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Do you believe in cyber love.





saiyeek
This happened to me. I was chatting with a girl over the internet for a long time. Gradually we became very good frens and we shared our cell numbers and we talked to each other and met. THen I proposed to her to be in relationship, and it worked fine. We've been dating for 5 months now. I think cyberlove is cool thing to do. LOL.
Kaneda
I don't really believe in cyberlove. Meeting on the internet, and then meeting in real life (like you did), of course. In retrospect, it'll be no different from meeting any other place. Maintaining a real, loving relationship on the net for more than a short while, without meeting, however... maybe I'm old fashioned, but nah. Smile Can't imagine it working out that way.
Rhysige
I have to say it is definatly possible... I have experienced it myself.. I was in quite a good relationship with a girl online for about 8 months and one day hope to meet her (just as friends now though) and I am all to willing to meet up with people I meet on the net, unfortunatly I seem to pick em right.. other side of Australia or in another country.. damn Im good Razz
bigstyleee
i must confuss i have got to know a few girls on the internet in the past. not knowing them so well does some time means you are more willing to share things that you would maybe not, because of this i think people feel closer to them, leading to perhaps unexpected feelings.

as for meeting up and having a relationship, i am not a fan of long distance relationships of any sort (unless you have history to back it up along with an element of trust).
sentinela
quite frankly i really can't answer that....

never happened to me... but... that does not means that it is not possible....

once I learned that some people fall in love thru love letters....

so whats the big difference?

now it's real-time love messenger....

Idea
Mumpay
i think it's a great place to start, but once you meet in person it's another higher level.

you can get really intimate and deep with someone through text (if you can type good and fast and have a great imagination). It's also often much easier to share deep feelings or embarrassing thoughts with another through text rather than face to face. It's a great safe zone where you can really think before you talk, rephrase questions and answers for maximum effect, and if it gets too intense you can always comfortably leave the conversation without feeling obliged to stay longer out of "politeness".

But when you meet that same person in real life, it's like learning to talk to them all over again. Sometimes the transition is easy, but they're still a "stranger" in the sense that you have to learn their manerisms, expressions and how they relate to thoughts, quirks that can become anoying real fast (like mouth-breathing, lol), etc.

stuck only online and you'll really miss out.
Lennon
I'm willing to give it a try. Dancing
adepss1
Cyberlove isn't real until you actually meet the other person in the flesh per se, then you can really get to know that person or feel if its a mutual attraction.
There are just too many posers out there that can put on all the charm and false pretences disguised (like the wolf in little red riding hood) to actual know who is for real or not.

Just look at all the cyberstalkers and serial killings in the U.S and Japan.

Cyberlove I dont think is for real, however its a possible start, IMO you can only truly fall for someone after you've actually met them in the flesh.

That's my 2 cents.
girlinjapan
Any girls out there have the same experiences as I?

You talk to a guy. You are friendly. Three days later, he is talking about marriage and how he is sooo in love with you. It annoys the hell outta me. And its a bit freaky yes. Cyberstalkers=eww
stormybaka
I've met 2 people online that I hooked up and lived with.. Still are friends and have an amazing relationship with both. Will be back with my ex soon... See how we go after that ~_^ ooooh yeah!
conicon
I personally have been trying to find someone and I'm having trouble so I think online personals is a good idea. However you have to be careful, make sure that the person you are talking to is a real person and not some kind of porno spam bot. I have been contacted by a porno spam bot on both myspace and webdate, so be careful. Another thing I would also be weary of is pedophiles. This is not something that is limited to cyber love but is something that has a greater chance of happening online because of the anonymity that is present. One real life example of this happening in real life is my old grade school gym teacher was having an affair with one of his old students who was in high school at the time. So I recommend that before you even start talking to anyone you meet on the internet you try to prove to yourself beyond the shadow of a doubt that this is a real person somewhere and not just someone trying to scam you or worse.
jimbo12
Online love? Sure, why not? it may not be for all but different strokes for different folks. I could see myself finding someone online and setting up a date online, like through myspace. but i dont see myself having a net relationship
input
relationships can start from anywhere so why not online. However one cannot fall in love with words on a screen or a voice on a telephone, they must be in love face to face for it to be love
David_Pardy
The internet is a good way to introduce yourself to people, but REALITY is how you truly get to know people.
Devang
I believe in Love of Cyberspace. It can happen and it happens. I have seen people meeting after chatting online and then falling in love and friendship and physical relationships too.

so yes, it's possible to have real relationships by cyberspace!
ayham
i believe on it and trying to feel on it
Gieter
I honestly do not believe in it. Persons may be different in real life, and there’s something called ‘attraction’ and ‘the spark.’ These are subjective feelings, and very important if you get to know somebody. It may be that you have a splendid ‘relationship’ over the Internet, but that you find each other boring in the real life. Or he/she may be simply someone you’re not willing to spend the rest of your life with. In my opinion I think you only can speak about a serious relationship when you have met someone.

These kind of relations are new (because of the Internet, duh!), so maybe most people aren’t used to it yet. But the concept cyberlove still sounds too irrational to me. If I’m in a relationship, I want to hug that person, kiss that person, hold that person’s hand,… and in a cyberrelation it’s not possible to do that.

However, the Internet enabled people all over the world to communicate with each other, so you could call cyberlove ‘the globalisation of love.’ I think that in the end, you have to decide for yourself whether you want a cyberrelation or not and whether it can be a serious relation or not.
willstefan
I would have to say no, because the fact you can't see someone straight into his/her eyes, and the fact that you can't see his smile, and emotion changes....just don't make it right....and who know's who is behind the monitor?
molif
cyberlove.. you could be falling in love with a lady but she is actu a guy.. 100% confirm that there will be no honesty at all when comes with cyberlove..

tried before but it is all crap.. stupid gals sending photos of themselves but actu itz not their own pictures.. bla bla..

even worst.. some even came up chatting with me if i wanna have cybersex.. EWW.. unrealistic..!
Srs2388
I dont know if I would believe it or not, however i wont say its impossible.... i respect anyone who can do it...i woudn't though....
i've had long-listance realtionships though...
didn't meet in chat thoguh...
i'd be afraid the person would be some dude that gets kicks out of getting guys to date them thinking there females and just holding them back
from having a relationship that could be more than chatting online and emails... that will eventually get old and drive you insane
one other thing that has to enter the mind
what if they plan on killing you when you meet up
that could be very dangerious
but thats what I think.
milkmandan
when i started dating my girlfriend, we only actually hung out for an evening or two with mutual friends before she moved about 4 hours away for school. let's say for argument's sake that we hadn't hung out for those two days and just met on the internet. we both ended up telling our mutual friend that we were attracted to each other and then through that we started texting each other (to the tune of $300 on my next phonebill), and eventually decided that she was going to come down to my place for a weekend and see how it went. essentially it was supposed to be something of a pre-arranged one night stand.

now, i wouldn't say that we fell in love during that time. i think it's possible to become attracted to someone through text, pictures, etc. because you'd find things in common; you might have good conversations and so on, but i don't think you can truly fall in love with someone unless you spend time with them in person. unless you've hung around them and known them, you haven't really known the their whole self and can't fall in love with a part of a person.

in short: i don't think cyberlove is possible. cyberattraction maybe.
prepkid
I say it IS possible, but not many people succeed in it.

You never know if the person you are talking to is real- he might be a sick old pervert, and quite horribley, she may be the sick old pervert as well.

I met some decent people online, but it did not go any further than talking to waste time. Meeting, I must say, destroys the picture you have in your mind about that person.
Vrythramax
I don't believe it's possible to really "fall in love" through simple text, so no, I don't believe in "Cyber-Love". I think what some people feel is actually infatuation not love. Love comes after a time and after eally getting to know someone on a one-to-one basis.

As Kaneda pointed out, sure it possible to meet someone online and find them interesting, then to meet IRL, but not actually fall in love with them through the text. Falling in love with someone in a chatroom is pretty much the same as falling in love with a good book...both are well written and both are only TEXT.
technospecial
Sometime it can believe and sometime cant believe like i met a pakistani guy mad me so sad he always lied and last time i have to knew his every word are all lied but now i never be a real guy for me from cyber
Subsonic Sound
Only text, only text, only text... These words are getting bandied around a lot.

A letter is only text. Internet communication can only be text, but doesn't have to be. What about voice-chatting? Is it possible to fall in love over the phone? What about video-conferencing?

I met my girlfriend online, and we used Skype obsessively. At one point, we were talking for 26 straight hours, including 6 hours sleep while still connected. Then we added webcams.

If you're talking with someone vocally, and you can see them, is there an important difference between that and real-life interaction? In real life of course, you can go out for a walk, a meal, a film... but if you can get that close to someone without doing any of that... keep an enjoyable conversation up from when you wake to when you sleep without external stimuli...

Yes, it is possible. I'm quite certain of that. You have to be careful, because it can be tricky to make long distance things work, and you have to be certain you are talking to who you think you are... but with the more widespread popularity of voicechatting and webcams, that's getting easier and easier.
sky
Yes, i believe in cyberlove. In fact, i know my gf from internet for 3 years.. Now we are studying in the same university. It all start with random chatting Razz
cocobirdi
i can't really imagine falling in love with someone over the internet... i've met people online, but i never allow them to try to claim me, bc frankly, it's pointless unless you're planning on meeting IRL, in which case the guy could turn out to me some axe murderer.

the ONLY time i've ever met someone from online IRL was when i was in my friend's car and SHE decided to go meet this guy (we'd both been chatting with him, but he was constantly hitting on me)... i was utterly against it, but he turned out to be ok. i didn't end up falling for him tho, but his friend that he was hanging out with at the time Wink and i'm still with him, over a year later Very Happy

guys online always seem to be clingy, stalker-ish guys who can't get girls IRL.
Vrythramax
Subsonic Sound wrote:
Only text, only text, only text... These words are getting bandied around a lot.

A letter is only text. Internet communication can only be text, but doesn't have to be. What about voice-chatting? Is it possible to fall in love over the phone? What about video-conferencing?

I met my girlfriend online, and we used Skype obsessively. At one point, we were talking for 26 straight hours, including 6 hours sleep while still connected. Then we added webcams.

If you're talking with someone vocally, and you can see them, is there an important difference between that and real-life interaction? In real life of course, you can go out for a walk, a meal, a film... but if you can get that close to someone without doing any of that... keep an enjoyable conversation up from when you wake to when you sleep without external stimuli...

Yes, it is possible. I'm quite certain of that. You have to be careful, because it can be tricky to make long distance things work, and you have to be certain you are talking to who you think you are... but with the more widespread popularity of voicechatting and webcams, that's getting easier and easier.



perhaps you have never heard of such technologies as the "Webcam", "Internet Radio" or "Internet Telephony", not to mention others? The Internet is not just "text any longer.

IRC is only text, and by the IRC Protocal that commands it, it will always be such.

If you would like the exact IRC Protocal PM me.
Subsonic Sound
Quote:
The Internet is not just "text any longer.



... yes... that's exactly what I'm saying. That purely internet contact doesn't have to be purely text, that it can emulate telephones, and even videophones, that if you're intelligent, and both at least moderately technologically literate, you can be sure who you're talking to, and connect with them on almost every level that real world contact provides.

So I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Smile
tomek1981
i do not believe in cyber love but I am aware of its existance. I loved one girl whch I met by net. I love her to now days although she does not. Love can have different faces Smile
xorcist
I hate when people say I love someone and they didnt even meat them in real life. They just proberly see a picture of them dont even know if its teh real person.
Vrythramax
Subsonic Sound wrote:
Quote:
The Internet is not just "text any longer.



... yes... that's exactly what I'm saying. That purely internet contact doesn't have to be purely text, that it can emulate telephones, and even videophones, that if you're intelligent, and both at least moderately technologically literate, you can be sure who you're talking to, and connect with them on almost every level that real world contact provides.

So I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Smile



the original post in this thread, dealt with a person who found/saught love in and IRC chatroom....IRC is still text based....unless I am sadly mistaken (and I have been known to "screwup").


Very Happy

what are you trying to say?
Subsonic Sound
The original post didn't mention IRC at all.

What you say about it is perfectly true, just... not all that relevant. Smile

All the nay-sayers seem be saying that you can't find real love over the internet, as you can't find love through text alone. I'm trying to say that there's no reason internet communication has to be through text alone, not anymore.
Vrythramax
Subsonic Sound wrote:
The original post didn't mention IRC at all.

What you say about it is perfectly true, just... not all that relevant. Smile

All the nay-sayers seem be saying that you can't find real love over the internet, as you can't find love through text alone. I'm trying to say that there's no reason internet communication has to be through text alone, not anymore.


Quote:
This happened to me. I was chatting with a girl over the internet for a long time. Gradually we became very good frens


forgive my [uncorrected] assumption that it was a "chat channel". Read all the posts please, then point a finger.


I have never been one to be accused of being "relevant", I really thought we were to earn posts, recieve free Frihosts services...and enjoy ourselves a bit in the process.
Vrythramax
speaking of IRC....I am there now....you are not.
chic4u03
weel i think some are succeed some fails...
Ryox
Cyberlove can be a real challenge because of the two people are not in the same township, or the same state it can be really hard on two Individuals..

As what you said, Cyberlove is kool but there is always a suffer of conqueses that two has to face..

Things that everyone has to think about when dating online and loving an individual online, will I ever see him/her, do I have a job to see him/her, how will we meet, etc..

Consequences always happen and If you get too far into a relationship online, it can lead to be a big disaster's in the long run, especially if you love the girl.

Thing's always happen and If you are not working, I suggest you don't take that risk with any girl In-less she wants to make an Effort to see you If she is working. If two individuals are not working than it would be impossible to see each other..

As for me, I had cyberlove but it lead to heart breaking which I learned from.
maxxypane
Well, this depends upon two persons that how much they trust on each other. Cyber love can be possible but this is dose in very rare case. Normally people believe in face to face it means real time love.
D'Artagnan
no , sorry but i don't believe in cyberlove, love at first sight and long distance relationships...

too love you must know a person from a point of view, even the person don't see ...
you cant love a person by the pictures posted at facebook, or by chats, or emails... it`s like falling in love with a writer or a model, it`s not love its just attraction.
chatrack
Hi,

I think love can happen in cyber medium. I know many people fall in love using chat rooms, finally get married. The era of distant communication start with telephone, telegraph, etc. If love can grow
in these medium, why not the the cyber world? It is most robust , with visual and audio support.

The thing is how we used it often.
The_unnamed_label
I used to not think its possible really... but now I do.
davidv
Catfish. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1584016/

That is all.
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