Hi im 16 with a baby. me and mygf gets into arguments every damn day. Here is my schedule that she makes for me. morning i call her at 7 30. i go to school. i call her at break. then at lunch. if i dont im screwing around. Then the bell rings for school to be finished at 2 50 and i have to call at 2 51 or im with my "gf". which i dont have a gf at school. my baby ma ma goes to school in another city and i go in downey. she is so damn insecure. i only see her once or twice a week. the on monday i got rop until 5 30 so i gata call at 5 31. i get home and tired as hell and talk to her until 6. then on tuesday i dont got rop. so i could talk top her all day till 5 30 the problem is. when she calls me at 5 31 or i do she gets all mad when she hears girls in the back round then she starts talking shyt what girl r u wit hows your gf did u f her. and im like wtf. after that i dont wanna talk to her then shes all mad n then i gata say something to make her all feel better wat type a shyt is that. this happens every single day. what should i say "bullshyt" i should say to make her all feel better.
16 with a baby
Wow. Having a baby is a huge responsibility. Add to that your age, and you have a really unfortunate situation. The keys to any relationship are wide open channels of communication. You need to let her know that you are not going to leave her, and you won't be screwing around with other women. I think she does have some grounding in her fears. It seems that you are not there for her and the baby as much as she would like. I understand you are tired, and it seems like you don't have much extra time, but perhaps your time would be better spent in person with her rather than on the phone. This would let her know who you are putting first in life. Good luck!
Though you are only 16......you have mentioned your problem pretty nicely......I wonder what's the age of your wife.....
The best way to get rid of those problems is to fulfill the responsibilities as perfectly as you can. If she has lot of belief and faith on you, she would not suspect that way. If she is suspecting, you are giving her ground. Look on yourself and think where you have missed your responsibilities!
The best way to get rid of those problems is to fulfill the responsibilities as perfectly as you can. If she has lot of belief and faith on you, she would not suspect that way. If she is suspecting, you are giving her ground. Look on yourself and think where you have missed your responsibilities!
Have you tried relationship conselling or reading some relationship books? I found that they help personally.
no way you are in 16 and have baby if you here in egypt you should to get married at 24 or older
if you are rich ,,,, where are you from ?
if you are rich ,,,, where are you from ?
| daddyat16 wrote: |
| Hi im 16 with a baby. me and mygf gets into arguments every damn day. Here is my schedule that she makes for me. morning i call her at 7 30. i go to school. i call her at break. then at lunch. if i dont im screwing around. Then the bell rings for school to be finished at 2 50 and i have to call at 2 51 or im with my "gf". which i dont have a gf at school. my baby ma ma goes to school in another city and i go in downey. she is so damn insecure. i only see her once or twice a week. the on monday i got rop until 5 30 so i gata call at 5 31. i get home and tired as hell and talk to her until 6. then on tuesday i dont got rop. so i could talk top her all day till 5 30 the problem is. when she calls me at 5 31 or i do she gets all mad when she hears girls in the back round then she starts talking shyt what girl r u wit hows your gf did u f her. and im like wtf. after that i dont wanna talk to her then shes all mad n then i gata say something to make her all feel better wat type a shyt is that. this happens every single day. what should i say "bullshyt" i should say to make her all feel better. |
Perhaps you need some serious counselling, both of you. If things are so difficult for you, imagine what it must be like for her. With a baby. Can't be easy for her, and perhaps not for you either. Maybe you need to see a counsellor together to work out how you are going to deal with this, as obviously you have a great responsibility that should be bigger than your own problems, so if you can deal with your own problems better, then the bigger responsibility would be easier to bear.
Sounds like someone i know....
One question. Has she had the baby yet or is she still pregnant? If she is still pregnant, the worst is to come, and don't worry about it, it is just hormones. If she has had the baby.... you need some counseling.
One question. Has she had the baby yet or is she still pregnant? If she is still pregnant, the worst is to come, and don't worry about it, it is just hormones. If she has had the baby.... you need some counseling.condoms suck but they prevent this problem...not that its a problem just you know you shouldnt be in this boat at your age.
im very happy of ryou
See some family councelling. This cannot go on!
Why is she so insecure? Was she insecure before she met you? Or did you do something that made her mistrust you?
You guys are the babys role models! You have to start acting as adults! And giving the baby a safe home!
Remember; even if you have a baby together, you do not have to be a couple the rest of your lifes. If she doesn't change her behaviour, you are going to go mad, and the baby will think this behaviour is normal.
Good luck!
Why is she so insecure? Was she insecure before she met you? Or did you do something that made her mistrust you?
You guys are the babys role models! You have to start acting as adults! And giving the baby a safe home!
Remember; even if you have a baby together, you do not have to be a couple the rest of your lifes. If she doesn't change her behaviour, you are going to go mad, and the baby will think this behaviour is normal.
Good luck!
Jees 16 - i'm 31 and still thinmk i'm too young for kids...
I've not really got any advice as i've never been in this situation - even at 16 when I was in a relationship I gave my boyfriend space to grow and be his own person. At your age your still maturing and developing your own unique personality - you might grow closer or you might grow apart but there should be no pressure at your age.
It's healthy to see each other 2 or 3 times a week but not to be calling and checking in on each other all the time - she really needs to get some help if your kept on that short a leash... my partner is 35 and if he called me every 5 mins - we'll he'd be taking the high road no matter how much I loved him - love does not stick to deadlines..
You'll have to do some serious reasuring but hey - your 16 (not legal to drive, drink, smoke, get a mortgage, get a loan, get a real job) so why the hell are you worring about your girlfriend - you've plenty of time to worry about stuff like that when you grow up.. just be there for your baby and ask your family for some support... if the girl has issues get out..
I've not really got any advice as i've never been in this situation - even at 16 when I was in a relationship I gave my boyfriend space to grow and be his own person. At your age your still maturing and developing your own unique personality - you might grow closer or you might grow apart but there should be no pressure at your age.
It's healthy to see each other 2 or 3 times a week but not to be calling and checking in on each other all the time - she really needs to get some help if your kept on that short a leash... my partner is 35 and if he called me every 5 mins - we'll he'd be taking the high road no matter how much I loved him - love does not stick to deadlines..
You'll have to do some serious reasuring but hey - your 16 (not legal to drive, drink, smoke, get a mortgage, get a loan, get a real job) so why the hell are you worring about your girlfriend - you've plenty of time to worry about stuff like that when you grow up.. just be there for your baby and ask your family for some support... if the girl has issues get out..
so far you have gotten some great advice...get some counseling.
also the questions asked above...how old is the 'baby mama', was she always insecure, did she have the baby yet (if so how long)...these are important facts that anyone must have before attempting to give any advice.
I had a baby at 16 and it was very very VERY tough, most of the time I have no clue how I got through everyday. If you need to further talk...seek a counselor close by or send me a message. I'd be more than happy to share my story with you.
also the questions asked above...how old is the 'baby mama', was she always insecure, did she have the baby yet (if so how long)...these are important facts that anyone must have before attempting to give any advice.
I had a baby at 16 and it was very very VERY tough, most of the time I have no clue how I got through everyday. If you need to further talk...seek a counselor close by or send me a message. I'd be more than happy to share my story with you.
You can do for her every that she wants, i don't know take her to the park, buy her some toys.
Be happy in front of her.
But you have to know that he must to do his thinks, i would tell him that he must to ocuppate about his baby, you don't have to be his mother and his father at the same time he must to choose a way.
Be happy in front of her.
But you have to know that he must to do his thinks, i would tell him that he must to ocuppate about his baby, you don't have to be his mother and his father at the same time he must to choose a way.
| daddyat16 wrote: |
| Hi im 16 with a baby. me and mygf gets into arguments every damn day. Here is my schedule that she makes for me. morning i call her at 7 30. i go to school. i call her at break. then at lunch. if i dont im screwing around. Then the bell rings for school to be finished at 2 50 and i have to call at 2 51 or im with my "gf". which i dont have a gf at school. my baby ma ma goes to school in another city and i go in downey. she is so damn insecure. i only see her once or twice a week. the on monday i got rop until 5 30 so i gata call at 5 31. i get home and tired as hell and talk to her until 6. then on tuesday i dont got rop. so i could talk top her all day till 5 30 the problem is. when she calls me at 5 31 or i do she gets all mad when she hears girls in the back round then she starts talking shyt what girl r u wit hows your gf did u f her. and im like wtf. after that i dont wanna talk to her then shes all mad n then i gata say something to make her all feel better wat type a shyt is that. this happens every single day. what should i say "bullshyt" i should say to make her all feel better. |
That is unfortunate that you have to grow up so fast. But that's life. I would feel as insecure as she does. I had a long distance relationship with my husband (when we were dating) and we didn't even have a baby, but I would still feel very insecure if he went out with friends...and he was really good and I even trusted him a lot, but the insecurity feeling is always there and you have to make sure your gf knows you love her, no matter how many times a day you have to tell her I Love you, just do it. And be honest and open with her. Tell her that it makes you uncomfortable that she doesn't trust you and try to find a way where both of you are comfortable.
Good luck!
Good luck!
First of all, I wont judge you for being 16 and with a baby, I myself was pregnant at the age of 16, I am now 18 and I can definitley relate to what your going through, your girlfriend like you said is very insecure, but the question should be do you have another girlfriend beside her, because I know you stated that you dont have a girlfriend in school, but do you have another one outside of school, then if so then she has a reason to be suspicious, If dont then I think you need to tell her, just straight out say you need to stop with all of your insecurities becaues your gonna drive me away, if you really want to stay with her explain to her that your not trying to be with anyone else, you and her have a baby together and that your main focus right now is her and your child, and also you need to let her know, and I had this similar problem with my boyfriend that if she doesnt give you time to miss her, then your going to eventually really get tired of her, if you talk to her every freaking second and every freaking time she wants, she smothering you, give you some space, but be sure to let her know that your not going anywhere, that your gonna still be there for her and the baby. Make her understand that she's pushing you away.
I guess, people are wondering about the kids education and life in general of the new family. Most just might be worried, that you might not be able to afford a life with a kid in your age and once you get older. I personally would try to get help (financial) maybe government or some official places
Well, I think that this situation is uncomfortable to everybody, even to me, but Its a great chance to show maturity and responsability. I would prefer have a children when I'm 25-27, but I think destiny hurry up everything
From your description I could see that you are pretty annoyed by her insecurity. If she is as young or younger than you, I could understand her reasons for being insecure. (Having a baby, not being able to see the baby's father most of the time, having to cope with stress at school, fear that people would see her negatively since she is a mother at such a young age) Likewise, i could also understand why you are annoyed. (Having to bear the responsibility of being a father at the age of 16, having to cope with stress at school as well, feeling of not being trusted, not having time to yourself)
Communication is very important for your current situation right now. But from experience and observation, if the two of you discuss this over the phone or either of you are not willing to compromise and listen to what the other person has to say, it will only turn out to be a quarrel. Like what the other posts, I would agree that the two of you might need some relationship counseling by a certified professional.
Communication is very important for your current situation right now. But from experience and observation, if the two of you discuss this over the phone or either of you are not willing to compromise and listen to what the other person has to say, it will only turn out to be a quarrel. Like what the other posts, I would agree that the two of you might need some relationship counseling by a certified professional.
Even if you have told your story in here, I can't tell what exactly you're feeling. So, before finish reading this post, choose between making things simpler or not.
1- Do you love your kid? It's not just Y or N. Go deep about it, take some days to answer.
If not: send it to adoption. There are a lot of want-to-be daddies and mommies ready to take it and give'Im a good life.
if yes: fight for your family happiness. You've done the most difficult thing so far: having the baby under this conditions, which is noble. Not having an abortion was a very nice thing you could do, and you did!
1- Do you love your kid? It's not just Y or N. Go deep about it, take some days to answer.
If not: send it to adoption. There are a lot of want-to-be daddies and mommies ready to take it and give'Im a good life.
if yes: fight for your family happiness. You've done the most difficult thing so far: having the baby under this conditions, which is noble. Not having an abortion was a very nice thing you could do, and you did!
| daddyat16 wrote: |
| Hi im 16 with a baby. me and mygf gets into arguments every damn day. Here is my schedule that she makes for me. morning i call her at 7 30. i go to school. i call her at break. then at lunch. if i dont im screwing around. Then the bell rings for school to be finished at 2 50 and i have to call at 2 51 or im with my "gf". which i dont have a gf at school. my baby ma ma goes to school in another city and i go in downey. she is so damn insecure. i only see her once or twice a week. the on monday i got rop until 5 30 so i gata call at 5 31. i get home and tired as hell and talk to her until 6. then on tuesday i dont got rop. so i could talk top her all day till 5 30 the problem is. when she calls me at 5 31 or i do she gets all mad when she hears girls in the back round then she starts talking shyt what girl r u wit hows your gf did u f her. and im like wtf. after that i dont wanna talk to her then shes all mad n then i gata say something to make her all feel better wat type a shyt is that. this happens every single day. what should i say "bullshyt" i should say to make her all feel better. |
It's really tiring. Anyone have to bear more with a baby .But taking care of baby is a holy thing .
Both of you are still children and not ready for a child at all, but it too late to say this now and you have to make the best of things.
I think you should try talking to her, serious talking and if it helps, have adults around just to stop you two from arguing /shouting. shouting don't solve problem and only makes things worst.
Who is taking care of your baby while both of you are at school?
I would feel insecure too, if I was at the age, I think she really fighten, especially if she thinks she'll end up by herself with a baby and no support (and I don't mean money support). have patient with her, even if she is annoying (which she does sound so)
Can you two live together for the sake of the baby? you have to ask yourself how much you love your child, both of you, not just her. ask youself why else does she feel insure, are you a lady man type which have girls hidden around the corner or something?
Can either of your parents help with the baby? can you give up the baby? you have to think what is best for the baby first before solving your own problems in your relationship and you have to agree to your decision. baby don't accept mistakes.
I wish you best of luck
I think you should try talking to her, serious talking and if it helps, have adults around just to stop you two from arguing /shouting. shouting don't solve problem and only makes things worst.
Who is taking care of your baby while both of you are at school?
I would feel insecure too, if I was at the age, I think she really fighten, especially if she thinks she'll end up by herself with a baby and no support (and I don't mean money support). have patient with her, even if she is annoying (which she does sound so)
Can you two live together for the sake of the baby? you have to ask yourself how much you love your child, both of you, not just her. ask youself why else does she feel insure, are you a lady man type which have girls hidden around the corner or something?
Can either of your parents help with the baby? can you give up the baby? you have to think what is best for the baby first before solving your own problems in your relationship and you have to agree to your decision. baby don't accept mistakes.
I wish you best of luck
Where is the topic starter?? 
He hasn't check back ever since.
He hasn't check back ever since.First of all, stop complaining. Of course it's difficult to have a gf like that, but it sounds like she is the one that has to take care of the child, which is more work than having to call.
maybe you should have thought about what you were doing before you both ended up in bed together at that age, I don't care what excuse you might have, or anyone else who have sex at that age, you should all use your heads.
She should also seek some help for extreme jealousy and insecurity, she should also get some help for her situation as a mother, most young students would maybe have problems with handling the situation. You said she goes to school somewhere else, so she has things to think about to.
Both of you took a decision where both of you ended up in a situation you probably didn't really want. GROW UP, it's not about you any more, you were stupid enough to have sex with someone and now there is a small baby in this world which isn't lucky enough to have parents that are mature yet. You have to take the consequentness for your actions.
maybe you should have thought about what you were doing before you both ended up in bed together at that age, I don't care what excuse you might have, or anyone else who have sex at that age, you should all use your heads.
She should also seek some help for extreme jealousy and insecurity, she should also get some help for her situation as a mother, most young students would maybe have problems with handling the situation. You said she goes to school somewhere else, so she has things to think about to.
Both of you took a decision where both of you ended up in a situation you probably didn't really want. GROW UP, it's not about you any more, you were stupid enough to have sex with someone and now there is a small baby in this world which isn't lucky enough to have parents that are mature yet. You have to take the consequentness for your actions.
if you can live with your decision/don't get too emotional, ditch her as soon as you can. you can also try explaining your plan to her, of getting a good job, then trying to support em.
i wanted a baby at 16 but it never happend im now 22 and still no kid and no its not because im full of blanks its because i thought about it and would i really want to be stuck indoors at 22.. nope but on the other hand i think to have a baby younger is better you get to see your kids grow older before you die even if it if for a few years alot could happen in a few years so people that have babys at 15 - 16 i have nothing to say about that but then again if your at school your daft finish school first at least
but on the other hand i think to have a baby younger is better you get to see your kids grow older before you die even if it if for a few years alot could happen in a few years so people that have babys at 15 - 16 i have nothing to say about that but then again if your at school your daft finish school first at leastOh, here where I live that's common :/ Girls who are 12, 13, 14, 15, 16 years old get pregnant...well, most of them are gipsies, but still...
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