How do I deal with it with my friend?
He's a guy who I don't hang much with, but I still consider him a friend as we run into each other in the clubs often and even outside once in a while...
He brought a girl to the club, but did not hang with her too much, so I thought friend? We kind of hit it off really good.
Later when dancing with her, he comes by and gives a surprised smile, and then I knew he was "interested" in her.
So I back off, and let him take his chance.
Later I apologize to my friend, because I would hate it too if I brought a girl and someone else started hitting on her, and so we're cool. He asked her out as a "friend" thing, hoping it would turn to more, but he never took her out again, so I guess nothing happened.
A week later, I run into her at the mall, and apologize to her too for interrupting their date, and she says no, they were not on a date, and that he's just a friend. Now then and there, I'm heading to eat, but I choose not to ask her to join me, nor do I even ask her number out of some "guy code honor".
I just say she should come out again sometime.
Well, next club night, she shows up....but with my friend, cuz she's unfamiliar with the place, and he was the only one she knew who could take her.
Well, we seem to hit it off again, and she talks to others about how I'm her "dance partner". Another guy friend asks her to dance, she looks to me and says to my friend to ask me, and then I say no, you have to ask my friend (the one who came with her). She's also leaning into me, sometimes, in front of him. I try to keep my distance, and I sit by myself, and she comes to sit by me, and then he comes...God it was awkward.
I would have loved to play up on this, but I know my friend is attracted to her, so I try to keep my distance.
He puts his arm around her once in a while.
I ask her if they are going out, and she re-iterates that he's just a friend. Well, I'm thinking of asking her number, but now they are leaving. I don't have the heart to ask for her number in front of my friend, so I just ask when she'll come out again, but she beats me to it and asks for my number...in front of him....
Later, as luck would have it, I run into her at the gym, and also ask her again about her situation with my friend, and she says they are only friends. I say I think he likes you, and she says no, and wonders why I keep pushing her to him.
Well, that does it, I asked her number, and I ask her out....
How do I break it to my friend?
Was I out of line, that is, do you think I violated the fictitious "guy code of honor"?
In the end, I don't care...she seems special and I want to get to know her better...
He's a guy who I don't hang much with, but I still consider him a friend as we run into each other in the clubs often and even outside once in a while...
He brought a girl to the club, but did not hang with her too much, so I thought friend? We kind of hit it off really good.
Later when dancing with her, he comes by and gives a surprised smile, and then I knew he was "interested" in her.
So I back off, and let him take his chance.
Later I apologize to my friend, because I would hate it too if I brought a girl and someone else started hitting on her, and so we're cool. He asked her out as a "friend" thing, hoping it would turn to more, but he never took her out again, so I guess nothing happened.
A week later, I run into her at the mall, and apologize to her too for interrupting their date, and she says no, they were not on a date, and that he's just a friend. Now then and there, I'm heading to eat, but I choose not to ask her to join me, nor do I even ask her number out of some "guy code honor".
I just say she should come out again sometime.
Well, next club night, she shows up....but with my friend, cuz she's unfamiliar with the place, and he was the only one she knew who could take her.
Well, we seem to hit it off again, and she talks to others about how I'm her "dance partner". Another guy friend asks her to dance, she looks to me and says to my friend to ask me, and then I say no, you have to ask my friend (the one who came with her). She's also leaning into me, sometimes, in front of him. I try to keep my distance, and I sit by myself, and she comes to sit by me, and then he comes...God it was awkward.
I would have loved to play up on this, but I know my friend is attracted to her, so I try to keep my distance.
He puts his arm around her once in a while.
I ask her if they are going out, and she re-iterates that he's just a friend. Well, I'm thinking of asking her number, but now they are leaving. I don't have the heart to ask for her number in front of my friend, so I just ask when she'll come out again, but she beats me to it and asks for my number...in front of him....
Later, as luck would have it, I run into her at the gym, and also ask her again about her situation with my friend, and she says they are only friends. I say I think he likes you, and she says no, and wonders why I keep pushing her to him.
Well, that does it, I asked her number, and I ask her out....
How do I break it to my friend?
Was I out of line, that is, do you think I violated the fictitious "guy code of honor"?
In the end, I don't care...she seems special and I want to get to know her better...
