Whats the point of love
90% of relationships end up in tragedy, thats pretty slim odds for people who are thinking of getting into a relationship. in can just ruin life
i know of two people that have lost the loves of there life to other people. couple months later they couldnt stand the pain of which had happend from there relationships and deaths were a result
So work hard and try and live without love unless your sure they are the one
is what i think
Because we strive for the 10%. Sonny, true love is the greatest thing in the world-except for a nice MLT - mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich, where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe. :Smacks Lips:
We have to try because a 90% chance of failing means a 10% chance of winning. And if you don't try a relationship you'll be 100% unhappy.
I didn't really read all the threads...but ... I am married...over 5 years now and I do love my husband more than anything (hence my nickname). Just recently I think we had the biggest crises we have ever had. But compared to other couples it was probably pretty small...it only lasted a few weeks and was resolved...or so I think...altough in relationshipd nothing is ever resolved since people change all the time.
I think what happened is that for the first time in his life, my husband found a job he actually likes, challenges him and feels people appreciate it. So, he has been working really hard and somehow growing away from me, a little bit, because there were things going on in his mind about changing what we had planned for the future...but we talked...and talked...and cried (I cried mostly) and somehow we found a resolution...he told me how he feels and what he needs and I told him the same way...and we both understand that we can't have everything we want...we have to make sacrifices to keep this relatioship going..but we both want this relationship to keep going so we will compromise.
I think that is the key...compromise...the rewards are definitely worth it.
Heck I use to strive for the 10% until this one girl doesn't like me and I got said... and that now I am like screw it... I o keep my eyes open though!
You are a person who doesn't want to try. You want them to find you. You are sad, you have given up and you're lost. Not everybody thinks like you, I still have hope to find true love maybe you should too.
When I was a teen I was with this guy and he was my world, I loved him more than words could express. We'd do everything together and were inseparable. Then suddenly he was no longer in my life and it really hurt me. For the 10 years that followed I to thought that love did not make sense and was a moronic concept. Until 5 years ago when I met my fiancee.
I was not looking or even hoping for love or even a relationship of any sort. He just happened to be the perfect man for me and we fit together like pieces of a puzzle.
1528tom, cause one relationship or even a string of them did not work out, does not mean that 'love' is a bad idea. it only means that they were not the right ones for you. People tend to focus on emotion rather than compatibility. make sure your focus is on the right thing and the concept of 'love' will make better sense to you.
OK here's my take!
Love is different than a relationship. We equate love to another person and a relationship with that person, but that is only one form of love, right, for example: Do you love your Dog, or Cat, or Pet? Do you love your home? A certain spot for camping, or hiking? I could go on but you get the point.
Granted these are not the same as love between two people, which is a more attached love than the ones I mention above, but there in lies the problem. You see love is just love, you meet people all the time that you love, but you do not feel the attachment to them, the desire to be with them, you just like/love them, wish the best for them, enjoy their company so on and so forth....right?
But when you meet someone that you are really passionate about, really attached to, want to be with and make love with, this brings up a whole range of emotions that are not love, it brings up protectiveness, possesiveness, domination, obsession, and a whole list of words, and when one person gets to overwhelemed with these feeling of deep love, and fear of loosing that love, it leads to problems. Those problems stem from the deep feelings of hurt and heart break that come from being rejected by a person that you feel those deep feelings for.
Different people react differently, some go crazy, and resort to abuse and intimidation to attempt to keep the one they love from leaving and breaking their heart, and that usually leads to disaster, and all sorts of heneous behavior.
Other people feel so unloved and so heart broken that they hurt themselves, with drugs alcohol or other negative behaviors trying to drown the feelings of worthlessness and pain that go along with a broken heart.
But I have to tell you, no matter what your philosphy about being whole, loving yourself, persuing love, and why we do it, the idea of the perfect love, and all else.......the greatest love in the world you will ever find is foregiveness, and letting go.
It is better to have loved fully and passionately and lost it, then to never have loved at all, and the step past the loss and rejection and heart break is to foregive, to forgive yourslef for the stupid things you did that alienated the one you loved, and for the rejection from that love, and by forgiving them and letting them go, and truely LEARNING to love them no matter where they are, or who they are with, you will find the greatest love your heart has ever known....and I can tell you from expereince, that no broken heart will be healed until you learn how to love like that.
There are times that I think people need to have their hearts broken, in order to learn this lesson!
What I find and analyze that everybody create their own definition of LOVE. The main reason behind it that everybody wants love on their own terms & conditions.
