What do I do? I Like/Love her but she doesnt feel the same.

cr3ativ3

K.. where do I start.

This girl I am talking about... I first notice her like 3 years ago... the summer 3 years back.. that would have been... 2007 summer. I noticed this girl she was cute, we both went to the public swimming pool, I didnt really know who she was I never talked to her. I wasnt really attracted to her.

The next summer I didnt really go to the pool, however the summer after that I did, quite a bit and I think I started to like this girl... Not overly but a fair bit, when the end of the summer came (we went to different schools)... I gave her my #, I told her to call me if she ever wanted to meet up somewhere go play Tennis or hangout that kinda stuff. She never called, but I thought about her off and on throughout the school year... Around the beginning of the year after winter (2009), I started a server administration project and I named it after her, she has a lovely name and it worked perfect... So when I work on this Open-Source project the thought of her is always in the back of my mind.

Anyways this past summer, I went to hte pool and so did she, alot of us kids at the pool felt alot like family... So I asked to see who wanted to go up to the Canada Day fireworks with me... and well a couple people did so Her this one guy and my nephew, and I went up to the fireworks that night... and on our way back she gave me her MSN so I added her on msn (perhaps this was a mistake)... I added her and during the duration of july we got to know each other (I think she liked me, for a week or two)... Anyways for the past month she has been really distant with me she doesnt talk to me about her life and her friends anymore like she used too... I dont know I think she is kinda annoyed by my presence...

The thing is she means so much to me and when I see her status updates that are clearly about other guys I just cringe... and I cant stop thinking about her... Like its interferring with work, and stuff... So I dont know what to do, i've tried ignoring or atleast not talking to her for a couple days but htat back fires in my face.

I dont know what I am suppose to do, when I ask her if she wants to hang out of invite her to do anything she always shoots me down. I wanted to explain how I felt about her in person to her but she wouldnt even give me that chance, so I sent her a long-winded email explaining everything and why I worry about her and stuff... And she gave me a response and tried to blame other people, and now I really dont know like my better judgement is telling me to let her go she's not worth my time ... but my heart wont let me.

Please help! Its driving me nuts!

atul2242

wow.... take it easy....
it takes two to love
a single person can only get infatuated
take your time and remain friends if u think thats possible.

apple

yeah you need to calm down. take a breath and relax.

I know how it feels to see someone and fall for them and hope that they feel the same way. truth is sometimes (a lot of times) they don't. cause she gave you her msn contact does not mean that she wants to date you. maybe she thought that you seemed fun and wanted to just hang out.

How old are you? Yes it does make a diff. Have you had a serious girlfriend before? What is it about this girl that you like exactly?

Asap170

I got the just about the same problem, but yea I am open for opinions too! Good Luck man.

apple

how's it going?

hangnhu

what do you mean she blames other people? surely if she is interested, then she could blame others for not spending time with you. I think you're infatuated because she is not interested.
I think the best solution is to look for other girls you find attractive and compare them to her.
do you know everything about this girl or well at least know her well? your contact with her hasn't been very direct, company by the swimming is something, but I wouldn't count the msn communication much.

it because you can't seem to let things goes, so you think you love her. but if you do love her, you would be able to let her go. it human nature to want things we don't have.
find something else to direct your heart to.

Chinmoy

i would seriously suggest you move on because when you will finally do that, you might regret all the time you wasted thinking all this.

PartyPros

This is a very tricky situation, and can go however far you want it to. From experience, I have found that there are only a couple of options you can go with.

1. You can manipulate who you are as a person (not recommended) in hopes that she will learn to feel for you the same as you feel for her. More than likely this won't work, and will upset friends and family members more than anything.

2. You can either forget about her and move on, or attempt to share a great friendship, which may eventually lead to something else. Girls that are your friends generally get very jealous when you show an interest in another woman.. so give it a shot.

Hope it all works out great!

imera

It's better if you just try to get over her, you might like her a lot but I don't think it's love. You seem to be young so there will be many people that comes and goes, but it's no point in staying at the same corner when there is something better out there. She probably doesn't want to be with you, that is the reality, but try not to feel to bad about it. I have liked many boys that didn't feel the same way for me, of course it is just heartbreaking and horrible when you are young but when you do grow older and realize what your life is about and what you really want then it doesn't mater if others doesn't like you the same way. I still have sort of feelings for my ex boyfriends, but I know I would never want to get back with them, once it's over I choose to go forwards, not cry and hope they will take me back. And trust me, once you decide to go forwards it seem like they want to be with you, which is horrible because then you have to say no but it's for the best. Think about you, it's your life and only you can control it, if she is not the one then focus about you and you'll find someone else that likes you

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