I have a boyfriend who is 19 and 20 in a couple of months and my parents keep saying he is really immature for his age which is holding me back and stopping me from growing up. I want to prove them wrong and show them he can grow up. He isn't very independent and sometimes he acts like a child.
How do I help him grow up?
I wouldn't suggest it as well.
Your other half will change if he wants to, and since you don't like his "immaturity" I'm sure there have been quarrels or maybe even fights, so he knows what you don't like.
So the important part is already there, he knows what you don't like, it's now up to him if he wants to change, even if you force him to change he won't really change unless he really wills to.
Don't try to change him he is who he is. Best way though is to say if you don't start acting your age I'm done. Usually that will straighten a guy out.
Standready i've seen it work before. Sometimes it takes a little push to see it yourself that you need to grow up. Not saying this is an overnight process but it can help.
Sometimes.... People in general need a push every now and again. They may be thinking they need to do something but are either too lazy or trying not to grow up. For example someone acting immature may be trying to push away the fact that he is getting older and needs to grow up. This is hard for some people to do and it may take a bit of a push for them to do it.
Acting more mature, means giving up your own small desires for the good of others. Perhaps your bg is too young to do this, after all hes just 20!
like they say. Girls mature faster than guys