Glad to see you again in this parts. I was reading through your post, trying to get a feel of your problem, but the fact is that I don't know what kind of menu are you trying to mimic. First of all, I would need to look at it, and I can't see any links to your site in your sig or anything of the sort. Second, while I'm not by far a professional in this matters, I would be glad to do it; quite frankly I have fun trying to tackle this things.
I have also seen that Jiltedcitizen posted a few utilities that could come in handy, whether you use them or not, I'd love to see how it went. And of course, if you need my help, just say so.
Yes they do, check harder. 3rd one uses images.
Yes, I am a happy camper and now I can focus on the content!
css makes wonders, looks much better with div:hover. Good that you finnaly got the result you wanted.