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Flakky
Does anyone know any good dating sites (for Dutch people to be specific).
I want to register myself to one but I often click on ads for dating and I end up paying or not being able to register. I would like a free dating site. Anyone can help me with that?
loyal
There are alot of dating websites that are interested more in making money than in helping you find a partner. For example, they include fake profiles to make them seem popular. Although I don't think there's a problem with the concept of finding a partner online, there are far less genuine websites out there, that also work, than you think. So my point is, be cautious.

You could try to find a partner in real life by doing activities and then meeting people who also do these activities. E.g. you have an interest in chess or self-defence, and you sign up to classes/a club, and you meet a potential partner there.

Peace.
watersoul
Don't use it myself, but many female friends I know use this:

http://www.plentyoffish.com

Completely free and seems to be a genuine non profit kind of dating site. One friend recently became engaged to someone after meeting them on it.
Not my cup of tea personally because I prefer the first glance, scent, face to face thing, but many people I know have recommended this site. Good luck Smile
Flakky
Thank you both. I will try out the site.

It's true. I prefer real life contact as well. It's much easier. I haven't got a lot of time recently and I thought that starting a relationship using the internet would be easier and less demanding. I am going through a rough patch in my life so to go 'hunting', join clubs would demand too much.

I hope this works Smile

EDIT: Sadly the website does not want registrations from my country Sad
watersoul
Dude, if all you get is just a bit of a confidence boost in a "safe" digital environment, then it will have worked.
Enjoy a bit of online flirting and chat without the expense of paying for a meal or whatever, getting to know someone a bit before you meet up, if you do.
I completely wish you the best of luck...let us know how you get on with your "fishing" Smile

*edit*
Just seen your edit, the link I shared above was to a Netherlands search and there are plenty of fit Dutch women in the results. Maybe they lied on the sign-up, just put UK as your country, or use a proxy maybe if they control it by the IP address?
zbale
I haven't tried dating websites with the specific profile you're interested in but my experience is that free dating websites are not always functional or interesting.

As far as choosing one, I believe most dating websites let you at least see who's out there on their platform, so that before you start paying you can have a reasonable idea whether it's the kind of people you're looking to meet. I think Wikipedia lists such websites, and if you Google something like "dating websites Dutch" you may find something.

You can also register on a global dating website and in the search preferences make sure you filter for "Holland" as a location, or for people speaking Dutch, etc. Just make sure the website is doing big in the area where you live.

Good luck, and keep us posted, others might benefit from your experience!
Flakky
watersoul wrote:
*edit*
Just seen your edit, the link I shared above was to a Netherlands search and there are plenty of fit Dutch women in the results. Maybe they lied on the sign-up, just put UK as your country, or use a proxy maybe if they control it by the IP address?

Tried it. It didn't let me fill in a year of birth when picking an other country and it gave me a "You are using things like > or ' etc that are not allowed. Stick to using numbers and letters for a username." error whilst using 2 proxies. I don't think the site likes me very much :/
daredninja
Have any of you had any luck with dating websites?

I always feel like it happens to a friend of friend but have never spoken to anyone who benefited directly from this.

I'm always very skeptical of these websites as they obviously want you to be on there as long as possible so that you can spend as much money on your membership as possible.

Or is there something I am missing?
Flakky
daredninja wrote:
Have any of you had any luck with dating websites?

I always feel like it happens to a friend of friend but have never spoken to anyone who benefited directly from this.

I'm always very skeptical of these websites as they obviously want you to be on there as long as possible so that you can spend as much money on your membership as possible.

Or is there something I am missing?
I haven't gotten any luck yet. I'm going to shave tomorrow and make a profile picture. Hopefully that would attract some attention Smile
watersoul
Flakky wrote:
I haven't gotten any luck yet. I'm going to shave tomorrow and make a profile picture. Hopefully that would attract some attention Smile


That made me laugh a little because I do it myself...when I'm ever feeling all "hairy" or whatever, I get the electric clippers out at "grade 0" plus a razor for the face, then 30 minutes later I feel handsome again and ready to take the world on! Lol Laughing
Flakky
watersoul wrote:
Flakky wrote:
I haven't gotten any luck yet. I'm going to shave tomorrow and make a profile picture. Hopefully that would attract some attention Smile


That made me laugh a little because I do it myself...when I'm ever feeling all "hairy" or whatever, I get the electric clippers out at "grade 0" plus a razor for the face, then 30 minutes later I feel handsome again and ready to take the world on! Lol Laughing

Yeah! Exactly! I haven't really felt sexy in a long time.
Mostly I go all-in and also clip my toenails! Wink
watersoul
Flakky wrote:
watersoul wrote:
Flakky wrote:
I haven't gotten any luck yet. I'm going to shave tomorrow and make a profile picture. Hopefully that would attract some attention Smile


That made me laugh a little because I do it myself...when I'm ever feeling all "hairy" or whatever, I get the electric clippers out at "grade 0" plus a razor for the face, then 30 minutes later I feel handsome again and ready to take the world on! Lol Laughing

Yeah! Exactly! I haven't really felt sexy in a long time.
Mostly I go all-in and also clip my toenails! Wink


Haha! Do it Flakky, get out there and get the girl thats waiting for you, just get her with your skin smooth, hair clipped, and short toenails that wont scratch her!! Smile
nigam
why would you need online dating while you can asked your friends who has friends in which you haven't met them. in that way, you will know her and start going out with her.....
jmlworld
All the online dating sites I went through were for money making purposes and such scheme. But, hey, you can use the normal social networking sites such as Facebook.

Wishing you a good luck, bro.

nigam wrote:
why would you need online dating while you can asked your friends who has friends in which you haven't met them. in that way, you will know her and start going out with her.....


He said that he's through a difficult patch and he wants to get away from the demands of real life dating.
BigGeek
Good luck with dating sites, they are as bad as trying to go to a bar and meet women. Have you ever been to a bar, and see someone that you are attracted to, and you make eyes with her, and move in to strike up a conversation and find that other than eye contact and a hello and introducing yourself, you can barely have any sort of a conversation with them, because they are attractive, and EVERY GUY in the place is doing what you are doing. Every guy in the place is after the hot looking women, so attempting to meet one, not only engenders confidence and courage to push past the competition and get noticed by her. It also takes persistence. Thing is if you don't drink, and the bars you go to don't have a cover charge, it is relatively cheap to go out and try and meet women.

Dating sites are no different. All the hot looking women and bombarded by messages and requests for dates, they get so many messages they can't possibly read them all let alone look at all the men, and respond to all of them with a yes or a no. So even if you are a good looking, well built, wealthy guy (not that I'm any of those things...LOL) your chances of getting noticed or responded to are little to none. And the down side is you are paying a monthly fee to be on the site, and be ignored by all the overwhelmed females on the site.

Just my 2 cents on the subject!!
Flakky
Thanks all for the replies.
I actually would like to leave this place, live somewhere else and close all connections. Bit hard as I still got school. I want to get out and I probably could get out in 2 years when all goes well.

I do have some good habits right now. Also going to the gym.

I had a good dating site but I stopped due to me being sick, and I can't submit a picture whilst being sick. I need some spare time to set things up, probably next holiday I will Smile
macky
i have try some i guess it is date in asia but i never try to see some feedback
Flakky
macky wrote:
i have try some i guess it is date in asia but i never try to see some feedback

I am not really sure what you are talking about. :/
macky
well unfortunately i don't know lot of dating sites i recommend you specially to those dutch people.

all i know is for an asian one. i recommend you go to dateinasia.com site... Smile
a1webshopping
POF is a cesspool now unfortunately.
zbale
daredninja wrote:
Have any of you had any luck with dating websites?

I always feel like it happens to a friend of friend but have never spoken to anyone who benefited directly from this.

I'm always very skeptical of these websites as they obviously want you to be on there as long as possible so that you can spend as much money on your membership as possible.

Or is there something I am missing?


I never had any luck with dating websites (it was a big waste of time for me) but one of my cousins met her husband that way, so I can't say it doesn't work.

I guess it's mostly a way to connect with people. Then, as usual, you see what you share with the person sitting in front of you (if you ever get to that; I used dating websites for about 6 months and was in touch with a few girls that way, in fact spoke on the phone with several, but never actually got to meet one for real Smile)

It's true that when friends introduce you to their friends the chance that you are going to have things in common is higher (especially when you see that what dating websites focus on are things of little relevance such as the kind of food you both like, etc.), but in some cases, your friends just don't think about it, or don't know anybody, or you just live in a community that's too small. There's really nothing wrong with using a dating website, as long as you take precautions not to fall into possible scams or traps (there are some creepos on those websites I am sure).

I guess it matters to know what dating websites are relevant (in terms of number of users and in terms of reliability) in your area.

Good luck!
loyal
I guess having read a few posts here, one of the main advantages of online dating sites over real life is that online gives you a greater reach, and over a greater demographic. Whereas, it's harder to meet people in real life. Especially if you don't have common activities, such as education.

Peace.
zbale
loyal wrote:
I guess having read a few posts here, one of the main advantages of online dating sites over real life is that online gives you a greater reach, and over a greater demographic. Whereas, it's harder to meet people in real life. Especially if you don't have common activities, such as education.

Peace.


Very true, and actually, I've read a survey pointing out to the fact that people tended to stay together when they had been introduced by mutual friends: perhaps the friends' smart filtering ensures people really have things in common.

Of course, dating websites try to do the same with algorithms to pair off people with similar interests. However, it doesn't seem to always work: my "best match" on one website was a girl living 10,000 km away Smile I think it's because we both liked music Laughing

Some websites give too much importance to things I believe to be less significant (like what kind of food one likes), and not enough importance to the qualities of each person as they can be revealed in a free text about themselves.
D'Artagnan
okcupid seems to be the only really honest dating site out there
zbale
Actually I'm thinking a question we could ask around is:

"What in your opinion would make a great dating website?"
iyepes
I used to had profiles in some dating sites. I have to say, I got a couple of good friends and lots of freaking people, so I ended up dating none I met there.

I think thematic dating sites are better, since you find people who already have common interests with you.
missdixy
D'Artagnan wrote:
okcupid seems to be the only really honest dating site out there


yes. it's a great way of meeting people, and it's all about the math! you can always trust math Laughing hehe

but really, OkCupid is where I met my current bf, and we've been dating for 3 years now. I think if you answer a lot of questions (and honestly) it's a good way of finding compatible people.
BigGeek
OK here is my latest experience with dating sites. Friend of mine asks me to join a dating site be naughty .com, she swears to me that the site is different and that she has been meeting people and making friends. So I join, from her email link. Of course the site is free for women, and she emailed me her affiliate link. Costs me 30 dollars for three months. Other than her, and her friend, I have not met any women.

On top of that the site seems to be a front for the companies other porn sites with cam girls. When I log on as a guy, I am bombarded by requests from young women asking me to go to another site and pay more money to join and watch them on their strip cam. Uh not exactly what I was looking for Shocked

On top of that sending emails and ice breakers to profiles that appear to be real women looking to meet people, I am dumbfounded that the standard response is to email them off the site, and when I do, I get a request to join another one of the companies other dating sites to hook up with them.

There are so many fake profiles like this that it is impossible to actually search on real people and find them. The two female friends of mine tell me that they are flooded with emails and can meet anyone any time they want they have the pick of the guys on site.

I told them both that I can't believe I let them talk me into doing this thing again. Evil or Very Mad
LittleBlackKitten
If you have to go ONLINE to find someone to date you, there is something SERIOUSLY wrong with you. I'm not just including the OP on this, I'm including anyone who has been in that trapped, lonely, psychologically sick state of mind that requires one to go online to find a real, flesh and blood human being to date you.

If you're having trouble in the real world, there are only a few reasons why.

1) You're trying too hard. Love and dating tends to come from those who are relaxed, and don't care either way, and are just out for having fun.

2) You're not trying hard ENOUGH. If you're sitting at home all the time, or working a lot, and never have time for friends or bars or gathering with people, you aren't going to meet anyone new. Get out there and talk to people!

3) You're trying just fine, but you're scaring people off. This can happen over silly things like how you dress, how you look, or how you're acting. Ever wonder why the nerd you know can get a girl while the cute boy can't? They're scaring people off. Consider asking a close friend or family member to honestly tell you what's scaring people away.

4) You are psychologically repulsing people. Some people think they want dating or a relationship, but they're psychologically repulsing potential candidates. Sometimes it's a worthiness struggle, and others, you end up pushing people away for other reasons that even you yourself may not be aware of.

5) You are in a situation where either your friends, family, or city is too small a group to benefit the "friend of a friend" dating scenario (which is how most people get into relationships). If all your friends/family are married, don't know anyone single and looking, or your city is just too small, you need to either outsource your efforts into nearby cities, or move.

6) You aren't meant to be in a relationship right now. Whatever force you believe in, and fate if you do not have a deity, are not wanting you to be IN a relationship or date right now in your life. If this feels like the case, don't frustrate yourself into anger and depression trying to find someone.

7) You're fighting against a reputation that precedes you. You've made a mistake with an ex before, and now -everyone- knows it, even if you never did anything wrong. Women always warn other women about the men they think are "dangerous" or whom will hurt other women, usually from hearing something from another women and passing it on. Men do this about women too, just in their men ways. If this is the case, try and resolve the rumors by explaining it head on to someone, or just give up and move.

8 ) You're too attractive. Potential mates who see you as outstandingly attractive generally decide in their minds that you're either already dedicated to someone, or are "out of their league". In this case, being outspoken about your availability is important.

9) You're unattractive. This is sometimes the case, especially if you are overweight, or are not groomed/dressed properly for your appearance, shape, and figure. Everyone has the potential of being pretty; unfortunately, that takes money, and in the case of birth defects or disfiguring accidents, that takes a LOT of money. But, if you can afford to get a new wardrobe and hair style, go and talk to a fashion consultant. You'd be surprised to learn what you're doing wrong for your figure. Ignore popular "trends", and really dress for YOU.


Mostly, all these things can be boiled down to my original statement; there's something wrong with you.
zbale
BigGeek wrote:
OK here is my latest experience with dating sites. Friend of mine asks me to join a dating site be naughty .com, she swears to me that the site is different and that she has been meeting people and making friends. So I join, from her email link. Of course the site is free for women, and she emailed me her affiliate link. Costs me 30 dollars for three months. Other than her, and her friend, I have not met any women.

On top of that the site seems to be a front for the companies other porn sites with cam girls. When I log on as a guy, I am bombarded by requests from young women asking me to go to another site and pay more money to join and watch them on their strip cam. Uh not exactly what I was looking for Shocked

On top of that sending emails and ice breakers to profiles that appear to be real women looking to meet people, I am dumbfounded that the standard response is to email them off the site, and when I do, I get a request to join another one of the companies other dating sites to hook up with them.

There are so many fake profiles like this that it is impossible to actually search on real people and find them. The two female friends of mine tell me that they are flooded with emails and can meet anyone any time they want they have the pick of the guys on site.

I told them both that I can't believe I let them talk me into doing this thing again. Evil or Very Mad


I can feel for you man Smile Though I have to say the name of the website might have tipped me off...

There may be some kind of imbalance, like you're describing: men might tend to be real men (which is ok for girls) but a lot of girls' profiles are probably fake accounts (mind you, on non "naughty" websites it's the case as well).

So what was your next step after this website?
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