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OnlyOneLife
Most recent update in indigo in the same post. Do not let this thread live, let it die (meaning stop posting).

Need Advice on a girl
I'm 16 Years old (in high school), I need help talking to this girl I really like, we both go to the media center during lunch (usually to do homework). I don't see anyway I can talk to her. She is younger than me and she is in none of my classes. I get kinda nervous when I get close to her. I also never been on a date before... and maybe I don't want to ask her out, maybe I just want to be friends with her...
What are some good tips to remember especially in my situation?
How can I talk to her?
How can I be less nervous when around her?
Any tips or advice or support would be nice.


Edit More info added:
I see her in some of my clubs, sometimes I see her in the morning with her friends (Which I dare not go near).
I will post updates/progress on the first post so you don't have to scroll down and find my posts or read other people's posts... I guess I'll Change or alternate some colors each time I update


Um she doesn't come to the media center anymore a, I guess, I can't really talk to her. But If I do, I'll tell you about it. But I thank you guys for your advice, tips, and support. I will use it in the future.
dan751
I'm a 16 year old guy myself. There was a girl in my school that I liked too. What I started off by doing was getting a hold of her MSN address, talked to her on there, (she knows one of my best buddies, that's how I got her address) then finally in a little while from talking to her on MSN, I boldly confronted her, it was kind of nice meeting her. But we're just friends, and we won't be going any farther, I changed my mind about her and she wasn't interested. You might be able to use that a bit. I don't know. But what I do know is, don't ever loose your cool. I was always nervious trying to talk to her too, but not anymore.
OnlyOneLife
Wow, I expected more people to reply to this thread. T.T Crying or Very sad
Thanks for sharing your experence, dan.
dan751
OnlyOneLife wrote:
Wow, I expected more people to reply to this thread. T.T Crying or Very sad

Having only me respond to your original post tells me 1 of 3 things: (1)Nobody has ever had a similar experience and can't help out. or (2)They have but was unsuccessful and are too embarresed to speak. (3)Other guys may simply not know how to get a girl, and they are therefore not speaking.
OnlyOneLife wrote:
Thanks for sharing your experence, dan.

Not a problem.Smile I hope it helped a bit in what you sould do.Smile
earthchild
not sure if you were really looking for advice from a girl - but I would say be yourself the guys girls always like in highschool are the ones who are comfortable being themselves (as in self-confidence without arrogance)
things girls appreciate:
-gentlemenliness
-caring attitude

as for not getting nervous, well I've never been in your shoes exactly but remembering to breathe (obvious but key) and not worry about the outcome usually helps me when I'm nervous.

what to say? hmm... going straight for the punch right at the beginning isn't usually a good strategy cuz she doesn't know who you are, what you are like, etc. since you guys don't have anything else in common yet, the only first line I can think of is to ask her about her homework. what class? is it hard stuff? tell her something about what you are doing? If you really don't want to ask her on a date you could just say well " I just wanted to meet you - but I don't want to keep you from your homework. Maybe I'll see you around sometime." just remember be yourself

then you'll have a reason to talk to her again next time you see her - and you can take it from there.

PS. if for some reason she is completely cold and unresponsive - well that kinda shows some stuck-up-ness. you want some one who can appreciate you anyway right?

I hope that helps.
frozenhead
Oh well.. Good for you dude! Wink

I'm not an expert of this one but there are few things I can share to you:

Quote:
How can I talk to her?

If you find a "good" chance to go near her, I mean if there's a reason to be near her.. (example: share a table with her if no one is around her).. Grab it! It's your chance.. Try to say a simple "HI + a question".. If she'll respond with a smile in her face, that's a good sign to start a converstation with her!

And remember,Just be yourself.It always works! believe me! Wink

Quote:
How can I be less nervous when around her?

That's normal dude! Just take a deep breath and always have confidence in yourself, I mean not too confident to throw her away. Just be nice to her and be "sweet". You know what I mean. You know, most of the girls like "A nice, sweet and gentleman type of guys.."

That's it! Keep us posted! Good Luck dude! You can do it!

BTW. I think, we should have more topics just like this one because I know a lot of guys that don't know how to get a date.. I'm I right? Idea
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venkateshwarans
At first I was actually surprised to see a post on a girl in frihost. Very Happy Very Happy Very Happy

I am 17years old. Just keep talking to your friends near you Smile Smile . Girls don't look much at silent guys. Keep talking and smiling with your friends . I am sure the girl would notice you. If you can't get to go near her, just smile at her whenever there is an eye contact. That kind of says a 'hi!' Cool Cool If you mess with this the mess may continue. Don't think too much abt her. That will make u nervous.

Keep talking, smiling with ur friends. Smile when "she is seeing you" - important. When she happens to come near you, say 'hi'. Smile well (don't blush - again important) and talk to her. Talk to her as though you are interested in talking to nice people and as though she is nice (that shld be true).

By the by, whenever you have a lunch don't talk only to her. Be casual in the start. Then slowly get serious. I am sure this will work.

ALL THE BEST - Wink Wink Wink
windval
Wink
NICE
jlbribeiro
you could invite her and lock her in your room... and you know what I mean...
Reyntjensw
you could go to her with your best friend and have a chat, or you could go to her and you could ask if the seat is taken?
and than try to chat with her, maybe help her with a prob if she has got one ( a school prob)

grtz
myrevolt
Eh? jlbribeiro, I don't think that is the kind of advice he is looking for Razz well you can try the friends approach, but if you get too friendly then you may find that if you ask her out, you'll loose your friendship, but hey friendship ain't that bad. you'll find a girl, ask your good friends (guys AND girls for advice) and heck rejection yeah it sucks, but its a cycle you'll fall for another. lastly if all else fails, see if you can get your friends to set up with someone, it doesn't really work that well, but at least you'll get some experience. good luck. Smile
DannyDean
Oh, sweet 16...
I remember me, @ the same situation.
I had a crush 1, 2, maybe 5 times.

Well, it turned up to be nothing, the girls were not of my interest, and that's the bad part.

So, if you really want to her friend, first, try to get to know her better.

Help her with homework & such. Ask her, when she'll have a test, if she need you to help her get ready, so you'll be able to teach, and know her better.

Tell me how things are going, and I will try to help you more.

P.S. - Don't forget: We fear only from the fear itself.
picsite
im in your position....i dont know why some guys can just be cool with talkin to girls like that....how i envy them
OnlyOneLife
PicSite, if you ever revisit this thread... I think guys that can talk cool with girls because they know them... I'm not afraid to talk to girls I already know or have no real interest in them.

Thanks for the help, advice, and support. I'm going to try to talk to her tomorrow. And I will post updates/progress on the first post so you don't have to scroll down and find my posts or read other people's posts...
qljune
Don't really need to be all prep up for a small talk.
What I would do is say something like you noticed that she is one of the regular faces in the media center... and go on to something general how you notice other people too... eg. that guy over there always comes in at abotu 2pm... etc. Then ends off by introducing yourself.
Honest and flattering comment...
Probably this will start the ball rolling and she will notice your presence. Starts off more opportunities for contact?
good luck!
AnGeLicK
OnlyOneLife wrote:
Need Advice on a girl
I'm 16 Years old (in high school), I need help talking to this girl I really like, we both go to the media center during lunch (usually to do homework). I don't see anyway I can talk to her. She is younger than me and she is in none of my classes. I get kinda nervous when I get close to her. I also never been on a date before... and maybe I don't want to ask her out, maybe I just want to be friends with her...
What are some good tips to remember especially in my situation?
How can I talk to her?
How can I be less nervous when around her?
Any tips or advice or support would be nice.


Edit More info added:
I see her in some of my clubs, sometimes I see her in the morning with her friends (Which I dare not go near).
I will post updates/progress on the first post so you don't have to scroll down and find my posts or read other people's posts... I guess I'll Change or alternate some colors each time I update


ok... what you need is a go between... you need someone that knows you and her and can probably introduce the two of you together... also if you are in the same clubs make sure to participate in the activities that she is also in, that way you two will have to interact
jarcelao
simple answer:

BE YOURSELF!

don't pretend nor do something you are not comfortable with. just express your true self then everything should go smoothly... Cool Very Happy
frozenhead
OnlyOneLife wrote:

Thanks for the help, advice, and support. I'm going to try to talk to her tomorrow. And I will post updates/progress on the first post so you don't have to scroll down and find my posts or read other people's posts...


Just keep us informed and we'll see what can we do.. Wink

N.B. I hope "girl members of frihost" can jump into this topic because they know best about the situation.. Idea
Bockman
earthchild wrote:
not sure if you were really looking for advice from a girl - but I would say be yourself the guys girls always like in highschool are the ones who are comfortable being themselves (as in self-confidence without arrogance)
things girls appreciate:
-gentlemenliness
-caring attitude


Quoted for truth. I would say earthchild's statement basically sums it up.
Just be yourself and you'll be OK. Of course, actually talking to her might help out Wink . No need to be embarassed, just talk to her and you'll find a subject to discuss. The rest comes naturally (if it doesn't, then maybe it's not supposed to).



dan751 wrote:
OnlyOneLife wrote:
Wow, I expected more people to reply to this thread. T.T Crying or Very sad

Having only me respond to your original post tells me 1 of 3 things: (1)Nobody has ever had a similar experience and can't help out. or (2)They have but was unsuccessful and are too embarresed to speak. (3)Other guys may simply not know how to get a girl, and they are therefore not speaking.


dan, seeing as some of us are a tad older and some are already married, i'd say those were some unfortunate coments. none of the 3 apply reallly, but if that's the way you think about it...

Be Well Cool
LuiS_J
Well i think you should go out and ask a P.I.M.P .. he'll answer all of your question.. Very Happy Very Happy Very Happy
HunnyBaby
Ight well i just scrolled past everybodys **** cause i have a lil bit of time on my hands but... it might have been answereed..
but the biggest thing is confidence bro!!!!! be confident even if ur arent... even if you're about to **** yourself... I know some girls who might like that it flatters them i know that much but if ur not confident make it clear say something like... "im not really used to this kinda thing so work with me" and lol you all might thinkin im joking but it really has worked trust me i did it... even though i was confident... so its all in the confidence... and dont say ANYTHING negative at first lol joke and play but dont say anything negative until u get to know what sets them off and what they dont care about... like if shes fat and its a problem with her dont ur fat... but if shes not fat and knows shes not fat u can say "haha ur fat"
and this is all on what kind of girl she is but flirt with her somehow... make it clear that u like her....
Now another thing which uve gotta learn is to... learn how to read girls... to some it comes natural... read them and be able to tell when they are upset when they are mad... when they are happy... when they are hyper... when its that time of the month... etc
lol hope i was to some help
planet
*geezer smiles fondly*,,,,, "ahh yes those were the days" (before prostate irritation and the scars of life on the soul).

Many good comments here few to add.

Don't let yourself down (by trying to change too much, a little is almost inevitable).

Do give her a chance to get to know you (inkling closer to her in daily life, sloowly does it, as you are shy).

As you get physically closer, let her see you (a little smile, a fond look, and understanding look or a pertinent comment, in short make connection).

Then see if you can join her conversation with personal comments which show interest in her and her situation, always showing respect and interest.

When connection is established LISTEN to her, ask about interests, find connecting points. Don't ever diss others (male or female).

Show her your interest in HER!

Good luck =)) (how I'd love to be a fly on the wall)
OnlyOneLife
Don't read this post.
Hey I just need a post to put it at the top of the General Chat thread or how else are you going to see it or know if there is an update.
ricardobeat
One day you'll realize how simple girls are. It's all about knowledge, experience and technique Very Happy
fizzyboy88
Hey man,
Im a 16 yrs old guy too and I can relate to what youre saying b/c it has happened to me and happened to all guys (unless they are attracted to the other sex). I do blush and my breath does stop when I'm about to say something to an attractive girl, but the truth is the outcome never is as bad as your brain may calculate. If you got something to say, just say it and your breath will come back and you will feel relieved. You'll know by the way the girl responds if she's the kind of person you'd wanna be friends with. HEHE THATS ALL FOLKS!!
saiyeek
What the hell you think. You like a girl and don't know how to approach. Then its easy go tight up to her and express it, your feelings for her and if she feels the same way, thank god, if she thinks negatively let go of her. So easy, isn't it?
amusedtoe
Well the answer is rather obvious and fool proof. Just walk up to her one day, very casual and aloof, then start talking to her. Then when you've lulled her into a sense of security set her on fire. It's a well known fact that all female types love to be set on fire.

Should that not work for a few hundreds dollars I can instruct you on how to become a first class stalker. The only thing a woman will love more then being set ablaze by a relative stranger is a man that stalks her relentlessly. You've got to be commited to this course of action hardcore though. Several times a day you have to slowly drive by her house, sometimes stopping and sitting there for hours, and call her 50+ times a day breathing heavily into the phone and hanging up when she says something. To really show her you're deranged and that you care dig up her lawn and build a 40 foot sculpture of her out of sod. Should that fail break into her house, destroy all her furniture and relieve yourself in her closet like a certain Packers running back did.

Follow these steps and I gurauntee you'll find a long term, hot and heavy relationship. Just ask Bruno here, I would have never met him had I not been incarcerated for life after that chick called the police. Wink Laughing
BowDownToAna
lol. girls think its cute when a boy is nervous around them.
its really ok if you dont have any classes with her. dont wear the baggy pants, it looks SOOOOOO stupid!

make sure you smell nice if you want to talk to her. if you're not confident, just act like you are, its a lot less painful then you think.

smile at her a lot, but dont smile everytime. it freaks us out

-advice from a girl
rsmods
I dont know much about girls...but i have the best gf in the world so i dont need 2 worry lol
rheanna
My advice is worry about more on school at the moment then trying to get a girl. You find a girl after you get your education, a bank account, and a dm good job. That's what girls are more impressed with. That girl is a dime a dozen and you'll find another one. Worry about yourself first.
raine dragon
Try just going up to her and saying hello.. Stop thinking about her 'girl you are attracted to' and try to see her as 'friend you have not yet met'. It's hard at first, but it gets easier over time. Even something as simple, as "hey, I'm _____, how are you?" is a start. Smile
johanfh
Nice to see a topic about a sixteen-year old boy being revived after two years. I'm curious if he ever spoke to the girl he mentioned and what became of them.
And Rheana: your comment was a wise one, but I was surprised to read
Quote:
That girl is a dime a dozen
written by a girl Wink What about romance? Once upon a time when I was sixteen myself Laughing going to school sometimes was just all about dreaming about that gorgeous girl you met, which you never dared to speak to... (and yas, maybe the girl wasn't that gorgeous at all, but hey: dreams are everything when you're 16 and obliged to go to school)

JohanFH
ateawonton
make sure to be nice to her, never make her wait, and whenever you get a chance, make 'it' bigger
Pande
Epic necromancy ateawonton. OP is now 21 and probably a pornstar.
loveandormoney
OnlyOneLife wrote:
Most recent update in indigo in the same post. Do not let this thread live, let it die (meaning stop posting).

Need Advice on a girl
I'm 16 Years old (in high school), I need help talking to this girl I really like, we both go to the media center during lunch (usually to do homework). I don't see anyway I can talk to her. She is younger than me and she is in none of my classes. I get kinda nervous when I get close to her. I also never been on a date before... and maybe I don't want to ask her out, maybe I just want to be friends with her...
What are some good tips to remember especially in my situation?
How can I talk to her?
How can I be less nervous when around her?
Any tips or advice or support would be nice.


Edit More info added:
I see her in some of my clubs, sometimes I see her in the morning with her friends (Which I dare not go near).
I will post updates/progress on the first post so you don't have to scroll down and find my posts or read other people's posts... I guess I'll Change or alternate some colors each time I update


Um she doesn't come to the media center anymore a, I guess, I can't really talk to her. But If I do, I'll tell you about it. But I thank you guys for your advice, tips, and support. I will use it in the future.



The owner auf the thread is now 24 years old.

But we cant talk about this in "general" way.


Make her laugh.

This is the most easy way to approach a woman
same way to approch a man.
shashwatblack
if you notice her so much, i'm sure she notices you too.. could be in a bad way though.. Very Happy
don't worry.. just keep it cool.. just tell her 'hi' when you pass by, a 'hey there' is sufficient.. just a couple of days though, or it'll get irritating.. then talk to her.. don't get nervous.. don't overthink, keep your cool, and talk about regular stuffs, weather, classes, oh i hate this subject, that kind of stuffs.. keep it really short.. get her facebook, talk some more.. a few days and you'll get comfortable talking to her.. later if you're still interested make some arrangements to sit with her during lunch, or other times.. the more time you spend the more comfortable you'll get.. ask her out in a casual way as a friend, like 'let's go try that place someday'. don't overdo it here.. just make her a good friend. other stuffs will come along..
good luck..
TheLimey
rheanna is right here. Focus on what is important. Rush it and you end up with someone you will end up hating. You then will regret everything you missed.
loveandormoney
Quote:
. just keep it cool.


This is a good advice.
johannespilz
dont wanna be rude. but its simple (without having read all of the other replys)

go there and talk to her. tell her you like her. the feeling that holds u back is nonsens. what is this feeling, realy? why wouldnt it be ok to go up to a girl? are u afraid of being rejected? so what, u dont have her now, and in this case you wouldnt have her in the future. u cant loose. and if u get rejected u are still the same person. u are not worth less because of it. and believe me, there are other girls around, on every corner.

without trying you lost already. no risk no fun, or whatever quote suits here.

good luck!
loveandormoney
Make her laugh.
The second reason is: You also will have a lot of fun during dating her.
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