Hi, I'm new here, but I've got this 'discovery' that's eating me up inside. I just got out of a marriage of 10 yrs. My ex left me for another guy, who happens to be her father's age. Turns out she's a victim of incest, by her father. Now, six months later, I met a woman who is 33, like me. She also just got out of a marriage of ten years. She left her husband. He ended up not wanting to have kids, despite her desire to...
So, I've known her since March. I have huge morals relative to what most people I've met considering sex. I've only had two partners before. Both were long-term, as in 3+ yrs and the ex-wife. So I have custody as well, of a five year old little boy. (If I bounce around, sorry! Hard to be concise.)
Anyway, I just found out that my new woman, who seems perfect, was having an online affair with a guy during the last few months of her marriage. She was doing webcam shows, sexual and explicit..clearly. The other guy was in another country. Given my divorce, I found that 'a bit disturbing' to say the least. . .
Then I discover that after her divorce, which was last October, she had been on Sexsearch and Adult Friend Finder..and who knows what else. She had screwed at least 15 people. Married guys, horny guys, etc. She also had menage a trois with her female best friend and that friend's live-in boyfriend. The did the lesbian type menage, along with both having intercourse etc with the male. One of her many AFF guy f-buddies was a bisexual male.
She says (after I found all this proof in her recklessly left paper trail on the computer desk) that she stopped screwing guys just 2 days before meeting me and my son.
My problem is I'd never have met her had I known. ALL those diseases, etc. I'm so grossed out it's not funny. I even saw one of the webcam vids where she gave oral sex to a guy she'd just met for a nooner ...during her regular work day. She met him at her home just to do it.
I find it hard to have any confidence that someone who has spent over half a year just screwing anything in sight, w/o descrimination, can be trustworthy.
What would YOU do if you were in situation? I have a little boy that I want to bestow a trustworthy mommy...and I'm so grossed out. Especially that lesbian menage a trois and sharing the male ..*gag*
So, I've known her since March. I have huge morals relative to what most people I've met considering sex. I've only had two partners before. Both were long-term, as in 3+ yrs and the ex-wife. So I have custody as well, of a five year old little boy. (If I bounce around, sorry! Hard to be concise.)
Anyway, I just found out that my new woman, who seems perfect, was having an online affair with a guy during the last few months of her marriage. She was doing webcam shows, sexual and explicit..clearly. The other guy was in another country. Given my divorce, I found that 'a bit disturbing' to say the least. . .
Then I discover that after her divorce, which was last October, she had been on Sexsearch and Adult Friend Finder..and who knows what else. She had screwed at least 15 people. Married guys, horny guys, etc. She also had menage a trois with her female best friend and that friend's live-in boyfriend. The did the lesbian type menage, along with both having intercourse etc with the male. One of her many AFF guy f-buddies was a bisexual male.
She says (after I found all this proof in her recklessly left paper trail on the computer desk) that she stopped screwing guys just 2 days before meeting me and my son.
My problem is I'd never have met her had I known. ALL those diseases, etc. I'm so grossed out it's not funny. I even saw one of the webcam vids where she gave oral sex to a guy she'd just met for a nooner ...during her regular work day. She met him at her home just to do it.
I find it hard to have any confidence that someone who has spent over half a year just screwing anything in sight, w/o descrimination, can be trustworthy.
What would YOU do if you were in situation? I have a little boy that I want to bestow a trustworthy mommy...and I'm so grossed out. Especially that lesbian menage a trois and sharing the male ..*gag*
