Want to know if LOVE is real?

S3nd K3ys

Have children!

The first time they crawl up into your lap, look up at you and say, "I love you Daddy", and then fall asleep will melt your heart.

The day they graduate will make your heart sing.

And the day they move out will tear your heart out.

It's very hard to deny love at any of those times and a million others.

I was never willing to die for another until I became a father, never even considered it. With no second thought, I would kill or die for my sons. If I die for them, I hopefully will take someone with me.

[FuN]goku

no i dont want to no

Eyre

thats good S3nd K3ys. Even though im only 15, and don't have kids yet, i know what you mean. my father has always been like that to me, even though he gets on my nerves sometimes, he's still overall my best friend, mentor, and means a ton for me. And believe me, it works the other way too. I would die for my father quicker than anything. Very Happy

S3nd K3ys

tidruG

You know how some people say that their dads are their role models? Well, my dad certainly is.

It's not like he's perfect or anything... he's human, but certainly his ideals are laudable. He's got principles and the way he lives by them is stunning. I still remember a few years ago, when I was sick (Fever - 104 degrees), he stayed up almost the whole night dabbing my forehead with a cloth dipped in cold water... he constantly made sure that I took my medicines on time.

My mum's no different. Behind the constant nagging to get me to study ( Razz

), I can see that she loves me deeply.

Pity I can't say the same about my sister.
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(just kidding, I know my sister loves me and I love my sister too)

S3nd K3ys

tidruG

Eyre

ahahahahahahaha....that's amazing.

SunburnedCactus

See - sex does have a purpose! Very Happy

Astrolopitecos

what's love?
each one has is own love

when u see the smile of u'r girlfriend/boyfriend
when u see her shinning eyes
when u can understand and be understood
when u can cry and have a shoulder
it's everything u cant think about it

so why talk about it?

FEEL IT!

stay well Cool

prillan

what about this, I am a child! Laughing

52tease

There is a culture of parenting that I think is not completely honest with the rest of the world. Yes, you have those moments when you look in your childs' eyes and see all the hope, joy and wonder of the world.

Then you try to go to sleep at night and wake up to the cries of one unable to take care of himself. Often we can put aside the anger we feel at this by reminding ourselves that this child is going to bring something important to the world.

Then we hit the toddler years when we see the joy of watching a person learn how to interact with the world.

Then we hit the teenage years where rebellion is a matter of course and you wonder if you ever tought your child anything that stuck. You wonder if parents truly have any influence over their children and the moral (or lack thereof) approach with which they participate in society. --does anyone remember Family Ties?

As our children grow older they forget everything you did for them. You have to become a NAG just to get some attention and appreciation from this being that you put so much of your life and energy into (often to the detriment of your own life; the life you used to have before kids came along).

I have heard too many parents complain and seen too many families on camping trips to believe the lies that are spewed by doting parents.

Oddly enough, I have one of the most well-adjusted families (after the initial divorce and remarriage) of just about anyone I know -this has been commented on by just about everyone I know- yet I still don't need to have kids.

Admittedly, I am too selfish to give up so much for another.

I appreciate that people are willing to give and do for their children, but I wish they wouldn't whitewash the vagaries of parenthood so that people who are completely underprepared for it get bogged down to a point where they can't raise a healthy-whole family.

baxcb020

love isnt real its just chemicals

RavenCross

yeah.. children will definitely prove your love, but its just one way, there are still many things tio show that love is real.. one of which is giving the person happiness even if you are not part of that happiness.. real love also lingers and waits in your heart.. time is the best measure of real love..

Very Happy

i guess...

tingkagol

shebin

Some people think of Teen Love and smile. It's not real love, they say. Puppy Love, they call it. Those people, I think, have very short memories, and no longer recall the realities of their first love experiences. While few expect teen love to last a lifetime, that hardly makes it less real. Half or more of all adult love doesn't last a lifetime either.

Teen love is very real. And powerful. Perhaps at no other time in our lives are the joys and pains felt as strongly, or experienced more deeply. Who among us, after all, can ever forget our first love?

earhug

First post. Guess I should say something meaningful. Then again posting something meaning on the net is just like planting a tree in a forest.

Hey ... I did it already. God damn I'm hot. Anyhow. Love.

LOts of different types of love, I think everyone here can agree with that. Personally I always mix up infatuation with love. Funny when you're infatuated, you find any convuluted connection you can and think it's special.

Love, love, love. I was in love a couple of times. Maybe. God I don't know ... I think it has something to do with trust. I'll get back to you when I find out. Question

S3nd K3ys

FiZiX

You don't truly love someone unless you'd help them bury a body (especially your own mother's).

S3nd K3ys

SNES350

Modulator

It is difficult to escape the circle of control that is contained by one's environment. When one does or does not desire to be like another for instance one's father, the unexcapable reality is that even though one believes that he/she is nothing like their father they are only delegating control to that person by the mere instance of the statement. In other words, by stating that you are not like your father is to state that there is comparison to be had where the standard is your father that has to be revolted and uprooted. This uprooted standard is in view as to compare and negate; however, by comparing and not being oneself for whatever that may is to give control to the other. This control, is contained in the trace back to the source to forever compare what the other is.

gonzo

adwya

i think no real love

i think sex only

damj

gonzo

ThisOverload

bassgs_17

Dang, who knew us internet geeks could be so...emotional! But seriously, about the whole son-father thing, I agree. I would definitely give my life for my father, but don't let him read this! -_-' Also, I am currently protesting the female portion of the human race, as they seem to enjoy detesting me! But I will say that I would rather have a clone than a kid, because it would be so much more fun. (and deliciously evil!)
If you have any thoughts on this, feel free to PM me.
-Aquastrike

damj

planet

Having 5 of them buggers I halfway agree (they are B I G),,, having 4 grandsons (and hoping for more) has made me enjoy parenthood even more, so thats way its only halfway =))

criticaldensity

Real (romantic) love does not exist. Its concept is just a bunch of existential B.S.

To really 'care' for or about somebody and their happiness is what I might condsider to be 'love' . And in their happiness you find yours.

lvmy

In my point of view,
love is a kind of feeling we can feel but can't touch.
Only when you lose it can you get a strongest feeling of love.
So let's take care of every piece of love we have in hand.

bewald

I don't have children, but to me, real love is my pitbull Thor's head in my lap, whining to get up on the couch to cuddle. His only interest, all that concerns him is he lives just to be with me and other people.

Despite their bad image and that some say dogs can't feel love, I've never had another dog or even another person that showed me the adoration, devotion and love that my pitbull shows.

pjv

Love is when you share or give something that is good without expecting something in return.

Even a simple smile could mean a lot to someone so don't say that your too poor to give anything. It's not all material! Smile

Modulator

godam64

soon or later i think all human will feel love.
- love to family
- love to men/women
- love for the country
- and more

godam64

soon or later i think all human will feel love.
- love to family
- love to men/women
- love for the country
- and more

whplace

Love is something really beautiful!!!

You must just feel it.

And yeah........I love my dad!!! He is the best. I do get angry with him sometimes but that thought is always cleared of my mind.

Yes......Start loving your dads everyone. Think of the +ve stuff and be happy in life.

leon44

got no kids and never wnat non, probably take up too much time, costs loads and they get annoying

spanny

real love? have children and a nice car with a great house and a sexy wife

houari

Well,
to tell the truth I am not interested in real love, because I doesn't exist to me.
It is just that you get use of somebody after a while and that you don't see what the point is leaving him or [her].

teseotur

I do think babies are more than amazing, they are unique !!
they help you to go on and think positive !! d.

teseotur

please, dont do babies if you do not really want them... they do suffer all the time... they r the best thing in my life !!
d.

teseotur

love is real, but it's not that easy to get it...
actually I am in love with my baby, but anytime I look around I can see people who I can fall in love with !! it's crazy, though, dudes...
but I have never betrayed her !! is there anybody who's got my same feeling ?? I think so... Italians girls are great !! ciao to ev'body there !! d...

sergio_ykz

LOVE is a REAL form of IMAGINATION.

If you need one woman much, and don´t live without she, you think its is a REAL LOVE, but its don´t. Its only NECESSITY.

Love is unknow...

I only know that the language of love is a night of sex, a crazy love, and I think that its is not a love...

sonam

For me love is real.

eqfan

Greats!but how can i get the account? Smile

eqfan

i cant wait ,need ............ Laughing

bicefalus

Yes, I think you´re completely right...

I´ve seen this on the eyes of friends and collegues.

One day it´ll be my turn too.

C´ya,
A

KimRubin

What is the perfect number of children?

KimRubin

There is great range of thinking and emotion on this forum. Anybody who hasn't read all the posts...should do that!

UGOTGAMEX

I don't have childeren im 13, but someday i hope i do, but for now i will just chill and lean my chair back until its time.

loserk

loving a girlfriend is just tear drops and cry..no woman no cry..

mouta

I can't remember a life before having kids, nor would I want to.

TimsJugling

JESUS is Love!!!

izcool

I think I would consider myself lucky in this world. I have decent parents who are always looking for the best for me. My dad tells me every so often (and I quote him from this) : "All parents want their children to do better than they did in life". I can actually agree with that as a lot of people make stupid mistakes and want their children to do better than how they did and to get a better future. My dad is always trying to do the best for me. My mom is nice and not a crabass like how many mothers I seen are.

Most of the parents of my friends are complete jerks and don't do many nice things for their kids. They tend to take their problems out on them in blame. I don't think that's right.

For example, with my one friend online (whom I've never met, we've only talked on IM and on the phone occassionally) has a bitchy mother who seems to hate his guts and a father who deserted him. From what he was telling me, he only met his father only once in his life, apart from when he was born. His mother and father were never married. He has a
"light" case of CP (Cerebral Palsy) which I think was on account of drugs or alcohol when she was impregnated. His case is considered as "light" because he cannot have much control of his legs and with his hands. He can walk, only with a walker, and can do simple things with his hands except for writing. He uses the computer since it's easier on him instead of using pen and paper.

He is currently in a nursing home right now on account of his CP getting worse (he's better off there on account of medical attention right at his side if he needs it) but as far as I know, he's been mostly fine. He was having skin breakouts and that's what made the medics take him to a hospital and then to the nursing home after it settled down a little.

I don't see much love in his family (only real love with him seems to be his friends and colleagues at the non-profit organization he and I are a part of). He was telling me that he had specially informed the nursing home to turn down his mother and father if they were to try to see him. He doesn't want them in his life. I would do the same thing if I were in his situation.

Love depends on a lot of things. If his mother and father were never married in the first place, then there was no real "love" involved if they had a son. She was probably a hooker. Second, if she was drinking/doing drugs when she was impregnated, then that's clearly affecting her child, which came out the way it did. His father only seen him only once in his life (other than when he was born), and finally, if he were to refuse his mother and father from seeing him, then that definately means that he doesn't care for them any more, and that they don't care for him. I remember when he was asking me to find Pizza Hut coupons to fax to him so he could actually have some dinner. Really sad stuff. Sad

That's one comparison of love on how it doesn't seem to exist for him but seems to exist for me. Because of what I learned about his parents and about himself, I would consider myself very lucky that I have caring and loving parents. Someday he and I plan to meet, but I'm not exactly sure when. When we do (and I hope to within the next few years), I think I would really make him smile. We've known eachother online and on the phone for almost 3 years, he and I know a lot about eachother. It's nothing with a long-time relationship, he and I are just good friends.

- Mike.

killerXqueen

If you want to know if love is real....you don't need to have children. Even though children are a blessing...you needn't have them in order to prove if your love for another is real.

Have a look inside of your own heart. Does it feel real? Then surely, it must be.

sander123

you suck

a-place-of-hiding

The real love to me is something deep.
There is kind of love which will not be spoken,which just lies in your heart,cos you bury it in your deep ocean of heart.You keep it and cherish it,cos you mean it and see it as the most precious in the world.
This is the real love to me.
I have a little poem to show that.

It’s deep in his eyes
the depths of his soul
she sees a million deaths
as they swallow her whole.

He could change her world
with one simple kiss.
It’s a never-ending dream
that always ends in this…

A reality so far
from the heart that she knows
so much lies between them
yet she can’t let go.

His smile warms her heart
while his words break it
and as time moves forward
she sees she won’t make it.

Out of the depths
he plunged into her.
She loves him so much
and his faults are so few.

While he lives
his life
his own...
He is happy
and she is alone.

He consumes her
so that he is her world.
She is nothing
if she is not His Girl.

Stronger than steel
soft as silk.
As blue as the sky
time will never wilt.

Further than distance
fragile as glass.
As deep as the sea
surrounding her heart.

He is to her...
as her eyes are to sight
as a leaf on a tree
as day is to night.

Without him
she shall not exist.
Him, her blood
all she knows is this.

She thinks there is no reason
She thinks that time would heal...
But neither time or reason will
change the way she feels.

He doesn`t know the sadness
that hides behind her sigh.
He doesn`t know how many times
she has broken down to cry.
So there is no doubt that
he is the hardest person to live with
but the hardest to live without!

a-place-of-hiding

I have been working in kindergarten for 3 weeks.
I think I have learnt another perspective of real love from those little kids.
It's your patience to them,it's like when they gave you their little palms to ask for help and you would never get tired of them.Because you know it's your responsibility for them,and you love them as you love your parents and children.You show your love to them,and that kind of love will be real and trust worthy for them,cos they depend on this kind of love.

a-place-of-hiding

On our way of seaching real life,you may get hurt sometimes,and here is a little poem to share with you guys.

A tear falls
silently hitting the ground.
Closing my eyes,pretending
I`m falling through the sky.

I can`t see the sunshine,
I can`t smell the fragrance of flowers,
I can`t feel the tenderness of love.
I can`t even catch my own breath...

You are a beautiful mistake...
I prefer
to remember your goodness
not let the lies trouble me.

It`s hard to predict the future
I can`t trust your promises.
If saying goodbye is painful
let`s stop our love here.

You are just a beautiful mistake...

justinrs32

It's always good to see a father who cares. Sometimes I wish I would have had a dad more like you. My dad really has never been there for me. He was always "too busy". I plan on having kids when I grow up. I hope to be a good father like you seem to be Very Happy

rokabee

true love....is trust Very Happy

hereonearth

All the love in the world which ia not love of god are not real. The only true and real love is to love god. All other loves are running away from loving god. Even love between man and a woman is infact not real - if god is not there.

Mathias

I know of love myself, though I'm 15; I have siblings, so I have come to understand the feeling of love. Let me ask, is there anyone who, younger, would be mad at their brother or sister at one point, and the next point, when someone's bullying them or they're hurt, you're suddenly defensive? I bet there's a few who've noticed that.

Yeah, love can certainly make you do the strangest things...

rhys925

my dad isnt really a role model for me but i deffinetely know he cares for me although sometimes he doesnt show it deep down i know he does

neosree

I love the real love.
Love is everything for me.
Love itself is the God.
Or God itself is love.
So I love the whole world.
I love everyone.

Ashims

NOTE: Understanding love is an awesome tool for life. But its much more fun to enjoy it as some mystical force. If you dont want to ruin the magic (like ruining the ending to a great book), skip this post

I dont like it when people say love is undefinable, unreachable, some mystical force, some unfathomable chemical reaction. It seems to me (and this is only a theory mind you) that love is a very tangible, and attainable thing.

Simply put, love is that feeling that you get when you know everything is going to be alright. Its quite possibly the only situation (or perhaps by definition) that evaporates all problems for that moment and leaves such a euphorea. You might say it is tapping into a stream of possibilities.

The sense that any would die for their sons and daughters is a popular one. It comes perhaps (at least some of the time) from the belief (be it concious or sub) that your life is justified, or rather, the burdens of life lifted through that person. Its that you've done something great. That you've changed the world in an inescapable way. You can see all the possibilities in the world open up through that person. Thats what its really about. Possibilities.

Apply it to another situation, your father/mother etc. Okay, not your creation, but the same basic element still applies. In this case its usually a deep rooted instinct that your parents can help, hey, they brought you up. They hold the keys to the world. Is the same essential feeling. As you grow older your feelings for your parents change, you think differently of them, but you still love them? Of course you do. Now however, they're proof that life goes on, that your mid-life-crisis will resolve itself, and that there is plenty of fun to be had.

People who dont love their parents are always the ones who have not gleamed these snippits of knowledge or instinct from them for whatever reason.

Another situation. Faith. "I love the lord, I love jesus, I love mary, I love the holy spirit/ghost" (I know catholocism a bit better than I know other religeons so you'll find thats where my examples come from). Hell, thats an easy one, by overcoming some of the natural boundries of ones mind, and having some sort of undeniable faith, all lifes actions are justified. Life is good. The theory stands.

A word of warning. There is of course one problem with understanding this though. Let me warn you in advance. Nothing good comes of manipulating it. Knowing this, you can create love and you can break love but the thing you have to understand is that love is possibly the furthest down one end of the spectrum of emotions that we feel. Its a feeling stronger than pride, or hate, or lust, or whatever. Well... lets just say one day some guy finally got it and figured out how to split an atom.

There are reprecussions for everything.

I feel a bit cocky saying that last bit, but I'd feel bad not at least giving the kids who read this that warning.

I've been there. The worst experiences of my life.

So yeah. Sure love exists. Love is that emotion that you feel when you know everything is going to be alright (usually used in the context of a connection to another living entity).

Thinking about it this way allows you to understand the way people work, why they snap at you, why they say they hate or love their parents/ friends/ family, and most of all can help you understand how to help someone.

Please comment if you disagree, I'd like to refine this theory. Throw it against some situations and see if they work out, I'd also like to hear how it applies to you.

Ooh... one more thing having been warned about the manipulation thing. All you young couples/just married/still surviving marriages who want to last, here is my tip to you. A simple way to manipulate this to make sure you last, and you enjoy each others company, is to have a project (or rather, a scope of projects, one at first, when that finishes, start another one, bigger and better) that both of you can work on, and that neither of you can achieve without the other and that can never really come to an end. This means that at the very least, when you've lost everything else (as happens from time to time-- to everyone) you have something that you can fall back on and understand that because of that person life is moving foward and everything is going to be alright.

It works, most great familys have a project, whether its a house, or a buisness, or the kids (if you're the sort of people who wants to keep having kids/looking after them until you're 180 ^_^), or a faith or... something...

Or maybe I just think too much... people have told me thats the case...

Better stop before I ramble too much...

Cheers.
Ash.

druidbloke

mmm yeah I agree with the have children comment aswell, I'm a gay man and the only regret I have is I wont be a dad, i really get on with my nieces and nephews and think I'd be ok as a dad, but its just not to be, and I dont think its really fare to adopt children without a female role model in the household, and also with stupid attitudes that still are common in society, though thankfully changing, albeit slowly, kids have enough pressure without parents adding even more Smile

your daddys a homo, and so is your other one lol

crimsonessence

Ash.>
i agree. i also think that love is a major influence our behavior, ie. fear can be modivaed by the love of onself or others.. or whatever is threatened.

i also think it is difficult to define love (not impossible), just as it is any emothin.. i see it similar to the color delemma ( possibility that colors look different to each, my red is your blue) because when you think of love you remember how it felt to you. another might have a different perception of love, depending on how different events in their life have influnced them.

also there are so many aspects of love, ie brotherly love, fatherly love, romantic love... mabe you have love for inadiment objects or activities...

just my opinion ofcourse Wink

sabestian

To me, its the hormones messing with the brain. Like sexual intercourse. You may choose to perceive it as "love-making", "pure-bliss sex" or one of them thing mammals do to reproduce. *shrugs* Crying or Very sad

But then again, that's just my twisted Exclamation

idea about the matter. Maybe coz I'm bitter that I got dumped. Evil or Very Mad

fireyemtgirl

wow, some of you are really jaded. I can't wait until I get married and have children, but I know I have to finish college, and get my career settled first. I'm just getting into that stage in life where everyone is getting married... it's hard for my friends and I to walk past bridal displays and childrens clothing departments and not ooh and ahh over everything... and I feel too young to have my biological clock start ticking like that! I can't imagine how rewarding it must be.

Nicekiwi9

Kids....! ...NOW!!! Shocked

... *faints*....i havent even had my first car......

NuniPio

real love? Anxious

shishir_bit

christoph

Well what is real love... that really depends on the person: are you a rather outgoing person then real love can only be shown to a person, which is outgoing too: Your true love must have a lot in common with you and that is what makes it hard finding a true love. As soon as you have found someone though, I recommend you to be open because no person exactly the same. If your true love really wants you to do something then why not do it (if it isn't too bad of a job). Be happy to have a true love and do not take it for granted!!![/b]

deedee

What is real love?
Is it something? Is it someone?
And, if it's someone, who is that someone?
Is it someone that is like you?
Or very different?
Anybody has got a real love...
Whatever it is...
Just think and look inside your heart...
You'll find it there!

splitunion

To love is to transform the term understanding into an emotion.
To love is to feel that something that can not be duplicated but can be shared.
Though real love is hard to come by, no matter your age. Whether the love is for kin or not, it still is something time produces.

If that made no sense at all, sorry - I'm half asleep.

JagatWorld

this is a very good discussion.......

one of the best on the net...... good job pal......... Very Happy

yzy

To me when you hear your baby call you Mum or dady,I think love is!

cnnet

I donn't kown which kind of "love" you are refering
but no matter which kind
it mean to give not to get
an be happy with th course

smokey4life

@S3nd K3ys

As A Father I Know Exactly What You Mean Smile

I Would Give Anything For My Children!!

northstarz

tessaponcelet

you are all talking about the easy parts of loving (if you're not just messing around and saying love doesn't exist...). Has anyone pondered upon the idea that love pehaps is not just a bed of roses, a few cheezy moments, a hug from a loved one, blah blah blah. Of course your heart sings at your son's graduation day, of course it's oh-so-cuuuuuuuuuute to have your grandkids hop on you lap. These are worthless coments, i hope we all agree that anyone who isn't happy at his son's graduation should check with a psychiatrist. ok. now what is love? huh? if you take out all those easy, given, elementary elements that you seem to think are the essence of love. love is not a little buz in the stomach or a tear of joy, love of is everything that connects you to a person. everything from the tear of joy to the tear of pain, it's loving your mother so much it makes you dizzy, when she hurts you hurt even more, so she doesn't have to feel it all herself, you give her everything you have, you're open. and no it's not all pretty, if you think it is, then we're talking about different things. now father and son love doesn't abide by the same rules, it is an aquired feeling and not an innate one as is the case for any mother-child relationship. the minute it is aquired then it gives way to reasonning and thus ridiculous conclusions such as "i would die for my son", well i am a mother and god knows i would do everything in the world to stay alive for my son. now to the fifteen-year-old out there speaking, if you read this, please stop including "i am only fifteen", i don't know if you're looking for credit, patience, recognition, tolerance or pity for this fact but it is senseless to say that, and you should take it as a compliment.

go on loving, people. pehaps you already feel all of this i say, i certainly hope so, then it's just a problem of communication. now please do not assume i am a dark pessimist, cause i enjoy, as you do all the lovely parts of love. i like smiles and gizzy-gizzies. i just simply beleive that these elements are attachments, they are not the true magic, the magnificent force that unites cost and gratification in a single beat of the heart, the catalyst that makes us burn and freeze, and loose our senses. love is courageous, it is wild and unforgiving. it will take the best of you and put it to use. now the laughter, the butterflies are all there but that's not why we do it. it's just what comes with the package, enjoy it but my you never expect it.

take care and walk in peace.

bassgs_17

Thanks, you really made my day! Smile

Although us guys pretend we are emotionless, a little bit is okay... Seeya, this forum touches on the limits of my nerd anti-emotion code... Just kidding.
-Aquastrike

phunkee

yeh i think their is such thing as finding love these days although a lot of people will probably disagree with me on this one. As a wise person once told me.... Love grows as enfatuation fades. This can take a long time but if you really care enough about the person to want to make it work you'll see the rough times through to the smooth.

phunkee

soo how many of you out their are married and have kids??

newarkan

Ok, is this about love or family?

My opinion on love is that it's the greatest thing on earth given to people... First, Christianism is based on love. Then, every single wise philosophy (Confucius, Buddha, etc.) is based on love too.
Love is what makes us, humans, so different.

THEN

Love is when I wake up in the morning, and my gf's still asleep in my arms, it's warm in our room... The sun rises and lights softly her skin, and a few moments later she opens her eyes on me, and man, what I feel then is love. I can't describe it...
Well, love is the best of what happened to me...

akari

I can't really say much on my part of "what is love" in the sense of a relationship yet. However I *can* say that I believe love is when people appreciate you for who you are, it's not love in the stereotypical way, but there are indeed traces of love, or else why would people bother with appreciating you, when they can indeed insult or ignore you?

I like it when someone offers me a hot drink when it is cold outside, it warms me up Smile

Also when someone offers me some warm water when I've been crying for a while.

On another note, have you seen those pillsbury advertisements when the doughboy gives a kiss? I always found it cute and heartwarming Very Happy

redtigris

I think love is: sharing things, taking care of each other, respect someone for what he stands for. Smile

HangoverMS

Aren't there enough cabbages on this planet already?!? I am 34. I had a vasectomy without ever having had children. Two reasons. The world is already overrun with the disease known as Homo Sapien already. I am not saying that everyone should commit suicide or anything. But live your life and then fade away without leaving a trace. I follow the philosophy of www.vhemt.org if you want more insight on that. Number two: the laws of the United States (and the social consciousness, for that matter) has changed so abhorently against the "proper" raising of children that it has spawned a twisted version of what youth once was. When my mother was is high school, all then men were clean cut, respectful adolescents. They still got into trouble, mind you, but it was just kids being kids. When I was in high school, the dress code was down, hair styles were free, but generally behavior was about the same as past generations. Now schools have to have f***ing metal detectors! What happened? Parents stopped beating their kids, THAT'S what happened! When I was a child and I did something wrong, I got the ever-loving s**t beat out of me...and I AM GLAD IT HAPPENED! It taught me respect for the rules. You break the rules...out comes the belt! And because of it, I turned out to be a productive, well-adjusted (or at least reasonably so) member of society. I don't cheat on my signficant other, I pay my taxes, I don't do drugs and I don't kill people. But because of society and law changes, beating your kid means it will be taken from you (which probably wouldn't be a bad thing) and you are labeled as a "bad parent". It is ridiculous and it is a game that I refuse to play.

kokholm

How can a man love a woman when he love 11 playes.
Forza Fc Copenhagen.

eelsource

I want to have children but sometimes I am afraid the responsibilities. Confused

sugarbox

I love you, Dad....

Thank you for making me know father's thought.

3shades

I think there is love in many ways, and that everyone experiences it differently as they grow older. It all starts with love for your parents, then first girlfriend, then siblings, then getting married, then children and finally grandchildren.

I'm just philosphising here as i'm only 15 but i'd imagine this is how it'd go for me.

btocakci

rewritestationery

I cannot say I have experienced real love before.. more so convenience through both situations!! I have had rocky relationships.. ive now got 2 beautiful children... and even left my husband for the man of my dreams.. he treats me like gold.. worships me, and our relationship is so relaxed.. he really is my best friend. Ppl who said that to me years ago.. i used to think was a load of rubbish.. what i thought they wanted to see and believe.. but it does happen.. and the funny thing is ive known him for 6 years. Guess you dont see a situation until you are out of it. There is someone for everyone.. xx Ive found my man.. xx hope you find yours. xx

earningonthenet

When each of my three children were born I fell in love all over again. It was great watching them grow...even the teenage years. Now that they have left the nest and I am alone I appreciate them all the more. Each has blossemed into a wonderful adult. Each is accomplishing in their own way. My son makes a lot of money and is a true gentelman. My first daughter is spontaneous and full of love. My second daughter is quiet and creative. I am filled to overflowing each day with their accomplishments. There is nothing they would not do for me or I for them... Yet, we ask nothing of each other than unqualified love. Life is great. Wink

kenansaracoglu

if i thought her more than me, this is real love.

un4saken

One must understand whether "what is love" can be a question which can be answered? Love cannot be a question. For, if it is a question then an answer should be there. If the answer is there, where is it? This question is ancient and an answer should have been found by now! If the answer has been found, the question would have disappeared.

But the question still remains, meaning the answer has not been found. If it has not been found as yet, then what is the certainty that it will be found? Maybe the mind can never find the answer! A single answer, which will please all minds, is not possible for each mind has its own ideas of love. Hence a universal answer is an illusion.

Individual answers are there for love and for this very reason there are arguments about love for each mind will contradict the answer of another mind. This contradiction is normal for each mind lives in a different point in time. Hence "what is love" is an illusionary question, which has no answer!

GamersforGod

i agree with FiZiX i have 2 kids and i know i love them but one can never truly know when someone loves us all we can do is have faith that they do which turns into a feeling that just tells you and you know that they love you. one great saying is this "What is the one thing you can not steal,buy because it has to be given?" the answer "Love"

Jimi_Hendrix

Hi frijeros, Love doen´t exist, it was created only for songs and films, remember that we are like animals Laughing

EnteresaN

I think love is
can give ur life for someone

ApolloKid

lol I'm in love right now Embarassed

and its like i cant think of anything i would not do for him, and its like..when i look at him i cant imagine anyone else in his place

iamshahz

haha // yes yes I agree with chemical ./..

he must mean its a chemistry.
but i will also say that its mathematics too

seekerseyes

Love, Love, where are You my Love?

There were times in my life, where Love was hidden in a eggshell of illusion. Now, breaking out of my home-made jail, i have to realize that Love is there, is everywhere. It is the jail of selfish thoughts that makes you think: Where is the Love?

meta

real love is having sex on your parents couch when they aint home

jerome_bxl

Hello,

Is there people loving belgium over there?

killerXqueen

osiashion

Come on guys.... even the song says that "love is all arround us" so, I supposse you only have to make an effort to find it. Anyway I must recognize that sometimes this task is really really hard Smile

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I hope you all make it ...

izcool

solstiz

I agree with baxcb020...
Love is more chemical and i would say it'as also a man's creation...
I mean it's like god, in some societies the word itself doesn't exist...

solstiz

I am quite negative as u should notice... Smile

Mrs_Robota

I have my own opinion about this
I believe only in friendship, this is the best way of love

Masochistic Tendencies

I'm a realist. I don't believe in love. Shocked

earningonthenet

People continue to speculate whether or not there is such a thing as love. That argument is OVER. The problem is that so many have never been taught to love. That's right. TAUGHT. We learn love from others...by being loved. It's sad but true that there are many, too many, who were never given the instruction as they grew. No, it does not have to be a parent. It could be a good friend, an aunt or uncle, grandmother... really anyone who has the capacity.

NOW FOR THE LOW LOW PRICE OF NOTHING I AM GOING TO HELP THE MASSES WHO STILL NEED INSTRUCTIONS ON HOW TO PROVE TO YOURSELF - ONCE AND FOR ALL - THAT LOVE IS NOT ONLY REAL BUT CONTINUES TO BE EASY TO OBTAIN. YES, EVEN AT YOUR AGE YOU CAN KNOW WHAT REAL, TRUE, EVERLASTING LOVE IS! PLEASE FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS AS LISTED:

1. Locate a hospice or Ronald McDonald house near you.
2. Volunteer for a minumum of two weeks to help the patients.
3. Volunteer for a minimum of two hours three days a week.
4. Get to know someone who has only days, weeks or months to live.
5. Make the above person smile each time you visit.
6. Give the above person a small gift that makes them happy.
7. Call them on the phone on the days you can't visit and just say hello.
8. At the end of your two weeks ask yourself if love is real.
9. Any questions? I bet you know the answer now.

You see, now you understand that LOVE is about giving... not getting.

I looked and looked...then I found...now I am FREE. I love my life!!! Come see why.
http://www.earningonthenet.com

summer-sensation

akari

killerXqueen

The angel’s eyes never left him
As he sat quietly alone
They only wavered, growing dim

To hide the love that shone

A vigilant light gradually appeared

When Devils came forward with smiles

To achieve what she long since feared

False promises offered in piles

Yet her eyes didn’t leave

As his gentleness hardened to scorn

Her heart didn’t try deceive

But yet, she refused to mourn

Her heartrending gaze shall always remain

As he went on his ignorant ways

Though she is bond by misery’s chains

Her silent love will never betray

dydx

As sweet as associating love with children is, I wouldn't advertise bearing offspring as a simple test for true love.

Besides, isn't there an online quiz for that?

vinx_18

Love is my happiness...without it I could not live....If I love...I love with all my heart, with all my soul...If it fails, I just open my heart again...Love is not just a feeling..its a need and its part of our creation...[/b]

jynet

^_^，make love ，Observes opposite party is not very is really crazy, can know.

I have attempted, is really effective.

Jelmer

well. check this:

The Love Calculator has been made by Matthijs Sypkens Smit and Thijs Kinkhorst.
About The Love Calculator | Love-Links

To find out what the chances for you and your dream partner are, just fill in both full names (both first and last name) in the two text boxes below, and press Calculate.

http://www.lovecalculator.com/

Razz

enjoy

Ihatebabysitting

You know, even though us kids may not show it, we really do appreciate you parents. Now that i've moved off to college, I am much closer to my parents then I was before I went. I call them at least once a day to get advice on how to find jobs, internships, or just to talk.

bgdates

They laughed at one I loved-
The triangular hill that hung
Under the Big Forth. They said
That I was bounded by the whitethorn hedges
Of the little farm and did not know the world.
But I knew that love's doorway to life
Is the same doorway everywhere.
Ashamed of what I loved
I flung her from me and called her a ditch
Although she was smiling at me with violets.

But now I am back in her briary arms
The dew of an Indian Summer lies
On bleached potato-stalks
What age am I?

I do not know what age I am,
I am no mortal age;
I know nothing of women,Nothing of cities,
I cannot dieUnless I walk outside these whitethorn hedges.

Delirium

I always was a very self-centered person until the day I became a mother. Love for my son made me realize I was capable of sharing and really caring for someone. I did not became an altruist I just discovered I had that possibility in me. Now I act only in that manner with my son and husband hahaha.

Yes, a single smile from my son melts my heart, you know love when no matter what that loved one do, it's great in your eyes. When you can find the best in them even when others see only the bad.

ThisOverload

keempe

Does real love exist??

nimbuscogitare

Real love is selfless. When you are willing to do for another not hopeing nor wanting reward. When you would give anything for that person, no matter how hard it is or long it takes. Love consumes you. It changes your soul, your senses, your mind, and your world. It makes you reborn. feb 15 2000- present, not one fight yet.

dysturbedstatic

i totally agree with k3ys, the day my daughter was born i was so scared to be a father, i thought i would break her she was so tiny. I would sit there and watch her as she tried to crawl and think how amazing it was that i helped make something that awesome. she would lay on my chest and sleep while i played xbox at 3 months old. Her first word was Dada, and she has always been a daddys girl. When she was 18 months, i went and got her little hand and name as a tattoo across my heart. The artist who did it, told me it wasnt the hardest, most detailed tattoo he has done, but it was the most sincere and original tattoo he has ever seen. he took a picture and hung her little hand up in his shop. she is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me so far, shes only 19 months, but she will always be that little girl sleeping on daddy, whos fraggin kids.

saneryin

I think it is rare true love in the world. Well, I believe it does exist but very hard to achieve.

The actor or actress stars in the movies are perfoming the best loving stories & drop us into tears. Yet in the realy life, they divorce or switch partners frequently.

Regarding those movie stars, almost everyone performed true love, but most of them are not my idol. For example: the guy "Jack" in 'Titanic' who has a movable love with 'Rose' yet in real life, I heard he is a kind of 'playboy'.

"Few 'idol' are worth a real idol", you will think when you grow up. Only young fans keep their eyes blind & chasing those stars. ---- That is also why young guys always say "you are old" to a person like me who do not like to chase idols.

abcxyz2

My love is real!
I love my Hong Kong!

DarthSilus

Here's what true love is:
when you value someone else's well-being and joy over your own.
That's why physical love is rarely true love, and why relationships that involve physical love often fail. It's not very selfless if you do it outside of their best interests, AND their desire.
This is also why intellectual relationships are foten full of love, they have logical reasons--thus its not passion, it's, once again, in their (and your) best interest.

pelletboy

I suppose Love is many things to many people.
Friendships, bonds with others sexual or not. The sight of mountains and blooming flowers. A puppy..... Family gatherings..... Realizing how you felt about a passing relative, the feeling you have towards someone of attraction, causing increased heart beat, sweatty palms...

Hmmmmmm I dunno......

hahame

my family,but who the most i love is my grandma,

rekishy1

that is so awesome

psadornas

The wave of relativistic theories of physical existence have found itself to the age-old debate on what is real.. what is truth?

I believe that the "realness" of love can be guaged by an individual's own standards. No can can judge a feeling for you because the experience can never be perfectly communicated to or read by another indivudual. Thus the judgement of another person is based on emotions and thoughts that are limited -- limited by the ability of an individual to communicate his/her abstraction of an experience. It's relative.

How about the standard? The standard change as an individual grows or more specifically, as he/she matures. Thus the test for real love varies not only between individuals, but also within individuals through time.

Just a thought. Smile

Spitfire

Im only in my early twenties so what do i know of love,
I know from workin in bars since i was old enough that,
people these days are a lot colder than before. People get married some with an agenda, or because they didnt stay with their partner long enough.
My dad died when i was two years old, and the bit that really hurts is that photos of him are identical to me, when i react sometimes it sends a shock through my mum. At 6 my step dad came along and he died when i was 15, now how this relates is because i could go to a big gathering and see that from opposite sides of a party there was that occasional look at each other a sort of 'hey you' with a smile. Some people these days are with someone for a couple of years, think 'oh yeah its about time i popped the question then settle down for two point four children and a dog. but are they in love? my mum after being married for a year and a bit then divorced had nointention of children. She met my father at a family gathering and within 2 weeks that was the man she wanted kids with. I wouldnt dare compare what she had to anyone else's but one thing i do know is that when i have children (touch wood) i will not miss a single second of their time. Wink

DarthSilus

Spitfire, your post seems to defeat that relavatism stuff. How can someone not be better--more fufilled--by raising the bar on love. And, if you can raise the bar, that implies that you cam measure it, and therefore there is a better version of love that can be classified. To say otherwise is to either A)be uttering an opinion, or B)using logic, which requires truth, and thus being hypocritical.
I stick with my earlier post about love. It needs to be mutual interest in the partner's interests over your own. I think, than, that you would want to give more than physical fun to your partner. Thus, you are quite right, Spitfire, love 'aint what it ustah be. Totally.

cheezay2000

I think real love is like...no matter what happens you still love this person. Everytime you wake up in the morning, that person is the first thing that comes to mind, and never leaves it. Someone you can't live without, and they can't live without you. They're also your best friend...you can tell them anything and everything and feel comfortable with their feedback, good or bad. hmm...

blueknot

Love in one word = priceless.

Who really know what love is ? can love be describe ?

no. it's only thru action.

anomuse · Last edited by anomuse on Mon Nov 28, 2005 9:47 pm; edited 1 time in total

I never really knew what love was till you got a great girlfriend, and a good job and you leave at 4 in the morning and get home at night and say "hey honey! I'm home!" or something similar. I also thought I could just say "I love you" to someone to make them happy or in a better mood, but it all changes when you really do LOVE someone and then say it like you mean it!

year12tcs

I believe love is summarised in a few simple steps...

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.

Follow those steps and you sure do have love...where did I get that from? From the one and only book that speaks about true love. Not lust or temprorary "like"...but love that said "Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends"...which book? The bible...(1 Corinthians 13:4- Cool

In order to know how to love, you ought to know what it means to be loved...truly. How do I know what it means to be loved? 2005 years ago, one man was being mocked, spat on and crucified because of my sins and yours...how did he reply? "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do?"

Jesus loves you so much, but He doesnt want you to stay lost in this world. Come to Him and accept Him as your Lord and saviour, and experience true love!

kumaresh

Real love is the love that does not have any expectations.

hangnhu

I'm surprise this topic is only 5 pages
if topic seem to key onto one type of love, fatherly, what happen to motherly love(considering half of the ppl here are girls rite?), family love (yes they can be a pain most of the time). I'm even more surprise that romance isn't a main issue too, unless of course everyone sees the world how i do, love dosen't exist anymore, people are put to the test differently now and love disovle too quickly to deepen

hangnhu

icedGEEK

TheNEC

Im kind of scared to have kids. What if one comes out gay, mentally challenged? I would still love it the same, but your child would have to put up with some mean stuff growing up. I mean, they cant help for the way they are. I just hate to see people stare, or mock. Its just plain immature.

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