Your message is kind of confusing, but I give it a shot.
I have got a personal message containg your password to your admin site, right?
What happens if you use that password here:
You could use the same username and password to log into the FTP and upload files to your acount.
You should have gotten a pm and/or email with your username and password on it. So first of all, did you get a password?
Secondly, when you got to http://cp.frih.net/ http://www.headless.frih.net/config and http://www.headless.frih.net:2222/ , do you get a login screen? If only the first one is working, then your firewall is blocking the other ports. You then always need to use http://cp.frih.net/ .
thnx for da help but i pm ed someone and it now kinda worked excetped i think i deleted the index thing in direct admin. CAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME ONE index thingy
If you are talking about the index.html file in your root directory then its just a temporary file which is suppose to be replaced by user when he's publishing his site.However an index.html is required from security prespective.You can create your own html file
Open notepad , copy the following in it
Save the file as index.html and upload it.
of course if you want to do some modification, you could put some images on it ^^ just in case, if you upload your files, and you're not too sure if it will working on this server (due to other version ) you could name your Real index page into another one like indexx.html or something like that, and check it by using yourname.frih.net/yourrealindexname. like my school web that crashed right now T_T (www.smansasolo.net, i changed the index then put the real index into indexx.php, check it using smansasolo.net/index.php)
and when you're done maintenancing it, you could change the real "fake" index into another name or delete it if you want and name your real index that have been renamed before (in my web it's indexx.php) into index.