http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/n/a/2005/11/16/national/a111404S62.DTL
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| Tasha Henderson got tired of her 14-year-old daughter's poor grades, her chronic lateness to class and her talking back to her teachers, so she decided to teach the girl a lesson. |
now thats a damn good lesson to teach to kids, anyone reackon its a lil harsh? I agree with the people who blasted that women. She needs more education than the child herself. I would strongly recommend her to look for professional psicological help.
| risuarez wrote: |
| I agree with the people who blasted that women. She needs more education than the child herself. I would strongly recommend her to look for professional psicological help. |
yes ill agree with all you saidIt's a pretty extreme thing and I don't think I'd do that as a parent, but on the other hand I don't agree with the soft reward-reward-reward idea either. Children need discipline. I don't think it'd work when this mother would just praise her daughter for the things she does well, and overlook her wrong things.
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The people that complained need to be shot. They should mind their own damn business. Christ the mom was standing right next to her, she couldn't have been that humiliated. I would have done that, beat the shit out of her next time she talked back and grounded her for the rest of the school year or until her grades came up. Paraents are too easy on kids now, and they are all brats. Good for this lady for caring and MAKING her child see her way.
I don't see the harm in it honestly. Life is cold and hard and why lie to kids and tell them everything is going to be ok when they slack when the truth is it won't. People's adult lives are very similiar to how they were as students in school. The trouble makers and class clowns are all in and out of jail now. The book worms who had there homework correct everyday are the ones who went and made it through colledge and left their hometown and now have successfull careers and nice homes. The daydreamers and artist and such are still struggling neither doing well nor terrible.
I think the punishment was a little extreme, but I respect the fact that the mother was trying, and it seems to have worked.
I think that was brilliant! Extreme, yes. But there in lies the brilliance. Children, like any other organism really, get conditioned by the mundane so that it no longer has an effect on them. It is like tolerance with alcohol. If you want to correct a child's behavior, you need to shock their system.
from my own opinion, (im not a parent) i would say that parents should discipline their kids from a younger age. if the kids are disciplined from a younger age then this would eliminate the need of doing what the mother did in the article.
From being a child i have seen how parents go too easy and sometimes too hard on their kids, the main problem i see is a lack of communication between the child and the parent. parents need to realise that kids do eventually grow up, and they do need to know what life is like in the real world and that is what i think the lady was trying to show her daugher, the real world, if the kids are getting off too easy, and everything been given to their feet, how will they survive the real world??
| NuniPio wrote: |
from my own opinion, (im not a parent) i would say that parents should discipline their kids from a younger age. if the kids are disciplined from a younger age then this would eliminate the need of doing what the mother did in the article.
From being a child i have seen how parents go too easy and sometimes too hard on their kids, the main problem i see is a lack of communication between the child and the parent. parents need to realise that kids do eventually grow up, and they do need to know what life is like in the real world and that is what i think the lady was trying to show her daugher, the real world, if the kids are getting off too easy, and everything been given to their feet, how will they survive the real world?? |
You've hit the nail on the head with this post m8.
Kids today are a completely unruly bunch, and it's 100% to do with the parents.
Having lived in the U.K. for 26 years, the U.S. for 7 years, and Canada for 3 1/2 years, I can honestly say that the parenting in the U.S. is by far the worst in terms of discipline. It's a generalisation, but in the U.S. political correctness when it comes to children has gone completely insane.
Back in the days when it was still OK for parents to discipline their children without fear of police interference, kids were a lot better behaved. When I was a kid, if I played up, my Mum would take care of the problem with a smack around the ear. If it was a bad problem, then I got the "Wait 'till your Dad gets home". Now, I never recall him hitting me, but the threat of it, along with the shouting always did the trick. These days, kids will just turn around and say, "You touch me and I'll call the Police". what kind of #$%^ed up world do we live in???
IMHO, the clumsy manner in which they're tried to address the henous crime of parental abuse has resulted in child anarchy....all right that you want to teach your daughter a lesson ,but this lesson goes to far.
As punishmant, i should teach the kid to clean the house, doing the dishes and other things.
Then i should ask what they want learn of doing jobs.
Confrontation with the reality is best lesson, but not the lesson of the lady.
Everyone says this goes to far, why? Are you parents? Or are you one of those brat kids some of the others here are reffering to?
My mom tried the "wait for dad to come home" I laughed at her. She proceded to spank the crap out of me. Spare the rod, spoil the child.
| Jiltedcitizen wrote: |
Everyone says this goes to far, why? Are you parents? Or are you one of those brat kids some of the others here are reffering to?
My mom tried the "wait for dad to come home" I laughed at her. She proceded to spank the crap out of me. Spare the rod, spoil the child. |
OK, i am not a parent, but if you beat a child with a rod, it will turn against you, because a child has the right to turn you over to the police for child abuse. In my country is that possible.
By the way so speak about referring to those brat kids. I say that the education of the parents will create the kid. When i was young, i didn't to think on this scenes, because my prents raised me very well and when i had problems, i could talk about it.I am telling you...no matter how much u teach a child, sometimes they are just plain naughty. My mum brought my sis and i up just fine. But my cuz was very very naughty when young..thank god she's a great kid now.
Like they say...spare the rod, spoil the child<----agreed
