.
Overall I am proud that I'm still a virgin and also of the fact that I know what contraceptive is and can spell it which can't be said of the other 16 year olds that I know.
Vrythramax
I believe it is up to the couple, that is if they are both mature enough to make that decision. I think young people are more mature now then when I was the same age, but that doesn't cover every young person out there. I'm speaking in general terms, and not about any one person in particular. If they are both seeking marriage then I would agree that getting to know each other might be wise. In any event caution and proper protection (for both) should be excersized...lots of disease out there. This goes for adults as well as young people.
saiyeek
I personally think sex before marriage is a nice way to learn about facts of life. But I think safe sex should always be implemented. Sex before marriage is good way to know your boyfren/girlfren physically and there is no harm in it. But not to mention "have sex" and "make love" are two different things.
ahmad
well , my religion forbidd sex before marriage ..
I totally agree ...... Cool
Soulfire
1) My religion forbids it (I agree with it, and have no problem with it).
2) The best way to avoid the nasty STD's and whatnot is to avoid sex, it is the only surefire way that guarantees no "bad things."
3) I'd probably have SO much guilt on my shoulders.

I could keep going, but I feel like I've said enough. I can't tell you what is right and wrong, only what I think is right and wrong, only what I believe is right and wrong.
stormybaka
Laughing Had copius sex and partners... Without bragging or sounding bad... Over 100 easy... Never been married! I think my stance is covered!
smartbei
Soulfire wrote:

1) My religion forbids it (I agree with it, and have no problem with it).
2) The best way to avoid the nasty STD's and whatnot is to avoid sex, it is the only surefire way that guarantees no "bad things."
3) I'd probably have SO much guilt on my shoulders.


In answer to:
#2: Yep, and the best way to avoid food poisoning is not eat. Take my word for it - if you don't eat, you won't get food poisoning. On the other hand, if there are ways to very, very limit the chance you will get food poisoning, and eating is considered enjoyable and non-harmful, why not? I hope I don't have to explain the analogy.

#3: The only reason you would have guilt is because of the religion - what you mentioned in #1, and therefore this is not a seperate point. However, logically, what is wrong with sex before marriage? No details such as whether safe sex or not, etc. I am talking about the general act - what is wrong with it?
Jack_Hammer
People believe what they believe, I don't think that people should be able to do whatever they want as long as they don't hurt other people in the process, personally I have had sex (Obviously before marraige I am not married) and when it happened each time it just happened it wasn't much of a descion.
Soulfire
smartbei wrote:
Soulfire wrote:

1) My religion forbids it (I agree with it, and have no problem with it).
2) The best way to avoid the nasty STD's and whatnot is to avoid sex, it is the only surefire way that guarantees no "bad things."
3) I'd probably have SO much guilt on my shoulders.


In answer to:
#2: Yep, and the best way to avoid food poisoning is not eat. Take my word for it - if you don't eat, you won't get food poisoning. On the other hand, if there are ways to very, very limit the chance you will get food poisoning, and eating is considered enjoyable and non-harmful, why not? I hope I don't have to explain the analogy.

#3: The only reason you would have guilt is because of the religion - what you mentioned in #1, and therefore this is not a seperate point. However, logically, what is wrong with sex before marriage? No details such as whether safe sex or not, etc. I am talking about the general act - what is wrong with it?


#2: Yes, well, have fun with AIDS then. Food poisoning goes away, viruses don't. Food poisoning is also considerably mild when compared to an STD. Besides, eating is a REQUIREMENT to stay alive, sex is not.

#3: I said I would have guilt, I didn't say anyone else would. Nothing is "wrong" with it, but to me, it is completely immoral. I just don't see what's "hot" with people who sleep around. To me it means they have low self-esteem, but everyone's different.
phantomllama
this is a very good point, in the christian religion and perhaps some others it is perhaps a sin to haave sex before marrying
wumingsden
Why is sex looked down upon in religions. I really don't understand it. How comes its a sin if its such a natural thing to do.

FYI, "eating is a requirement to survive" is not exactly true. I have to drink suppliment drinks in order to stay alive because I cannot eat certain foods, one frined however solely lives on suppliment drinks which shows that eating is not a requirement to stay alive.
jimbo12
I have and i dont regret it.
Jack_Hammer
wumingsden wrote:
FYI, "eating is a requirement to survive" is not exactly true. I have to drink suppliment drinks in order to stay alive because I cannot eat certain foods, one frined however solely lives on suppliment drinks which shows that eating is not a requirement to stay alive.


You know what he ment by 'eat', lol.
Jeslyn
loveying wrote:
do you think we can has sex before marry or not ??


Technically, you can have sex before marriage. However if you're asking whether it's proper, that depends on a person's personal decision. Unless of course a law is passed that discourages this too.
Soulfire
wumingsden wrote:
Why is sex looked down upon in religions. I really don't understand it. How comes its a sin if its such a natural thing to do.

FYI, "eating is a requirement to survive" is not exactly true. I have to drink suppliment drinks in order to stay alive because I cannot eat certain foods, one frined however solely lives on suppliment drinks which shows that eating is not a requirement to stay alive.

Okay, no need to get smart about it - I'm sure you could figure out what I meant. Unless, of course, you missed the complete point of my post. Sex isn't looked down upon by religion (at least Christianity), it is sinful sex, and bad lustful thoughts that are looked down upon. Sinful sex being fornication, or premarital sex.
sibbahz
Depends really on what the person wants.
People who only get into relationships for sex really annoy me, theres got to be a real relationship before sex really, but personally i dont think it is essential for them to be married.
Lennon
This is a simple analogy:
    First comes love
    Second comes marriage
    Third comes the baby in the golden carriage


Very black and white but it does have a good principle.

Now I think everybody has every right to experience sex in an intimate relationship. If you're in your teens you might not be mature enough to have sex and keep a healthy relationship alive. The reason - it's such a precious moment we tend to be sensitive about it.

If you have sex too often it easily becomes a habit that leaves you hungering for more - and you might even become dependant on it, at least with your relationships.

And then there's those people with chastity in mind who decide to value their virginity by waiting until they've settled in a lifelong relationship (optioning for marriage).

The temple prostitutes in ancient days offered up themselves for sex as a divine experience. So many sexual cults developed because of the intense feelings during sex. There is something truly God-like in those feelings when you reach that special climax. But to be truly God-like these feelings need to be respected and understood with maturity. In a mature relationship the two will share their intimate experience by self-offering. Most porns stars will tell you they don't think of the partner's feelings during sex.

In marriage both man and woman unite to form one body and soul.
Marriage provides the best environment for self-offering and understanding during sex.
jstoeffler
i think people should do whatever the hell they want, but if they get std's and crap, it's them that made that stupid choice.......
personally i'm going to hold off until i get married
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